Joan Wheeler keeps spreading the same tired lies about my father again. November 14, 2013Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
Tags: abuse, blaming people for your own mess, dishonesty, embellishing the truth, false accusations, Lies, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements, spreading untruths
on this blog http://danielibnzayd.wordpress.com/2013/11/07/does-anything-anyone-say-about-adoption-hurt-you-anymore/#comment-427 Joan Wheeler (@forbiddenfamily) says: November 13, 2013 at 10:18 pm says:
I think that when people, the general public, adoptive parents in particular, call an adoptee’s other mother a “birthmother” this negates what she truly is: that adoptee’s mother. Having said that, I want to share that yes, I am still hurt by what others say about adoption. Beyond the hurt are the truths that are ignored. People continually use the words they hear in conversation, they inflict those words onto me. I correct them. No, I say, I do not have a “birthmother” or a “first mother”. My MOTHER died when I was an infant, I tell them. My MOTHER was replaced by another woman. And my FATHER was replaced by another man. These two people became my adoptive parents, and as such, they are the ones who deserve the adjective in front of the words “mother”, “father” and “parents”. These two people are my social parents. They are my legal parents, but the two people who sired and gave birth to me are my parents. Period. When I approach the topic in this way, in one-on-one conversation, with boots on the ground, I can tell you that people receiving my words are truly shocked into reality: this woman’s MOTHER died and that’s why she was adopted. The expressions on their faces tells me that they understand. They then say to me, “I’m so sorry for your loss. How tragic.” Yes. The death of my mother is tragic. And so is the punishment I received: removal from my family of birth because my father was too poor to keep me. And let me add another variable into the larger discourse: religion. A Catholic priest so compassionately reminded my father at my mother’s funeral that “the baby needs two parents” that my devout Catholic father followed exactly what his parish priest suggested. My grieving father relinquished his youngest child to a closed adoption because that was a better solution, better than asking for help to keep his family together, better than having his second wife take care of all of his children while he went to work. It must have killed him to come home each day to his older children, filled with grief and despair. He had kept his family together by getting married very soon after his first wife’s death, but at the cost of giving up his newborn daughter, a choice he told me decades later that he regretted. So, when people tell me their joys of adoption, I am hurt. And then I tell them what adoption did to me. My broken families are not the only truth I hit them with. I slam them with the truth that my real birth certificate is sealed and that every single adoptee in America is issued a falsified birth certificate. People are just not aware. … sorry for rambling. Just in a rush today.
I answered, but doubt that it will get posted, because all those angry adoptees all have their heads up their asses:
as usual, Joan gets the facts of what happened at my mom’s funeral wrong. I was only 3, but I heard from many relatives what happened. Including my own father. It is strange that Joan forgot to blast my mother’s sister here because it was she who suggested the adoption in the first place – because her childhood friend was the sister of the man who adopted Joan. It was my aunt Catherine who approached my father with the idea of adoption. My father then asked our parish priest for advice. It was not done at the funeral.
Also – my father was NOT poor. He worked for the City of Buffalo as a civil engineer. He worked in the Streets Paving Department drawing up blueprints and plans of the city’s streets. Joan routinely spins this web of lies and even goes around saying my father was a high school dropout. Which, actually was true – BUT she doesn’t say WHY! BECAUSE LIKE MANY OTHER YOUNG MEN AT THE TIME MY FATHER LEFT SCHOOL TO ENLIST IN THE ARMED FORCES TO FIGHT WORLD WAR II.
When the war was over, he went back and got his GED. He worked as a machinist in a bicycle repair shop and then went to night school for blueprint and draftsman. He was hired by the city of Buffalo in 1955 and worked there until he retired in 1988. Yes, my father married a second woman – so what? Lots of people get married. For the wrong reasons. So? Joan’s own marriage was hardly a work of bliss. Because my stepmother turned out to have mental problems, we remaining birth siblings and now two stepbrothers were placed in foster care on and off. After the death of his second wife, my father put a down payment on a house and gathered his kids from the foster homes. In 1965, as now, 4 teenagers and a mortgage can be really tough on the wallet. My father took a second job as a salesman at Sears. So? Lots of people work two jobs to help pay a mortgage and rear a bunch of teenagers. That hardly makes my dad “poor.”
In 1970, when I was 18, my father met and married another woman. She had two daughters and soon my brother came along. At which time, my stepmother resumed the career that she had before she had her two girls – working as a nurse’s aide. So? Lots of families have two incomes. Doesn’t make them “poor.” My father and stepmother liked to travel. Because my stepmother emigrated from France and relatives both in France and Greece, they traveled to Europe frequently. So? Lots of people travel the world.
Joan has a habit of pointing out other people’s income and tries to dictate to them how they should spend their money. She did it to me. Joan and I had a joint checking account in 1989 to buy real estate. For the expenses of real estate brokers, lawyer fees etc. It was MY money – $4000.00 I put in. For real estate. Joan was dipping into it to fix her car. But her husband had a job. We dissolved the idea of buying real estate and after figuring out how much was used for legitimate reasons, I was shorted out hundreds of dollars – Joan took MY money – STOLE IT. A lawyer’s refund was being sent to us – split in half and Joan agreed since it was my money in the first place, when she got her check – she would give it to me. It was MY money after all. BUT when the time came – she said she was keeping it – MY money – to buy a xmas tree for her kids. I said Keep it – but I don’t want to see you again. Joan’s husband worked. Joan refused to get a job. Joan sees Ruth and her husband working. Ruth and her husband have no kids. Ruth and her husband can afford to buy Joan’s kids xmas. Really?
MY HUSBAND AND I WORK TO PAY OUR EXPENSES NOT ANYBODY ELSE’S. I DID NOT GIVE BIRTH TO JOAN’S KIDS AND WAS NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR THEM. This is how Joan’s mind works. go ahead and not post this – I’m putting it all on MY blog anyway. – but you adoptees all think another adoptee can do no wrong – but you are all hiding your heads in the sand when you take Joan’s words as gospel truth. On my blog – I post scans of actual documents that prove what I say. Joan just runs her mouth.
gert here…of course Daniel, author of the blog that Joan wrote lies about us, will not publish our comments…but it’s save to say that he at least read them! For a smart guy he is pretty dumb! These angry adoptees don’t care whether Joan lies or not…she’s good for their program against all things adoption. Joan’s their poster-child because she had such great tall tales of pain and suffering due to her being abused by adoptive parents…oh excuse me, according to Joan they are ‘social parents’…So these angry adoptees will just continue blindly agreeing with each other and ignoring the facts that are presented to them…for you see they are not interested in truth, only in the fact that they can continue to spread their form of venom and hate
exactly Gert – these hypocritical “angry adoptees” foam at the mouth when they demand THE TRUTH. That’s what they keep saying they want. They want THE TRUTH told about their birth certificates, their geneology, their birth families, their family medical backgrounds. That is reasonable, and they should receive those truths. However, THE TRUTH does not end there – because the birth family have their own truths and facts – Joan’s warped brain needs to lay BLAME on everyone – and I mean everyone in her birth and adoptive families for her wretched life. And there are lots of people out there who are so stupid, so brainless as to think that Joan doesn’t lie. They are worthless sheeple.
2ND edition of Forbidden Family? If it contains ONE lie, I’ll see you in court Joan Wheeler November 12, 2013Posted by Ruth in Contradictions of Joan Wheeler, Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Lies in the book Forbidden Family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
Tags: abuse, contradictions, dishonesty, harassment, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements
In recent months, Joan Wheeler has been working on a “second edition” of her “autobiography” Forbidden Family.
The first edition was yanked from publication because of the serious LEGAL problems with it – slander and libel; unauthorized use of somebody’s picture. Her lame attempt to disguise my name, while publishing her own adoptive and birth name, my mother’s real name, my father’s real last name and publishing the name of a publication and an article (written by Joan in the early 1990′s) that had my real name in it. Much of the first chapter of her book was taken from this article.
Joan writes on her website that her book is “truthful.” Yet her book contains bold-faced lies. Lies that are proven as such by actual Buffalo City Court documents, and hand-written letters by Joan herself.
The court documents were sent to Trafford Publications and in May 2011, Trafford’s legal department ruled that Joan VIOLATED her contract with them: mainly that she said her “truthful” book was the truth and that she was the sole copyright of the book and all it’s content. Since my documentation proved she committed libel and used my photograph without my knowledge or consent, her book was pulled.
I cannot believe that Joan’s second edition will be an improvement. Because if she changes anything, it will contradict her statement that the first edition is “truthful.” Because the truth can NOT be changed. Anybody who thinks the truth is changeable is an out and out asshole.
Does Joan think her second book is going to pass my scrutiny? Because if I find even ONE lie in it about me, I will be suing her ass. And I will view any further lies as an act of harassment against me, and I will file harassment charges against her again.
And now I have a foot in the court door Joan – you may have gotten away with calling my job with false accusations about computer fraud because the judge basically pooh-poohed it. (July, 2013). But this time honey – the proof will be on the pages of your lying book. I WILL SEE YOU IN COURT JOAN WHEELER! AND THAT’S THE TRUTH.
gert here…and I SECOND this! Any and all materials that Joan Wheeler writes about OUR FAMILY will be looked at with a fine-tooth comb and magnifying glass! We OWN that first libelous book and we will OWN anything else that she writes that is not 100 percent truth…NOT HER VIEWPOINT but the truth. A person does not get the right to write anything, from their point of view, their feelings, etc, against REALITY AND TRUTH. so be VERY VERY CAREFUL JOAN WHEELER.
Joan certainly is a glutton for punishment. If she is looking for a beatdown, then she’s got it. And that is no threat to any physical beating – it is not a threat at all. It is a PROMISE – of a legal beat down and this time, I will sue her for everything she has – I will own her house. And once I do – I will evict her. She tried in the past to destroy my life – my career – my marriage – and she failed every time. She even failed in her last attempt to fuck me on my job – because stupid bitch forgot that my employer’s computer security team could check what I do. Her stupid and false accusation of computer fraud and misuse (November 2012) was checked and I was found innocent.
Make no mistake Joan – I own you. And you gave yourself to me with your ridiculous lies and schemes.
Gert Mcqueen – her sugar-daddy must have some kind of influence/$$ for her to think that she can get another book on us
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace – don’t know about that – all I can see is her fucking delusions surfacing again. SHE is going to put out HER book and to hell with us. That’s how she is thinking. But this is going to blow up in her face.
that book has nothing to do with adoption reform at all – her motive for it, was the intentional trashing of anyone in her life that ever pissed her off. Her continued attempts to fuck with me – calling my job repeatedly in 1994-95, calling child abuse on herself, posing as me, writing letters to John at his mom’s house telling him to leave me – are all indicative of this. She hates me and her book is nothing but a way to get at me. But she has failed and this is another example of her mental illness.
Gert Mcqueen – her delusions are surfacing because she’s got a sugar-daddy! personally I’m not too concerned about this cause I know that I’M NOT DONE EXPOSING EVERYTHING I have on her…in fact I got to finish up a draft to get it on the blog…tonight! She not only has delusions, she is delusional…NO PUBLISHER will print from her…and unless she’s willing to really self-publish it ain’t going to get done, but then again, if she did self-publish it…the range of media EXPOSURE from us will still do the same as we did already.
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace – exactly Gert – even if she cons another publisher, that publisher will hear from us – and the outcome will be the same as it was for the first book – the complete pulling of the book. Amazon.com already knows about the “problems” with this author – and any website that would carry it will be notified that the book is libelous. Any publisher will also be held liable by me for publishing any lie about me – I stand to make a lot in monetary damages.
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace – as to the sugar daddy – I think he may be gone – because her attention seems to be focused on me and bitch Laura is feeding her shit. That’s all right. Laura is an ass – is inconsequential to me, and I dismiss that little child.
I want to extend a hearty thank you to Joan – for her stupidly handing me this to me on a silver platter.
Joan, you foolish child – by calling my job in November 2012 with a false accusation of computer fraud/misuse, you gave me the opportunity to file charges on you.
The judge pooh-poohed it because he thought it was silly nonsense. However, the publication of a libelous book is a different matter.
Many people who put out libelous material get sued. Your continued lying about me will show the judge that you are, and have been engaged in a smear campaign against me and my reputation. Your admission to calling my job back in 1994-95 and the letter that I have that you wrote to Mr. Peter S. (then director of patient accounts) will show that you have indeed been engaged in a 20 year smear campaign against me.
The judge dismissed my charges against you in July 2013. BUT if you publish a book after that date, that contains lies about me, my lawyer and I will be able to show the judge that you are still harassing me in print.
Hold on your socks and pull!
Overthinking, imagining, speculating, fantasizing – then reporting those erroneous thoughts as fact – this is what Joan Wheeler does on a daily basis November 10, 2013Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family.
Tags: abuse, blaming people for your own mess, contradictions, embellishing the truth, false accusations, gossip, Lies, mental illness, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements, spreading untruths, stupidity
This is what Joan Wheeler does – she overthinks, speculates, projects the way SHE would react to a problem onto others, imagines how that person would react, speculates on how that person thinks and acts, thereby creating a fantasy, then begins to actually believe that fantasy, then reports that fantasy as FACT. - Meanwhile, the person she has dreamed up this shit about hasn’t a clue as to what Joan is talking about, is pissed because now a lie is being told about them, calls Joan out on it, gets yelled at, phone slammed on them – and then the whole incident is reported as the other person has now “harassed” Joan and is “interfering with her life.” Joan then escalates the telling of her fantasy, now lying about the person, and the person is left wondering what the hell they did!
like the shit time I called her to tell her Aunt Doris died. (November 3, 2009) After reading email about it, I call my father. Joan should know, she was named after Aunt Doris. Did Dad still have Joan’s phone #? (because a few months prior he kicked her out of his house and life). Yes he did. He was tired. Should Ruth place call? Yes, says Dad. So she does –
Joan – how did you get this number?
Ruth – from Dad.
Joan – NOT a good idea.
Ruth – whatever, look, Aunt Doris died. We thought you should know.
Joan – thank you for that, but —-$%^$#@*&^^?)(&&%$$^ AND DON’T FUCKING CALL ME AGAIN.
Ruth slams phone down and bursts into tears. Goes to cousin Nancy’s house and Nancy calms her down. Then Ruth goes to Dad’s house, where dad says, “Joan is mentally ill.” meanwhile, Joan calls Town of Tonawanda police – Gert, Kathy and Ruth are calling her on the phone harassing her. on the spirit of my miscarried son, I swear this is what happened. – But Joan tells a completely different story. why? – cos she’s nuts. should be committed.
How does ONE phone call, placed by Ruth, get reported to the police that Ruth, Gert AND Kathy as placing phone calls to Joan? Go back to the beginning of this post and learn how Joan’s fucked up brain works, er, DOESN’T work. Because, just because Joan thinks something, that doesn’t make it true.
- 1. gertmcqueen
Gert here…excellent post!! I hope the links I put here come in, if not just go to the date, August 18, 2011, on my blog and read them…they are ALL good examples of how Joan does this overthinking and imagining…it is HOW her brain works!
http:/gertmcqueen.wordpress.com/Joan Wheeler’s own behavior….exhibit A on August 18, 2011
http:/gertmcqueen.wordpress.com/Joan Wheeler’s own behavior….exhibit B on August 18, 2011
http:/gertmcqueen.wordpress.com/Joan Wheeler’s own behavior….exhibit C on August 18, 2011
Oh NO! Gert and I are collecting movies on DVD! Quick now, throw us in jail, Joan Wheeler! November 6, 2013Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Lies in the book Forbidden Family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
Tags: abuse, being downright nasty, emotional abuse, harassment, Lies, whining
Oh NO! Gert and I are collecting movies on DVD! Quick now, throw us in jail, Joan Wheeler!
On page 302 of her filthy lying book, Joan Wheeler condemns me for “collecting movies.” She uses it in the context that because I didn’t have kids I was using my own money on other things. But she said it in a very rotten way. “It’s a good thing she didn’t have any children.”
Yes, at the time, I would go to the store and buy a pack of VCR tapes and tape movies off the TV. However, at that time, I had also acquired an adult dog- DOG, not cat, Joan. Her name was Brandy, three years old, a 65 pound Siberian Husky/Alaskan Malamute mix. We got her from some neighbor friends who were breaking up.
Despite my hobby of “collecting movies,” I spent over $100.00 on a dog house for my Brandy. I didn’t have a car at the time. I ordered it through the JC Penney catalog and had it delivered to my house – at extra cost for that delivery. It was so cute – a snap-together resin plastic dog house, terra cotta in color with a green roof – shaped like a log cabin with a slate roof.
Excuse me Joan – who the hell are YOU to make a comment on how I spend MY money? Money that I earn by busting my ass on something called A JOB! – Something YOU were too lazy to get. ALSO, I showed that despite my hobby of collecting movies, I was a responsible dog parent in providing the best of care for her. I took better care of her than her previous owners, who fed her commercial food for pet rodents (hamster food) with kitchen grease poured on it. Within two months, Brandy’s coat thickened and shone right up. Other neighbors noticed it and complimented me. I also bought toys for her, she got the best medical care too when she needed it – she was up all the time on her shots.
O, but in September 1986 – Joan spent money on tickets to see The Monkees when they appeared in Buffalo. Never mind she had already seen them in July 1986. But she simply had to see them a second time. Then a week later, she’s on the phone with me, crying – her electricity was getting shut off. Now they don’t shut your electricity off unless you haven’t paid it for a few months. And here is Joan, with a one year old son at home, 8 months pregnant with her daughter – and instead of paying the electric bill to provide for her child(ren) she goes to a rock concert. AND HAS THE NERVE TO WRITE IN HER FILTHY BOOK THAT I WOULD NOT BE A GOOD PARENT BECAUSE I BOUGHT BLANK VCR TAPES??? TALK ABOUT A HYPOCRITICAL BITCH!
In 2001, when Peter Jackson’s film version of the first installment of The Lord of the Rings came out, I made the switch to DVDs. I picked up a good player and have been buying DVDs ever since. I have the complete TV series of Star Trek, (original), The Animated Series, and Enterprise. Missing only one of the movies, missing only one season of ST Voyager, and have two seasons of Deep Space Nine and three seasons of ST The Next Generation.
I also have the complete TV series of Superman, Remington Steele, The Flash, Alien Nation, Buck Rogers, Earth 2, and some of The West Wing, The Paper Chase, Hill Street Blues, Fame. And the first four seasons of Ghost Hunters. I also pre-ordered (and paid for) via one of the cast members – the last season of Ghost Hunters International, which will be autographed by a couple of the cast members.
I also have the mini series Roots, Roots 2, Brideshead Revisited, Shaka Zulu, Captains and the Kings, Cosmos, Centennial, Shogun, The First Churchills. And movies! – I have gotten lots of movies, and music DVDs. And even got a music DVD that I ordered thru and he autographed for me – from my long time crush Jon Anderson of Yes. And my husband John is building up his collection too!
Well, lately, since she is now retired, Gert has been collecting DVD movies. She always enjoyed watching Star Trek, but was busy with her kids to really sit down and watch it. She recently went out and got all three season of the original series and a set of all the Star Trek movies.
From yesterday (November 5, 2013) to this morning – we were having a conversation on facebook, concerning the new fan-made Star Trek series, “Star Trek Continues.” This most excellent series just wrapped up principal photography on their second episode. Their first episode “Pilgrim of Eternity” is available for viewing on youtube. It is very good. Gert was telling me that she wanted to get through the DVDs that she already bought before she got into this series.
My last comment in our conversation is here and sums up what I truly believe was (and is) Joan’s motive in constantly putting me down for MY own life and financial decisions – JEALOUSY, PURE JEALOUSY! She looks at me, even though I have my own day-to-day struggles, and sees that I have direction and meaning in my life. HER own life has no meaning or direction.
Here is my last comment to Gert on facebook:
“oh no! just thought of something! You and I are “collecting movies!” – Better hide that info from the Nameless One, lest she condemn us for it – as she condemned me for collecting movies (particularly horror) in her book. Seems to me she was letting her f’ing jealousy come out in that condemnation. SHE had no job (lazy ass), HER husband was not bringing in the $$$ like John was, John and I didn’t have kids to suck up all our $$$, so whatever John and I were using our own hard-earned $$$ was automatically condemned by her.”
yep Joan spend decades writing about what the birth sisters did or didn’t do…like she’s in our minds…I thought that Joan wrote/writes about HER ADOPTION so why is it that she KNOWS what is right/best/wrong with us or anyone else…Joan is just a little god looking for a following! Sorry I’m the star of MY MOVIE and no one gets to write lies about me and get away with it
oh absolutely Gert – that book has hardly ANY thing on her own life – but a lot of observations on OUR lives – particularly mine.
Joan calls me Brenda in her book. Almost every other page is “BRENDA this, BRENDA that.” Was it a book for bitching about BRENDA (me) or a book about JOAN and her adoption.
Oh – I just had a memory flash! Somewhere in her stupid book, and I don’t feel like looking for the exact page right now, Joan also condemned me for whining that I didn’t have my own computer with internet at home. NOPE, I never whined. I had told her in 2003/2004 that I did not have a computer at home and relied on public computers in libraries. I could not afford to buy a home computer because I was paying a mortgage. I was (and still am) a responsible property owner. The mortgage and taxes get paid first. Then the utilities, then the car note and car insurance and then credit card bills and other bills. Then come groceries, prescriptions, food and supplies for my cat, cleaning supplies and other household goods. After all of that – THEN I’ll pick up a DVD.
My mortgage was paid off in March 2006. In June 2006, I bought my first home computer, printer, and obtained internet service. John and I also got our first cell phones at that time. In 2009, our roof sprung a leak, and we needed a total tear-off and new roof. We financed a second mortgage to pay for the new roof. We also put on a new porch three years ago, we just replaced the storm windows in the front, and are doing interior work. In time, we will put on new siding.
My husband is retired now, but once a week, still goes into the Army/Navy Surplus Store to help out in the store, to keep active, and bring in a little extra cash. I still have my job, and we are both doing hands-on work on our house and property.
What anybody does with their own time, lives or money is nobody else’s damn business. For Joan to constantly be making comments on RUTH’S life, and RUTH’S possessions in her own book is a clear indication of what I said above – JOAN IS JEALOUS OF ME – pure and simple.
Joan Wheeler condemns people who adopt their grandchildren and raises them as their own children, yet stays good buddies with a woman who did exactly that. November 5, 2013Posted by Ruth in Contradictions of Joan Wheeler, Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
Tags: contradictions, dishonesty, emotional blackmail, false accusations, harassment of an adoptee's birth family, Lies, Native American child trafficking, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements, spreading untruths, stupidity
In Gert’s new blogpost, “Joan Wheeler, angry adoptee, is a glutton for punishment, she seeks it out! Then whines when she’s called-out!” Gert outlines Joan Wheeler’s continued paranoia against us, and Joan’s accusations of harassment to her by us, when we are merely exercising our constiutional right of free speech to offer our opinion on any subject we want. It was in an internet article about a man who was adopted and raised by his grandparents, and passed off as the SON, not grandson of the adopters. And of course, Joan spoke out AGAINST that situation. To see the link to the original article go to Gert’s post.
I am not going to post Gert’s entire blogpost, only my comment to Gert’s post, because it is a blogpost in itself.
and speaking of attacks: Joan Wheeler actively engages in attacks on ME! A year ago, November 2012, I visited amazon.com – on my home computer in my home. I work the night shift – 7pm to 7am. On my nights off, I keep that same schedule. I go to bed at 6 or 7am. so if I’m posting somewhere on the internet at 4am, does not automatically mean I’m at work. BUT Joan, in a repeat of what she did to me in 1994-95, in trying to attack me and get me fired from my job – writes a letter to my job, accusing me of computer fraud and misuse. The letter arrived just after Thanksgiving, 2012. I wasn’t told about it until January 2013. In the meanwhile, my employer’s computer security team investigated me, and EXONERATED ME. However, Joan, in her stupidity, goes on the internet (Huffington.com) and admits to being the one who sent the letter. I immediately charged her with harassment. After several delays – we finally battled it out in court on July 23, 2013. Unfortunatly, the judge, as with so many other court officials, pooh-poohed the severity of my enduring 25 years of harassment from my own sister. They have the mindset that sister’s should get along. They have their heads up their asses and this is why some bullies get away with their shit year after year. We are all aware that mentally ill people have more rights then the rest of us, and my harassment charge was dismissed. But Joan LIED on the stand and I detail those lies in this post: “Joan Wheeler perjures herself TWICE on the stand today, July 23, 2013.”
Now, a week before we went for that final court date, I was “followed” on facebook by a Thomas Heath – who after I investigated him, and outed him, UNfollowed and blocked me. Tom is the husband of a former cow-worker, Laura Heath, with whom I had a small spat with back in May 2010. Laura, being the little idiot that she is, runs immediately to Joan’s facebook page and becomes facebook friends with. Never mind that she never met Joan, and only knew of her thru my bitching about her and her now-dead lying book. (“The enemy of my enemy is my friend.”) In three years, I had barely thought of Laura, then all of a sudden her husband comes into my life – just a week before Joan and I go to court? And there’s evidence on Joan’s facebook page that Laura and Joan are planning on going out for coffee?
So when Joan herself is not actively attacking us, she lies to other people, whines to them, shed tears, that her rotten birth sisters, Ruth in particular, is HARASSING HER. And these stupid brainless people just melt at the sight of Joan’s tears and willingly go along with harassing me.
Brian Maloney for one. Actually threatens on HIS attack blog against us, to expose a dark dirty secret that I have. When he did that, I filed an extension harassment charge, in conjunction to the one I had going against Joan, but the judge (the same one who has been overseeing the case since January 2013) said that Joan was not responsible for Brian’s action and that I could pursue criminal charges against Brian on his own actions. When I informed Brian of this, via my blog, I told him that I will not be held to emotional blackmail and that if he knows my dark dirty secret to spit it out. BUT I warned him – the police and the courts will not look kindly on a strange man telling a woman’s secrets on the internet. What those secrets are, I don’t know. I don’t have any. Brian is a stranger to me because he never met me, nor spoken to me face-to-face, and relys only on Joan’s lies about me. And this my friends, is a continuing ATTACK of Joan – against me. Lies to a strange man and tells him Ruth’s “secrets” and then Ruth gets threathened with blackmail. Cries to Laura that Ruth is taking her to court and all of a sudden, Laura’s husband gets involved in Ruth’s life. Never mind that Ruth has never met Laura’s husband. see my blog post “I am outing Thomas D. Heath and Laura J. Stickney-Heath as stalkers and troublemakers.”
I’ve also been in facebook contact with Laura’s biological daughter, (a Native American) that she had before she married Tom. Tom adopted this girl when she was 4 years old. At the age of 7, Laura put her in a foster home. She herself had a daughter, and Laura got custody of that little girl, who Laura is now raising, keeping her away from the child’s real bio-mom, and is passing her off as her daughter, not her grand-daughter. And Joan is going out to coffee with Laura, plotting with Laura to attack Ruth, but Laura is doing the very same thing that Joan is speaking out against in this NPR article – people adopting their grandchildren and passing them off as their own children. AND Tom and Laura did the same thing that Gert and her second husband did – ADOPTED the stepchild/bio-child. Why does Joan condemn Gert for that in her book, but actively hangs out with Laura and Tom? Because we see that even Joan’s zealous hatred of anything regarding adoption and child trafficking goes out the window when it comes to attacking Ruth. HYPOCRITE – if you’re against adoption – then be against it – ALL THE WAY!
ps – how I got in contact with Laura’s daughter – because Laura and Tom are keeping J.’s daughter away from her – J. routinely googles Laura and Tom’s name – J. lives in another state and doesn’t even know where her 13 year old daughter lives. She came upon my blogpost two weeks ago, and sent me a facebook friend request. But I knew about J. three years ago – from J.’s myspace page – where she putting out messages – looking for her daughter.
How could you Joan, how could you? Be active friends with a woman (Laura) who keeps a child away from her own bio-mom? Isn’t that the crux of your hatred of adoption? ISN’T IT?
Joan Wheeler loves to evade reality – now she suffers the consequences of that evasion. September 16, 2013Posted by Ruth in Black and White Evidence of Joan Wheeler's Lies: Letters, Court Documents, Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
this was posted on facebook today:
“We can evade reality, but we cannot evade the consequences of evading reality.” – Ayn Rand
oh so true. Since the beginning of this blog, I have scanned and posted actual documents that support the FACT that I am telling the truth. That is the REALITY of the situation.
Those documents include photographs, envelopes from the mail – letters that Joan Wheeler had sent to me – some handwritten, some typed. Other documents include actual city of Buffalo court documents.
For example, in 1993, we were in court and the judge handed down his sentence – I was given a six month restraining order to stay away from Joan. The dates of that order were from August 9, 1993 to February 9, 1994. The order was also ACD – Adjournment on Consideration of Dismissal. This means that in those six months, if I kept to that court order, the entire matter would be dismissed. I did keep to the court’s order and it was dismissed – leaving me with NO record of any sort.
Joan subsequently wrote a letter to the Child Abuse department in Albany NY on December 31, 1994 and told them that in that court case of summer 1993, I had been sentenced to six months PROBATION and that I had a criminal record. That is a lie. THAT IS REALITY. I have scanned that letter and posted it to this blog.
In Joan’s libelous book Forbidden Family, Joan reports that the order of protection was for one year. That is a lie and not reality.
Joan also reports in her book that she had obtained “multiple orders of protection” against me. That is a lie and is not reality.
In 1999, I filed charges of harassment against Joan and THE COURT COMPUTER printed out the previous court proceedings between Joan and myself. It showed 1. the 1993 case wherein I was given the six month order of protection. It correctly showed that it was ACD. 2. the case of 1995 where I filed harassment charges on Joan and the judge dismissed it.
It did NOT show a 1993 order of protection for one year, nor a 1994 order of protection for one year, or ANY OTHER ORDER OF PROTECTION.
In REALITY – there was one, AND ONLY ONE order of protection that Joan had gotten against me. ONE does not constitute MULTIPLE.
The court computer also showed NO EVIDENCE THAT I EVER HAD A CRIMINAL RECORD. So, when Joan says in her book, in person, and on the internet that I have been arrested and have a criminal record – SHE IS LYING.
For any person to deny the FACTS from actual court documents tells me that they are delusional and are trying to evade reality. To which I say, “well, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.” And that horse will now suffer the consequences of not hydrating themselves.
For Joan and any of her delusional buddies to deny the FACT that she has lied all over the place shows me that she and they are trying to evade reality. And they shall and are, experiencing the consequences of evading reality. Which is – loss of credibility. People now know that Joan is, and always was a liar.
Tags: adoption, being downright nasty, blaming people for your own mess, emotional abuse, false accusations, harassment of an adoptee's birth family, SLANDER, spreading untruths, theft
why this blog -
I already have a page – the reason for this blog. Let us go over it again.
Joan Wheeler, born Doris Sippel, my sister was given up for adoption after my mother died, due to child care issues. She was raised as an only child, spoiled rotten, never having the word NO said to her.
In 1974, we were reunited with her. Within a few short years, Joan’s overbearing attitude, her stealing, her lying, her interference in some of out lives, caused us to, one by one, turn our backs on her.
Boundaries and limits were set by various members of the birth family, which Joan repeatedly ignored. By 1989, she had surfaced as a THIEF. A joint checking account, funded by me, to be used for real estate purposes, (Joan and I were thinking of buying rental property together), was dipped into time and again for Joan’s living expenses. Hamburgers at the mall, Joan’s car repairs. This was not what I put the money up for. When we dissolved the “partnership” I was shorted out a lot of money – even taking into account monies spent on real estate brokers, appraisal fees, etc. Those I well accepted, as that was the agreement. I did NOT agree to foot Joan’s living expenses. Joan’s husband had a job. My paycheck goes for me, not anybody else. In December 1990, a refund from a lawyer was agreed to be turned over to me to go towards what Joan owed me. Instead, Joan called me up and informed me she was keeping the money to provide xmas for her kids. Again, that was not what my money was for – you got kids? Foot your holidays for them via your own money, NOT your sister’s. I was lied to, stolen from. This spoiled little brat Joan, USED me. I told her to get the hell away from me and stay away.
Over the course of the next few years, I was harassed left and right. Phone calls and letters to my job, accusing me of computer fraud occurred almost daily for six months. Joan called child abuse on herself, posing as me. Joan wrote to various elected officials and government agencies telling them that I had a criminal record – which I do not. I myself received a letter from Joan telling that my husband had gotten the next door neighbor pregnant – when the house was vacant!
And she wonders why I’m pissed at her.
THEN she writes and self-publishes her “autobiography. And in this trashy filthy book, is more lies about me – slander – and again, accusing me of computer fraud at my job, that I have a criminal record and other filthy shit.
I created this blog to take each and every one of the lies in Joan’s filthy book and expose it for what it is – a lie.
I have provided actual court documents that prove that Joan lied about me. I have scanned and posted to this blog the actual letter that Joan sent to Albany NY that said that in 1993 I was sentenced to probation. She wrote in the filthy book that I was sentenced to a one year order of protection for various harassments of her and her mother. I scanned the court document with the dates that prove it was for six months over some annoyance phone calls that she engineered for me to make. She forged her own 10 year old son’s handwriting and sent a letter to my house (supposedly her son). When I called her to ask about it, she said, “hold on a minute.” and hung up. I called back and she did it again. THEN she falsely lodged a police complaint that I called her and hung up on her. So she got a 6 month order of protection against me. BUT she says in the book it was for one year – and for worse than phone calls. And I scanned and provided the forged letter and all documents to prove I am not the harasser that Joan claims that I am.
Her little friends get on their high horse and lamblast me for telling the truth and “destroying” Joan and her book.
Well, too damn bad. That book was destroyed by me and my sister Gert. BECAUSE IT CONTAINED LIES ABOUT NOT ONLY ME – BUT OTHER MEMBERS OF OUR FAMILY.
Joan is the worst kind of slime ever! She is a kin-killer. Do you know what that means? It means what it says! She stabbed HER OWN FAMILY in the heart and back.
I sent my documents to Trafford Publication, the publisher of Joan’s book. Joan had signed a legal contract with them – that stated that the contents of the book were the truth. My documents proved that she lied.
If it can be destroyed by the truth, it deserves to be destroyed by the truth. - – Carl Sagan
It’s as plain and simple as that. If you don’t like it Joan – too dam bad.
Yes, that’s go over it again…
what made Joan think she could interfere with my parental rights with my minor children?
why couldn’t Joan take NO for an answer to a repeat of a sexual threesome?
what made Joan think she could call child abuse on me, TWICE, because SHE didn’t like my parenting or the word NO or because…pick out something…doesn’t matter to her, anything would work?
why did Joan speak with fork-tongue; nice to my face yet within hours condemn my religion and my mental health?
why did Joan attempt to get my daughter to commit a crime? Joan wanted to pursue a medical malpractice suit regarding HER daughter and since MY daughter worked with medical records Joan believed SHE could get MY daughter to commit a crime for her!?
Why did Joan write me a letter asking me to CALL her to warn me about some danger…only to yell at me NOT to call her?
Why did Joan tell me, on the phone, after brother died and father gravely ill, that SHE LOVED ME, then twist everything in a lying garbage book?
Because Joan is a sick bitch that’s way…
this is not over till JOAN takes down EACH AND EVERY HATE BLOG SHE AND HER FRIENDS HAVE AGAINST BLOOD RELATIVES.
2. Ruth – August 21, 2013 Gert said: ” Why did Joan write me a letter asking me to CALL her to warn me about some danger…only to yell at me NOT to call her?”
What Gert refers to is an incident that happened in 1998. But let’s back up to 1994-95 – When Joan called child Abuse on herself (Dec. 1994). This was right in the middle of the time she was calling my employer with false accusations trying to get me fired. The child abuse call was made and it was my fiance (now husband) who was named as an abuser of Joan’s children. The letter she sent to Albany NY, was written Dec. 31, 1994. During the months of January/February 1995 she was writing letters to the mayor of Buffalo, and other people slandering me. Then she sent me the copies of those letters. I hauled her into court and the judge dismissed my charges saying “sisters should get along.” The day after that, I went down to the district attorney’s office to complain. One of the assistant DA’s told me that they had better things to do. And she told me to stay away from Joan. I told her, that I would be happy to, as long as Joan also stays away from and stop writing letter about me. The Asisstant DA assured me that she would tell Joan the same thing. Which is what she did and I had three and a half years of peace – until September 1998.
I received a registered letter from Joan – the envelope was addressed to me and my fiance John. Inside was a letter addressed to Gert. Why was my fiance’s name on the envelope and WHY WAS JOAN CONTACTING ME AFTER AN ASSITANT DA TOLD HER NOT TO? Because Joan is a spoiled little brat who will NOT take NO for an answer – even if that word NO comes from law enforcement!
The letter was about some guy who bumped into Joan’s ex-husband in South Carolina. This guy was bad-mouthing Gert. So? A conversation happens in South Carolina, and Ruth, minding her own business in Buffalo, suddenly gets dragged into it! AFTER JOAN WAS TOLD BY LAW ENFORCEMENT NOT TO CONTACT RUTH.
The letter was to be sent to Gert and I contacted Gert and told her about the letter and gave Gert the phone number provided in the letter. Gert called the number and Joan yelled at her not to call her.
JOAN, IF YOU DIDN’T WANT GERT TO CALL YOU – WHY DID YOU SEND ME A LETTER TELLING ME TO TELL GERT TO CALL YOU?
I think Joan was trying to set Gert up the way she set me up in 1993 with that forged letter from her “son” and caught me in an annoyance phone call trap – she wanted Gert to call her, knowing the call would be traced and Joan wanted to run to the cops and claim Gert was harassing her.
This is the shit we have had to deal with from Joan – her little schemes – and she didn’t do it to just me and Gert – she did it to my cousin Gail – WHILE GAIL WAS BATTLING CANCER! KIN-KILLER! That’s what you are Joan – lower than then lowest. And another cousin also had his job contacted with false accusations about him – because his aunt – my cousin Gail told him to stay away from Joan, and he stopped accepting her calls. For this she tried to destroy his job.
And she tried to fuck with my job again just recently.
Joan is a fucking devious evil bitch.
I am outing Thomas D. Heath and Laura J. Stickney Heath as stalkers and troublemakers. August 5, 2013Posted by Ruth in Announcements and updates, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family.
in my recent posts about Thomas David Heath and Laura Joan Stickney Heath sticking their noses in my business – I forgot to put up the screenshots of Tom’s peeping tom bullshit on me. So here they are on the end of this post.
On the morning of July 16, 2013, I was on facebook – around 7:30 am. As I was writing, I was getting pop-up updates, “so and so replied to your comment” and “so and so shared your photo.” I usually ignore those pop-ups, because they are so annoying! Especially when you’re busy typing. So when I was done typing, I went to my update tag to see all my updates at once. 21 minutes after he did it, I found out – that Thomas Heath was now following me.
“Who the hell is Thomas Heath?” I asked myself and clicked on his name. Well, he is a facebook friend with another former employee of Buffalo General Hospital, Denise, who I knew was still facebook friends with Laura Heath. So I immediately smelled rotten fish. I don’t know if Denise is pulling shit – I’ve never had a problem with her. And I sure hope she isn’t pulling any shit. – Anyways, yes, a quick look at Tom Heath’s friends list confirmed what I had guessed – this was Laura’s husband. Several of his friends had the last name Stickney – Laura’s maiden name. And I saw their grown kids there. I couldn’t see Laura’s name on his friends list, because I had blocked her three years ago.
Which begs a question – WHY would the husband of someone I blocked three years ago suddenly come to my facebook page and follow me? Anyway, I immediately outed Thomas Heath as a spy for his bitch wife Laura. and blogged about it in this post: Joan Wheeler has a couple of new puppets to spy on me – Thomas Heath and Laura Stickney-Heath – roflmao! July 17, 2013
So what happened? Fast forward 24 hours to the morning of July 17. I’m on facebook again around 7:30 am. I had checked my followers list. yep – 18. With Tom on the top. BUT a half-hour later, my list had dropped to 17. I checked – Tom removed himself. lol.
The next few days, I was busy, but on July 21, I clicked on Tom’s name in my notification list – to find that he had blocked me. Guess he didn’t like my outing him as a spy and stalker and it made him do some backtracking. What an ass. Well he blocked me, but not before I copied the url to his facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/thomas.heath.79
I mentioned Tom and Laura have kids – two grown kids. One is in college, the other, from what I gather recently married and moved to El Paso, Texas.
Did you not think of them Laura in your zeal to stab me in the back? Did you not think that these innocent people would perhaps google their parents names and see the shit that they have done? You not only put yourself in a bad light, but you have embarrassed your kids.
And WHY? I want to know WHY? What the fuck did I ever do to you? NOTHING! As a matter of fact – did I not load onto your flashdrive a total of almost 700 songs for you to listen to on your IPod?
Why did you act like a 10 year old because all I did was boot you off my facebook AFTER you disrespected me?
And you never met Joan Wheeler – EVER – you only knew her from that stupid libelous book she wrote, that I brought to work and was bitching about.
THAT BOOK AND JOAN WHEELER WAS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS LAURA. This is a family matter – Joan is MY sister, and if I want to bitch about her – and her book, THAT IS MY BUSINESS – NOT YOURS. That book contained falsehoods about me – Joan committed slander and libel and I provided documents that were sent to the publisher of the book and got the book pulled from publication – because just like I said late 2009/early 2010 – that book contained lies about me. I provided actual court documents and actual hand written letters from Joan to the publisher and they agreed that Joan presented falsehoods about me and on May 11, 2011, they pulled the book from publication – because Joan violated the contract she signed with them. She said that everything in the book was true and that she was the sole copyright holder of the book and all its contents. Well, MY childhood picture on the back of the book, was published WITHOUT MY CONSENT and that was another reason Trafford Publications’ legal department deemed that Joan Wheeler signed the contract under false pretenses. – Why don’t you contact Mr. Eugene Hopkins of Author Solutions and get the facts Bitch Laura? I told you late 2009/early 2010 that Joan lied about me. You owe me an apology bitch.
And then Laura, why did you stab me in the back in a childish act of “revenge” – Yes, readers, two weeks after I booted her off my facebook page, Laura goes on facebook and seeks out Joan Wheeler and sends her a friend request. And Joan accepted it! Obviously Laura sent Joan a private message telling her (Joan) that she worked with me. And Joan just jumped at the chance to get to know someone who would gossip to her about me.
YOU HAD NO RIGHT TO STICK YOUR NOSE INTO MY FAMILY BUSINESS LAURA. And I found out some shit about you honey, that I’ve been sitting on for three years. I never said anything – because I could care less if you are friends with Joan Wheeler – you two are losers of the highest degree and deserve each other.
Since all that happened three years ago, and I have not seen nor barely thought of Laura. It was over and done with. It wasn’t a big deal – it was a small spat – I moved on. Apparently Laura did not. Asshole. So Laura gets her husband to spy on me via facebook.
Now Laura, since you decided to stick YOUR nose into MY business – like I mentioned above, I know some shit about you. Like you’re raising your biological-granddaughter and passing her off as your daughter. — yeah, I found that little tidbit out from her birth mother’s myspace page, where she was looking for her daughter. And she was being kept away from her daughter. What? Joan – you didn’t know this? Well, you do now. Yes – that is LAURA’S bio-daughter that she had when she was 16, and Thomas ADOPTED her – BUT then when her own flesh and blood was 7 years old, LAURA KICKED HER OWN LITTLE GIRL OUT OF THE FAMILY!
Oh? What’s that Laura? You don’t like it that I know about YOUR family? Then you should have stayed out of MY family. This was a matter between me and Joan – you should have stayed out of it. And you should have left me alone.
I do not believe for one minute that Laura has a connection with Joan about adoption - she never told Joan about Laura’s grand-daughter’s real parentage. Because if she did – do you think Joan would still be friends with her? NO, the connection was, and always was – Laura is a vindictive bitch, who as I said on my blog, when we had a spat, she goes running to my enemy.
Oh, and Joan – Laura’s daughter – the 32 year old – and the REAL Bio-Mom of Laura’s grand daughter, who she is passing off as her daughter – is Native American. yes, one of your pet issues! Transracial adoption and child trafficking – because grabbing another woman’s child and passing her off as your own daughter is child trafficking.
Laura J. Stickney-Heath voluntarily inserted herself into MY family business. Then three years later, her husband Thomas D. Heath voluntarily inserted himself in my business. THEY made the conscious decision to do this. They wanted to be in this mess, now they are. As for my revealing what I know – turnabout is fair play Laura. What makes you think you can butt into my business and not have the same done to you? And I never met Tom – who the hell does he think he is spying on me?
AND any info I have is from public internet. If it’s out there – it’s out there not just for me to see – but the whole world to see.
Here are the screenshots I made of Tom’s peeping tom business on my facebook page. First up – the update/notification from facebook that Thomas Heath was now following me. The original screenshot, and closeup.
And here is my list of followers, with Tom Heath right on the top, The original screenshot and closeup.
and here is Laura’s facebook page, showing she IS friends with Joan M. Wheeler, the subject of this blog, – first the original screenshot, captured on July 23, 2013, 5:15pm (lower right hand corner) and the closeup. (click on the picture to see it fullscreen) And this screenshot was taken just 3 hours after Joan LIED in court that she had NO connection with ANYbody from Buffalo General Hospital – and while Laura no longer works there, she WAS working there when she and Joan became facebook friends in June 2010. Both Laura and Joan are lying bitches.
now if you notice, Joan has a “denied” red sign across her face – that’s because angry adoptees are pissed because they are denied their original birth certificate. – here is a screenshot of Joan’s facebook page:
Joan’s facebook cover photo is a portion of her original birth certificate with her original name: Doris Michol Sippel. And here is a picture of her and me – taken from her facebook page. She whited out the top part of my face. But this is us as sisters – MY family, MY business, Laura – get the fuck out of MY business!
as to this picture, reading Joan’s description – she never gets anything right. This is NOT an original ape from Planet of the Apes – it was another convention goer, dressed in a COSTUME patterned after the Planet of the Apes. – When you see anything written by Joan – you really need to pay attention – because she never tells the truth. Also, she makes a big deal that we have our hands behind our backs. WTF – I started doing that because I patterned myself after Mr. Spock on Star Trek – and it is basic military at ease position. Since Gene Roddenberry, an old swabbie himself patterned Trek’s Federation after the US Navy, he had the characters doing and speaking Navy terms and customs. Why is Joan standing there with her hands behind her back? Probably because she was imitating me.
but Laura, if you want to stay connected with Joan, and be linked to a terrorist wannabe – go right ahead. Here’s a screenshot of her twitter page from April of this year:
other posts that are related to Tom and Laura are: starting with my original post three years ago about Laura, in which, I did not mention her full name. But because she wouldn’t let the issue rest, because she simply HAD to be a bitch and bring her fucking nose and her husband into MY life and MY business again, three years later, yeah, I’m outing her as a bitch, and naming her full name, her husband’s full name and everything else. It is on HER – if she had just left it alone, she wouldn’t be outed now as a bitch!
Not only did Joan Wheeler change the truth to match her story in her book, she changed the FACTS. And that just is unacceptable.
Especially when the facts she changes is about other people and harmful to their good reputation.
One of her “friends” said once that she has the right to tell her story the way she wants. No, she does not. If she’s telling a story about herself and wants to change the truth and facts about herself – that’s her business. But when she changes the truth and facts about another person – that is NOT right and is unacceptable.
That’s what this blog is all about – taking a lie about myself or my family that Joan had put in her book and on the internet and putting forth the truth. And backing up what I say with irrefutable TRUTH and FACTS – with actual court documents that prove that Joan Wheeler is a liar.
If you refuse to examine the evidence and think critically, you have no right to voice your uniformed opinion. Because you DON’T have a right to your opinion, you have the right to an INFORMED opinion. Because if you open your mouth without knowing all the FACTS – you have shown everyone that you are incapable of thinking critically and with knowledge. And you have made yourself out to be a fool.
I have provided evidence on this blog. If you refuse to go see it and then compare what actual court documents against the lies Joan Wheeler says – then you really are a fool. And I have no use for you.
When Joan decided to write a NON-FICTIONAL book AND put her full name and BIRTH NAME on the cover she instantly…CAUSED the problem. She labeled the book as a TRUE story, but placed OUR ENTIRE FAMILY’S NAME clearly on the cover. So any changes of names of people within the book was meaningless…she had ALREADY named the entire family on the front COVER and placed OUR PICTURES on the back cover. Furthermore, not only DID SHE LIE, she also FABRICATED, WHOLE CLOTH, events, actions and words, about OTHER PEOPLE, than her self, and THAT is the problem with Joan’s libelous book…and with Joan herself. She DOES NOT have any right to slander, libel, tell fictional stories of other people and label it as HER TRUTH.
writing memoirs and taking the consequences July 12, 2013Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Lessons in Life, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
the following link is to a blogpost that Gert found, commented on, and shared with me. I shared the following on my facebook and share it here.
a discussion about someone writing and considering publishing a memoir.
I submitted the following comment. It is still awaiting moderation. But here it is for you – it’s good advice for all writers. -
Something else to consider: If your “memoir” contains slander and/or libel – be prepared to suffer the consequences of your actions. I am the sister of Gert McQueen, and we were both mentioned in a book that was first touted as a “truthful autobiography” then when the lies that were in the book were brought out and refuted on my blog, the author (sadly our younger sister) changed her tune and said it was her “memoir” – trying to give herself the out that her memory was faulty. Which was just another outrageous lie. My blog – http://ruthsippelpace.wordpress.com/ – contains actual city court documents, handwritten letters from my younger sister that proved what she wrote in her “memoir” was libelous. Those documents were sent to the publisher and the book was pulled from publication and will never be reprinted. Also – don’t publish any photos unless you have written permission from ALL persons in the photo. Just because you “own” a copy of a family group photo – it is not necessarily “yours.” My picture was plastered on the back of my sister’s “memoir” without my permission. And the publisher took that in consideration, along with the court documents and hence killed the book. My sister wasted 30 years of her life, writing a trashy “expose” as a vehicle to get back at anyone in her life she was angry at – and I was her biggest target. The consequences she has suffered is a wasted life, her reputation in the adoption reform field is trashed, members of both her adoptive and birth family want nothing to do with her. All she ever wanted from the age of 16 was to be with her birth family. She was reunited with us when she was 18, and now that she is 57 – she does not have us – due to her own actions and her “memoir.”
regarding the use of my photograph – Joan Wheeler tries to use the ridiculous claim that the picture was blurred – no it was not – my father’s face is clearly visible. And so was mine. At the time of publication – 2009, there were still 4 living persons in the photo – myself, my two older sisters, and my father. And Joan did not get written permission from any of us to use our picture for monetary gain. One of the articles of the contract that she signed with Trafford Publications said “You hereby state that you are the sole copyright owner of the work and all its contents.” Since she did not have the sole copyright of a family photograph that was taken the year before she was born and a legal (in the eyes of United States law) entity and being, she did NOT have copyright ownership of that photo. And was in violation of the contract that she signed. The contract that she signed also stated that the contents of the non-fiction manuscript she submitted for publication did not contain any falsehoods. She stated that she had a one year order of protection against me in 1993. Then she said in 1994 we were involved in a three month court battle and she got another one year order of protection against me. She stated in the book that I have an arrest record. I submitted proof to Trafford, via court documents that: the order of protection in 1993 was for six months. we were never in court in 1994 The “three months court battle” occurred in 1995 when I filed charges of harassment against Joan and the three times we were in court were 1. Joan’s arraignment in March 1995. 2. First appearance in April 1995 – adjourned to a later date. 3. The later date of May 1995, where the judge dismissed my charges saying “sisters should get along.” Each time we were in front of the judge for about 10-15 minutes. Less than an hour total time. So much for a “three month court battle.” Those court documents were sent to Trafford and their legal department determined that Joan did indeed LIE in her book and when she signed the contract, she did so under false pretenses. She has no one to blame but herself for the death of her precious book.
as for the three month court battle – and Joan’s penchant for exaggeration – I filed harassment and stalking charges against her on January 24, 2013 for her crap writing a letter to my job in November 2012 with a false accusation of me committing computer fraud. Which I was investigated for and found innocent. Even had a meeting on January 4 where I was told of the letter and their findings. – Then on January 23, Joan gets on the internet and brags that it was she who sent the anonymous letter. I made a screenshot of her admission and filed charges against her. We have been delayed a few times – we are scheduled to appear again on July 23, 2013. So that makes six months now – between the time I first filed, and we’ve been in court and it’s gotten adjourned a few times – I suppose Joan is now saying we’ve been involved in a six month court battle. See, this is what she does – she tells people things in a slanted way – slanted to make it sound as though she does no wrong – and that I, Ruth am “bitch supreme” and asshole. And her stupid idiot friends believe her sweet-talking. Anybody who doesn’t believe an actual court document is the real asshole.
I added a graphic and additional comments at the end of this post. – 7-10-2013, 11:230am
I saw this meme on my facebook page. A quote from Aldous Huxley:
I have posted on this blog, scanned documents and pictures that present the evidence that what I say is the truth and the facts concerning Joan Wheeler and her lies. She lied in her book Forbidden Family saying that I have a criminal record. NO, she took me to court in 1993 for annoyance phone calls and was granted a six-month order of protection against me, which was dismissed in February 1994 because I had not violated the order AT ALL – therefore, I have no criminal record. The order of protection was granted the day we were in court on August 9, 1993. Joan says in her book that the order was dated beginning on August 1, 1993. On July 31, 1993, I went to her house – to see my fiancé as I had every legal right to do – and the order of protection was not in effect then – because we hadn’t even gotten to the court. Yet, Joan says when I came to get my fiancé, I was in violation of the order of protection. Joan also says the order of protection was for one year.
I have posted on this blog the court order with the dates of August 9, 1993 to February 9, 1994. Joan’s idiot buddies, namely Russell Thomas and Brian Maloney refuse to even look at the graphic of the order of protection that prove that Joan lied in her book! Why? Because they are idiots. Brian even says that Joan has the right to tell her side of the story the way she wants. No sir, she does not. Not when her “version of the facts” slander someone else. Not when that book was touted as “the truth.” People thinking her book is the truth and read the lies she has told about me in that book will believe her slander. This is called ruining someone’s reputation.
Joan also wrote slanderous letters to elected officials, including the mayor of Buffalo and departments in the New York state government seat in Albany NY., saying that in August 1993, I was sentenced to six months probation! NO, it was a six months order of protection! What she told was a total falsehood and it was designed to give people, in the City of Buffalo government and New York State government the impression that I have a criminal record. This is wrong. It is disgusting. I have also posted the scanned document of the letter that Joan wrote to Albany NY on December 31, 1994.
For people to believe the lies that Joan Wheeler tells about me, without examining the evidence shows me that they are truly idiots of the highest degree.
To reiterate the question I put forth as the title of this blog post: “Believing things without evidence – a sin or an act of stupidity?” I would answer it by saying that it is both. And it is a sign of idiocy.
so you ARE an idiot when you refuse to examine the evidence. There is NO excuse for lying – Joan has no excuse for lying about me. Go see the dam court documents I posted on this blog – check the category black and white evidence of Joan Wheeler’s lies. There is nothing wrong in me defending myself against the lies she has told about me to Albany NY, State Senator Anthony Nanula, Mayor Anthony Masiello, MY JOB.
Also Russ – how do you explain your good friend Joan contacting my job in November 2012 with a false accusation against me? And then she brags about it on the internet? Don’t forget Joan and I have a court date on July 23, 2013 for her to answer her STALKING AND HARASSMENT and LYING TO MY EMPLOYER!
I don’t give a shit if you have a problem with me or Gert – because that shows us once again YOUR idiocy – instead of concerning yourself with me and Gert and what WE do – why aren’t you concerned about YOUR friend Joan and HER actions. Calling someone’s job with a lie about them – a lie designed to get them in trouble – is WRONG WRONG WRONG. – AND GROUNDS FOR LEGAL CHARGES TO HAVE BEEN PLACED AGAINST HER. WHICH I DID AND WE GO TO COURT IN TWO WEEKS.
If you and Brian are so concerned about your good friend Joan Wheeler – why the hell aren’t you telling her not to do things that land her in court? What kind of bullshit excuse do you have for your friend’s clearly anti-social action – of calling someone’s job with a lie, to get them fired? She did it back in 1994-95 and she even admits to doing it in her book! HOW do YOU justify your friend’s interference in my life 1994-95? How does anyone justify this clearly ILLEGAL activity? It does not matter what beef she has/had against me – it is against the law to call someone’s job with false accusations! She was told in 1994 by then Director of Patient Accounts, Mr. Peter S. that her accusation of me accessing her medical records was 1. unfounded and 2. impossible. Yet, she continued to call my employer to get me fired. She also send Mr. S. a 3 page letter, that contained personal medical information about ME. And then sent me a copy of that letter, along with the letters she sent to the Mayor and others – letters that contained MY personal medical information. These letters have all been scanned and posted to this blog.
Now she does it again. Refusing to believe that her actions are illegal, Joan Wheeler continues to interfere with my life. Only idiots think this is okay and get pissed at me, the victim of this lying interference of MY life, and only idiots dictate to me that I don’t have the right to defend myself against LIES told to my employer!
Now, this is getting redundant and stupid – Russell Thomas – get the f out of my life – lest YOU get legal charges placed against you for stalking and harassing me. Don’t forget – YOU started things with me. I have never met you – don’t want to meet you. I never heard of your name, yet the first contact I ever got from you – you called me a bitch. Won’t that look good on a police report? That YOU contacted a woman you don’t know and right away called her names.
Both you and Brian must have incredibly boring, lonely lives to concern yourself so much with me. Sorry – but I’m much to busy to fulfill whatever holes you losers have in your lives or psyches.
I was just over at facebook and there was a discussion about holding doors open – I said that people of both sexes should hold doors open for both sexes – it’s just polite manners. And then thank whoever holds a door open for them. Gert left a comment about younger people getting in your way and shoving. Which reminded me of something that happened to me – and I left this comment:
“a few years ago, when I was on day shift for my PCA training, I was getting on the bus around 7am. Some high school kids were getting on the bus and one big kid actually pushed me out of the way. I had my monthly bus pass out already. The kid in front of the kid who pushed me, was fumbling to get his pass out. The one who pushed me, showed the driver his pass. I’m coming up the steps and showed the driver my pass. Now, both me and the kid who pushed me were stuck – so I just went up the last step and shoved both of the kids out of MY way.
That’s right – a short older white lady with glasses shoved two big black dudes out of the way – sat down and glared at them, daring them to say something. They just looked at me, and kept on going.”
Now it is clear to me that Joan, Brian and Russ have absolutely NO manners at all. They also are stupid not to take heed and learn – that while I DO have manners – I also TAKE NO SHIT. from anyone.
I didn’t steal hundreds of dollars from my sister. I didn’t call child abuse on myself, giving out the name of my sister to get her in trouble. I didn’t write letters to my sister’s fiancé, urging him to leave her. I didn’t call my sister’s job almost daily for six months trying to get her fired and then do it again 20 years later. I didn’t write a letter to my sister telling her falsely that her fiancé got the next door neighbor pregnant. I didn’t write letters to the mayor of Buffalo and other elected officials telling them that my sister had a criminal record. I didn’t write a slanderous book that contained many many lies about my sister and the whole family. I don’t go on the internet and continue to tell those lies. I didn’t go on an adoption forum and say that I like to stir the pot. – These are the things that Joan Wheeler has done and this is for her:
It is also for all her brainless puppets who listen to Joan Wheeler’s ridiculous lies and actually believe her! – Especially when I have submitted irrefutable PROOF on this blog – scans of actual court documents that prove Joan Wheeler is a LIAR! I have uploaded the court document that in 1993 proves that she was granted a six-month order of protection against me. I have uploaded the actual letter that Joan sent to Albany NY in which she lies and says that instead of an order of protection – I was sentenced to six months probation. In her lying book, she says she had multiple orders of protection against me for the durations of one year – total fabrication and contradiction of actual court documents. I have also uploaded actual handwritten letters sent to me by Joan and actual handwritten letters by Joan to my fiancé – telling him to leave me.
For her little buddies Russell Thomas and Brian Maloney to NOT understand this, and call me names on the internet – because I am standing up for myself against this shitload of lies – um, it boggles my mind that two people cannot understand actual police and City of Buffalo court documents and have the nerve to attack me. – well, that picture is for them as well.
Because the word is called KARMA. Pure and simple. You listen to a pathological liar, don’t see for yourself the proof that I have provided and further compound it by calling ME names. I didn’t ask you guys into my life – and now that you are in it – lick the spoon.
1. gertmcqueen – June 27, 2013 [Edit]
well said Ruth!
and of course Kathy and I didn’t do all those nasty dirty deeds to OURSELVES neither! Nope, it was all Joan Wheeler’s own doing!
and…why is it that those two ‘men’, who like to speak ill of WOMEN THEY DON’T KNOW…keep coming back INTO OUR LIVES?
We have NOT gone to them, ever…only in self-defense…and Brian even went to the court with Joan after HE said he didn’t want to be involved! So if that is true…he doesn’t want to be involved…he needs to remove his blog against us and get our OF OUR LIVES.
And Russ…we DID NOT go to him…he recently CAME TO US, asking us to ‘refrain from using his name’ and then only removes PART OF HIS BLOG…
Fools! Well not only has Joan Wheeler USED AND ABUSED THEM, SHE ALSO HAS LEFT THEM TO FEND FOR THEMSELVES.
She could care in the least whom she walks on, uses, abuses, lies about, steals and slanders…and this NEW GUY….
its only a matter of time!!
and since Joan Wheeler twittered the other day she has a fiancé now, who lives in New Mexico – and presumably MOVING to New Mexico, Brian Maloney and Russell Thomas need not worry about their little friend Joan anymore – that’s right guys – she will soon have a HUSBAND to do any yakking for her – YOU are no longer needed as any sort of defender – remove your filthy lying blogs against me and my sisters.
oh? You guys didn’t know about her fiancé? The one she only met a few short weeks ago? He’s Mexican-Comanche. I said on May 15 on this blog – after I got home from court after filing another petition in court against Joan and Brian Maloney for threatening me with exposing secrets about me (which I have challenged them to go ahead and EXPOSE – and then face the consequences via a police report) – – Joan’s lawyer said to the judge, that Joan is NOT responsible for what comes out of Brian’s mouth. In other words, in the eyes of the court, BRIAN is responsible for what he says on the internet against me and the judge advised me to press criminal charges on him. And I will if he tries to expose ANY kind of “dirty little secret” he thinks he knows about me – the police and the court will be very interested in how a stranger to me – a man who has never met me – “knows” things about me, and puts those things on the internet. I said on my blog on May 15 – by cutting her legal ties to Brian Maloney, Joan has in effect, thrown Brian (and Russell) under the bus.
Ever hear of that song by Hall & Oates – “Maneater” – well, she chewed you guys up and spit you out. And left you potentially criminally libel for your blogs for coming into MY life UNIVITED, calling me names and threatening me with blackmail via “dirty little secrets” that I don’t have.
oh oh here she comes — watch out boys she’ll chew you up — she’s a man-eater.
We did try to warn you fools.
Joan Wheeler’s puppet Russell Thomas thinks he’s slick – but he’s nothing but a lying sleaze. June 19, 2013Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Uncategorized.
Here is Gert’s entire post “Russell Thomas of Wilson NY…lied! He did not remove his entire hate blog!” – with a comment by me.
So be it! What’s wrong with you Russ? You have to have the last word? You think you pulled a fast one on us? Guess again! Do you really think that I would NOT double check, several times? Hey man! I gave YOU THE BENEFIT OF BELIEVING YOUR WORD…fool me! Your loss!
Ruth, is my sister, and a person, a woman, who you DO NOT KNOW and yet you feel that you can CONTINUE to malign her! It is irrelevant whether you like, dislike, have weak or strong opinions/feelings, or anything else about Ruth. The VERY FACT that you, on Joan’s say so, YOU commented on Ruth’s blog, called her vile names, and you continued to malign her, me and my other sister…why…BECAUSE JOAN TOLD YOU TO DO SO. You opened yourself up by believing Joan and NOT checking out the facts first and to this day you feel that you can malign Ruth and others of OUR FAMILY.
Why did you come around, in the first place, and insult the birth sisters of Joan Wheeler? Why? Because, Joan TOLD YOU TO. Don’t you have a brain in your own head? I don’t care how many YEARS go by, Russ, you are FOREVER linked to us by HISTORY, history that Joan Wheeler created and brought you into. You cannot erase your involvement, albeit on Joan’s instigation, but you and only you, put those words of hate towardS WOMEN YOU DON’T KNOW! And only YOU can remove them, like you SAID YOU DID. LIAR, just like Joan
Russ, you MAY have removed MOST of your blog….Russ’s Blog….BUT you did not remove it ALL. DID YOU? No, Russ you had to, just had to have the last word AGAINST a woman…and I repeat…against a woman you do not KNOW.
What the hell is wrong with you? Leave a NASTY COMMENT about my sister Ruth under your Blog’s domain…dated March 15, 2012
Okay…now here’s information about you and Joan…we only have been sitting on IT for years and I guess since you are NOT WILLING TO REMOVE EVERYTHING AGAINST US, we shall make this public.
We know that Russ and Joan have known each other from, at least, July 2010. It wasn’t until December 2010, that WE FOUND HIM. And, just like Brian Maloney…whom we found, we found Russ.
Joan is a wonder
by Russell Thomas Wednesday, August 11, 2010 at 11:31pm
She entered my life 35 years too late. She is intelligent, and very passionate. She is easy to talk to. I find her to mean more to me than any friend I have ever had. I hope to have her in my life for the rest of time.
Joan M Wheeler Thank you, Russ. You’re such a romantic, but that’s only part of why you fell into my life… August 13, 2010 at 10:03pm
Russ you are only one guy in a long string, before and after you, that has been used by Joan Wheeler. Yes, the waters have gotten hot and you want out…but you DIDN’T GET OUT. You are just a fool for Joan! Take a number, stand in line!
Remove the entire comment that you left! There is NO reason for you to leave a nasty biased comment against a WOMAN YOU DON’T KNOW! Get real, get honest and get the f…away from us.
roflmao! and thanks for the update Gert. Do you think I am upset by this? No. Because I knew from day one that Russell Thomas is a sleazeball and a liar and did not trust him for shit.
He says in his last comment that he did NOT write that desecration in my father’s funeral book.
1. We left the funeral parlor at 4pm, and ran into Joan’s daughter as we were leaving. She came in to the place by herself.
2. The family told Joan to come at 4:30, and Catherine admitted later that she was with her mother and Russell.- so that means Joan and Russell were waiting in the car for the family to leave. And we see now that Joan’s daughter Catherine was acting as a scout to go back to the car and report to Joan that the coast was clear. She told me via facebook private message that she was with Russell the whole time. But Kathy’s friend reported that the two women were at the casket and the blonde man was at the book. – ALONE. — Because the family told Joan to come at 4:30, and Catherine came into the funeral home at 4:00pm, and then admitted to me she was with her mother and Russ – she is as much to blame in this mess as her mother and Russ. She is now proven to be a liar – I guess the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree now does it.
3. An old friend of our sister Kathy entered the funeral parlor around 4:10 and she reported to us the following: she saw two women and one man. The man was tall, blonde. She stood behind him waiting to sign the book. She saw him writing something, then he flipped the pages and wrote something on another page. Then he left and went up to the casket and joined the two women. When the man left to join the women at the casket ,she went to sign the book, she signed after Russ. She made a note of his name. Then she flipped back the page and saw the hate note he wrote. She also told Kathy that she was fearful of the man because he had a nasty sneer on his face. One of the women he was with looked like us, her old friends, and then the older woman went to the funeral director and was bitching at him because she had been told to wait until after the family had left and she was his daughter too. The friend had not seen Kathy since before Kathy had moved to England (in 1974) and did not know that the family had an adopted out sister and that we were reunited with her). When the friend got home, she called a mutual friend, who got hold of Kathy in England and then the eyewitness to Russ and Joan in the funeral home talked to Kathy and told her what she saw.
4. The funeral director was there the whole time – and he told me and Gert that from the time we left at 4pm and returned at 7pm – there were no visitors to my father EXCEPT a lone woman and a party of two women and one man, and one of those women was bitching at him that she was the deceased’s daughter. (corroborating what Kathy’s friend had said). – When we left the funeral parlor – we went to have something to eat. Then to my father’s apartment. My husband and I had left our house around 3:30pm and did not return until after 9pm. Meanwhile, Kathy had called my house and left me a detailed message of the conversation she had with her old friend. I heard from the funeral director’s own mouth describing Russell as the ONLY man who had visited my father between the hours of 4 and 7pm. And while I was not home, the same story was related to me on my answering machine.
5. Russ left several nasty comments on my blog calling me a bitch. He has never met me, and has no right to be calling me any kind of name.
6. I send him an email using my private hotmail account telling him to leave me alone.
7. he replied to me via my hotmail address.
8. Russell joined an online dating service called BADOO and authorized them to sent invites to all his email contacts – and because he had sent me an email – I was sent an invite. I joined BADOO under an assumed name and email account and went to view Russ’s account. The picture he had is the same as his facebook account. And I am not impressed with him. But he is blond. – Just like Kathy’s friend said the man who signed my father’s book was. Russ lists himself in BADOO as living in Wilson NY. He signed my father’s book as his address in Wilson NY. He is in 50′s and lists in BADOO that he likes boats and is looking for SEX on the internet. sleaze.
9. As soon as I threatened him with the police by contacting my private email account AFTER I told him not to – he changed his tune – “I didn’t mean to call you a bitch – I was only trying to help.”
Face it Russ – you’re a liar and a sleaze – I don’t believe you for one second. Never did. In fact, I saw the writing on the wall when Gert first reported that you took down your blog and was gracious enough to thank you. I, however did NOT thank you, saying I don’t thank bullies. Then sleazy Russ goes out of his way to acknowledge Gert’s graciousness, saying bullcrap like “thanks Gert, go in peace.” and not even acknowledging what I said. – Gert and I talked about that – I said “he’s a liar. I don’t believe him.”
AND MY INTUITION WAS RIGHT – RUSSELL THOMAS OF LAKE ROAD IN WILSON NEW YORK IS A LYING SLEAZE.
The only peace/piece in this stinky mess is a piece of shit. whew!
I see I made a typo – sorry – in item #4, I said that my husband and I left our house at 3:30 – that should have been 1:30 – we were at the funeral home from 2 – 4pm and returned at 7 and left at 9pm and returned home at just before 9:30pm. – Also I want to point out – WHY would someone, “D,” who had not seen Kathy or me since the late 1960′s, go thru all the trouble of calling a mutual friend to find out Kathy’s current phone number, then make a long-distance call to England? Because she was PISSED that she saw a man write a rotten thing in my father’s memorial book! She was PISSED that a man she had not seen for many years (my father) was so disrespected! She saw the blonde man write a long message on one page, and then flip two pages over and sign his name – she was right there and saw it! -AND D. witnessed the women this man was with and witnessed the older one, who looked like me, bitch out the funeral director saying she was the deceased man’s daughter. And don’t forget – while D. was tracking down Kathy to tell her what she saw – Gert and I were getting the same story from the other eyewitness – the funeral director – at 7pm. And Kathy immediately called me, but because I was at the funeral home – she left me a message. So I got the SAME story – of a blonde man, accompanied by two women, the older one bitching at the funeral director that she was the deceased man’s daughter, from two different people – independently. Russell Thomas was a lying snake in 2011 and still is. Once a lying snake, ALWAYS a lying snake.
just saw this on my facebook from motivational speaker Anthony Robbins: UPW Tip of the Day: Words have the power to start wars or create peace, destroy relationships or strengthen them. How we feel about anything is shaped by the meaning we attach to it. The words you consciously or unconsciously select to describe a situation immediately change what it means to you and thus how you feel.
So Russ – when you commented on this blog and called me a bitch. Did you think I was going to have a nice relationship with you? When you denied writing that crap in my father’s book, despite an eyewitness seeing you, did you think I would believe you? When you LIED recently and said you would remove your hate blog against me and my sisters, did you think I would believe you? – not a chance buddy, not a chance. Like I said, once a liar – always a liar. And Joan should read Anthony’s words – because she thinks that she was going to write a slanderous book about me and my family and nobody was going to get pissed about it? What UFO dropped these losers off on my planet?
How Joan Wheeler besmirched my father’s reputation in her filthy lying book Forbidden Family May 16, 2013Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family.
Tags: character assassination, Lies
In Joan’s book Forbidden Family, Joan portrays my father as a poor uneducated person.- this is how she described him on page 490;
Natural Father – Level of Education: High school, night school. (She doesn’t explain. But I will in a minute).
Economic class: Poor, advanced to working class 1950′s, advanced to middle class in 1970′s. — oboy do I have something to say about THAT!
Now lets get the TRUTH out here – my father dropped out of high school and went back and got his GED.
When he first married my mother, he was a machinist in a bicycle shop and went to night school – subject – drafting, blueprint design. He married my mother in 1946. In 1955 he was hired by the City of Buffalo as a Junior Engineer (draftsman) in the streets paving department which was located, and still is, on the fifth floor of Buffalo’s City Hall. He also made good money working for the city. Therefore, he was neither “poor” nor “working class” – he was economically considered middle class, and his career was not “working class” but PROFESSIONAL.
In 1965, he bought a house and took on a second job as salesman at Sears Roebuck, located on Main St. and Jefferson St. in Buffalo, across the street from Canisius College. Just because he worked a second job does not mean he was “poor” – he now had a mortgage to pay, repairs and upkeep of a property, and four teenagers at home. I’m sure that any reader who is a home-owner and has kids can relate. Teenagers in the 60′s were expensive back then too! And there were 4 of us!
Now, Joan likes to drop names – so I think I will indulge myself here and do a little bit of name-dropping myself.
Because my father worked in City Hall, whenever us kids would go visit him – and we did this quite often – he would take us around and introduce us to people. I swear I lived half my childhood in the halls of Buffalo City Hall! I know that every time Buffalo had a new mayor, my dad would take us down to the second floor and meet him. I have one memory – I was small – maybe 5 or 6 – sitting on the lap of Mayor Frank Sedita. At his desk. I can just see his face in my memory, and he gave me a hug. I only remember the impression that I had of him was that he was a nice man. Being a little kid, I don’t think I “knew” his name – but then I would see him on tv and remember him as the nice man that gave me a hug. As time went on, and I got older, and kept seeing him on tv, I became aware of his name and what he was – mayor of Buffalo.
In today’s (May 16, 2013) mail, I received a small package from sister Gert. She had taken some photographs of her baby book. And it listed her godparents. Her godmother was our mother’s sister Catherine Miller and her godfather was Henry Nowak. Holy shit!
Henry Nowak was a Republican Congressman from Buffalo and as I recall, Mr. Nowak was helpful in getting my brother Butch’s “less than dishonorable” (due to a “youthful indescretion”) disharge from the Marines changed to honorable discharge.
I also have in my possesion the funeral memorial books of my father’s parents and my first stepmother (my father’s second wife). I checked the memorial books – although Mr. Nowak’s signature does not appear in any of the books, Arthur O. Eve signed the books of our first stepmother and our grandmother. Mr. Eve ran for mayor of Buffalo and has served on the Buffalo Common Council — I also recall my father telling me that when we used to live on Smith st., Mr. Eve asked my father to be an alderman. But my father declined.- wow – an invitation to be a politician!
gee, I guess this makes our dad a little better off than how Joan portrayed him in her filthy book.
NOW DO YOU SEE WHY OUR BLOGS ARE CALLED REFUTING A BOOK A LIES AND RECLAIMING THE SIPPEL-HERR FAMILY HONOR?
MY FATHER’S HONOR WAS BESMIRCHED IN THAT FILTHY BOOK AND I’M RECLAIMING HIS HONOR!
by the way, both Mr. Eve and Mr. Nowak are still living – anybody want to call them up and ask them how they know Mr. Leonard J. Sippel – go right ahead!
- 1. gertmcqueen – May 16, 2013
very good Ruth! In time I will finish a post about our father as well…it requires some research and time to compose…but in a nut shell…it’s about OUR FATHER’s reputation via Joan Wheeler. I came up with 40 pages from that lying book where she has described Dad in very demeaning terms. Her view is NOT the truth, her IMPRESSIONS are not the truth. She has dishonored everyone in our family with her speculations insults and more. In due time I will address those 40 pages!
- 2. gertmcqueen – May 16, 2013
- 3. Ruth – May 16, 2013
You know what? I forgot to say WHY my father dropped out of high school – he dropped out, like so many other young men, to enlist in the armed forces during World War II. My father enlisted in the United States Army. Due to “weak eyes,” however, he did not see combat, but served stateside in Army bases in Georgia and elsewhere, and was for a time stationed in Washington, D.C. – When he was discharged from the Army, he went and obtained his GED.
and by god if ANYone says we don’t have the right to have a blog and put out the TRUTHFUL employment of OUR father – well they better go take a look at blue wolf that is on the home page of this blog. Because that wolf represents ME. I am usually a shy, quiet person – but when someone steps on my toes I will howl and snarl and the end results are not pretty. Joan got my “werewolf” out – and it’s not going back in any time soon.
First, my lawyer must have been caught up in his other case. He did tell me that he would be in Family Court today on another case and would try to get to me. But he didn’t make my case. So we went into the court room and I told the judge this. Joan’s lawyer asked that today’s proceedings be dismissed on the grounds that my complaint was made against Brian Maloney, and Joan is not responsible for his actions. The judge agreed, but did give me some advice that I could press criminal charges on Brian in regular city court since Brian is not a family member. I will keep this in mind.
So – what does this mean – it means that via her lawyer, Joan Wheeler has denied any relationship to Brian Maloney, that he does NOT speak for her. Her lawyer put forth that Joan was not in violation of the order of protection and that Brian Maloney was responsible for what Brian said. This means that Brian is indeed subject to criminal charges for further attacks, slander, threats, stalking of me and my family. Also, I would take it to be implied that Joan is disavowing ANY relationship with ANY “champ” or “defender,” which includes Russell Thomas. Looks like you guys got thrown under the bus.
Now, Brian himself, was NOT in court today.Why not? Isn’t he Joan’s “great defender” and “Champ”ion? He did say back in January that he didn’t want to get involved, then when I brought to public Joan’s tweet about her fantasizing about “blowing up government offices” she must have called him in to be her “champ”ion. And boy did he come running. And tried to enter the court room on April 17. The bailiff told him to wait outside and I chimed in that he had no business in the courtroom. And because of my standing up for MY rights and making it clear that this outsider, this interloper had no business in MY case, he resorts to attacking me on the internet again. But then, doesn’t follow thru with his grandiose interference in a matter that DOES NOT CONCERN HIM.
OR – perhaps Joan’s lawyer advised her to cut ties with Brian – or told Brian to butt out. Which is what I would expect a good lawyer to do. Because despite Brian’s claims to be Joan’s good friend and defender – he is actually hurting her case.
Joan did have another man with her. I don’t know who he is. Never saw him before. Don’t know his name. He looks rather pleasant, like a nice guy. Well, you know what they say – nice guys finish last.
This is all very interesting. Brian, for some reason, could not or would not come to support Joan. And lo and behold! Another of Joan’s “good buddies who are ready to don shining armor and take on big bad Ruth” – Russell Thomas, comes out of the woodwork the other day. We haven’t heard from this worm for over a year, and now all of a sudden there he is! BUT he doesn’t show any inclination of wanting to get involved in a matter that is none of his business. Wise move Russ.
So Russ and Brian could not or would not come and hold poor Joan’s hand today, so she got somebody else. You know, if she’s big and brave enough to talk shit on the internet about me – if she’s big and brave enough to contact my employer with false accusations via an anonymous letter, then be big and brave and BRAG on the internet about contacting my employer – why is she NOT Woman enough to come to court and stand on her own two feet? She can talk the talk, but can’t take responsiblity for her talk. And there would be NO need for this – if Joan would learn to SHUT HER MOUTH ABOUT ME AND MY FAMILY AND TELL THE DAM TRUTH! – in other words – STOP LYING ABOUT ME AND CAUSING TROUBLE!
And the funniest part of today – after we left the courtroom, I had to use the ladies room. Joan and her new “champ” were standing talking to her lawyer. I walked past them and went to the bathroom. When I came out, at the other end of the corridor, I see Joan and her new “champ” walking towards me. The elevators were between us, but I moved to the opposite wall – as a courtesy – to let Joan and “new champ” pass me. I intended to keep walking and let them go for an elevator first. As they passed me, I looked directly at them, not in any antagonistic way, but a direct look. Joan lowered her head and looked at the floor. And I noted she was holding “new champ’s” hand. They walked past the elevators to the ladies room, where Joan entered and “new champ” took up guard outside the door.
OH PU-LEAZE! Did she think I was going to jump on her and beat her ass in a public courtroom where there are sheriff deputies all over the place? Well, violence DOES occur in court buildings, but this was just total nonsense! Look Joan, YOU are not worth MY going to jail over – I am not the one who breaks the law – YOU are.
So now we wait til our regularly scheduled court date of July 23, 2013 for Joan to answer charges of harassment and slander due to her contacting my employer with false accusations.
As to Brian – and his threat of blackmail over me – his threat to expose my “dark dirty secret.” Let it be known here and now, that I have NEVER spoken to Brian T. Maloney – he does NOT know me. I do not recognize any attempt of extortion or blackmail in this threat to expose anything about me. I challenge him to go right ahead and let out this “dark dirty secret” that he thinks I have. BUT BE WARNED BRIAN – since you are a stranger to me – and have never met me, don’t know me, never spoken to me – whatever you put out on the internet can and will be considered slander, libel, harassment and cyber-bullying and you will be subject to criminal charges of harassment, threatening me, slander, and libel.
As I warned Russell yesterday – I only have to pay my lawyer once – and that’s been done. Joan has a lawyer – she has a legal “champ” now.
SO I AM SAYING ONCE MORE, AS I HAVE SAID MANY TIMES BEFORE TO RUSSELL THOMAS AND BRIAN T. MALONEY – LEAVE ME ALONE. GET OUT OF MY LIFE. YOU ARE STRANGERS TO ME. YOU DON’T KNOW ME – YOU ARE NOW STALKING, HARASSING, THREATENING, SLANDERING AND LIBELING ME – CRIMINAL CHARGES WILL BE BROUGHT TO BEAR. REMOVE THOSE SLANDEROUS HARASSING BLOGS YOU HAVE AGAINST ME. YOU HAVE BOTH BEEN TOLD REPEATEDLY TO LEAVE ME ALONE – THIS IS THE LAST TIME I’M SAYING IT — LEAVE ME ALONE.
. gertmcqueen – May 15, 2013 [Edit]
As I said the other day to Russ, when he ‘requested’ that we refrain from using his name…sorry…Russ and Brian…by their own free will did come and create blogs against the characters of 3 women they do not know, except via what Joan Wheeler told them! And now that the heat has been turned on, with COURT, both Russ and Brian are bowing out and Joan has indicated, via her lawyer, that she did NOT ask them to speak for her. That means…that if either one speaks again against us three birthsiblings, that would be HARASSMENT…they have been warned!
It is unfortunate that this case continues to have delay upon delay, but eventually it WILL BE HEARD! In the meanwhile we continue on REFUTING THE LIES AND RECLAIMING OUR PERSONAL AND FAMILY HONORS.
If Joan wants to be left alone…she ought to have thought about that BEFORE she wrote a libelous book against the birth family and us individually. She has that dead book hanging around her neck and it shall stay there until she comes clean and acknowledges that she did wrong, apology for all she has done, takes down her hate blogs against us and ALL references to us and STOPS talking about us, in any form. Until she does that, she just has to live with the BIRTH SISTERS in her face everywhere she is. She wrote the book ABOUT us and we shall continue to tell the world all about it.
Cowards! They are pathetic cowards. Go, Gert!
thank you Paula – and yes – they are ALL cowards.
gertmcqueen – May 16, 2013
our day will come!
not only is Brian a coward, but I have to ask – does he have a life? I mean, how much time and energy has he spent devoted to bullying and harassing a woman he doesn’t know? I’m talking about mainly me, but he has also insulted Gert. But I seem to be his main target. WHY? Now, I have devoted time and energy to this blog, because I have been slandered due to Joan’s book and internet activities – but I must question WHY is Brian so damned concerned with MY life and what I do? And it isn’t because he wants to “defend a friend.” That’s so bullshit – because he has spent little time in actual defending Joan – most of his “defenses” has consisted in talking about ME. A defense is a defense – consisting of talking about the person to be defended. Brian instead has taken to “offense” – attacking me and threatening me. This will not look good in a court of law. Being the son of a highly successive attorney doesn’t seem to have helped Brian very much. I suggest that he pay less attention to Ruth’s life, who has a successful career, and pay attention to Brian’s life, which seems to be lacking in – hell, I don’t know – why DOES he need to come sniffing at my life? He needs a hobby.something to occupy his mind. sigh, perhaps I should be flattered that he keeps showering me with so much attention.
it occurs to me, that the police, law enforcement agencies and a court of law will also be questioning as to why a man has devoted so much time and energy to a woman he doesn’t know, never met, nor ever spoken to. They will wonder why he “knows” a “deep dirty secret” of that woman and why he is threatening her to expose it. Brian is skating on thin ice – this is called stalking and harassing.
altho this is a family matter between Joan and me, and really not anyone’s business – it was JOAN who first went public with our family story and naming the Three Sippel Sisters on the internet in Sept. 2008. Then in Oct – Nov 2009 on the ABC news website article “Adoptees face sting of discriminiation.” In several comments to that article, Joan LIED about circumstances involving the Sippel family, of which SHE IS NOT A LEGAL MEMBER. Within weeks of that – she published her book – which not only contained many slanderous statements about me – but she left MANY clues as to MY identity. – These points were all discussed on this blog and I won’t get into here. -
Since JOAN first brought a private family matter into the public arena – I decided to erect this blog – once Joan wrote that book and went on several websites to promote it – she left herself open to full disclosure.
It has been said that there are two sides to every story – Joan told her story in her book, on her website, and on many other internet sites. This blog, is my side of the story. I back my side of the story up with actual court and police documents – I provide proof of what I say.
I am a human being. If someone tells a lie about me, or threatens me in any way – I have the right to defend myself. – Joan has done this. She has lied about me in that book – the book that she maintains is the truth. I have submitted the actual court documents that proved that what Joan put in the book was false. I did not need to pressure the publisher – Joan signed a contract with Trafford, saying that what was in the book was the truth. I submitted court documents that showed she signed the contract under false pretenses. Hence her book was killed. That’s not my fault – that’s Joan’s fault. If her little freinds want to keep on believing her lies – that’s ok with me. BUT – her little friends have no right to bully me. Now go away- as I said – this is between Joan and me – you have no business commenting on MY life. I never met you Russ or met Brian – don’t know you guys. WHY are you commenting on MY life? You guys stuck yourself into my life – I didn’t ask for you to – but I am telling you now – GET OUT – YOU ARE NOW CONSIDERED AS TO BREAKING THE LAW BY HARASSING ME, THREATENING ME.
ONE OF JOAN’S FRIENDS IS NOW TANGLED UP IN THE LEGALITIES OF THE SITUATION REGARDING A VIOLATION OF THE ORDER OF PROTECTION THAT WAS GRANTED TO ME BY THE FAMILY COURT OF BUFFALO ON JANUARY 24, 2013. Does the other buttinsky want to get involved in the court case? I only have to pay my lawyer once – and that has been taken care of.
Ruth I have not commented on your life or mentioned you in over a year. Please remove my name and let this matter between me and you to rest.
it does not matter whether you have commented on my life or mentioned me via THIS blog in over a year – your bullying blog is still in existence – that means that every second of every hour of every day for the past year you HAVE been mentioning me. Remove the blog and yourself from my life. no more comments from you will be accepted – I have set my spam filters to reject you. I don’t want to see your name. I want only your COMPLETE withdrawal from this – which means TAKE DOWN YOUR BULLYING BLOG.
COMMENTS CLOSED TO THIS POST. GO AWAY PEST.
8:55pm – just got up from my nap and I see my stats up, up, up. Glad to know you’re reading Joan, Russ and Brian. have fun. for myself – I’m going to watch Dante’s Peak – Pierce Brosnan is so much more handsomer than Russ or Brian. And my hubby is waaay more interesting than the 3 of you combined. Have fun kiddies!
my “harassing” phone call to Joan Wheeler – November 2009 – April 24, 2013Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
Tags: people who don't want to know the truth are idiots
In Gert’s new post “Joan Wheeler hates it when the siblings of the #birthfamily speak their truth…and the beat goes on!!” she writes the following:
On Marley’s (Greiner) own web site for Bastard Nation, forbiddenfamily posted in 2009 “The Pentagon is reading my website!while my dysfunctional sisters still are causing me trouble to the point I must go to the police to stop their interference.”
What Joan was referring to was the fact that I called her on the phone around 5pm on November 2009. Joan twists the facts of everything. She reports on her website and to other adoptees that I had bothered other family members to get her phone number. WRONG. It was ONE family member – my father. I have addressed this incident many times on this blog, and I will tell the story AGAIN because some people are so thick headed that they can’t see the lies from the truth. Don’t forget now – when Joan says anything – this or that about her birth sisters, she always talks in generalities – like we are “interfering in her life,” or “bothering her.” She never gives any details – dates, times, what was said, what the circumstances were, and she never provides any proof of what she says. On the contrary, when I say something on this blog – I back my words up with documentation – receipts, screen shots of actual email conversations, scans of print outs of email conversations, police and/or court documents. If you want to believe lying words, like Marley, and be an ass – go right ahead. I won’t stop you. But if you profess to want the TRUTH – then partake of what I write – because it IS the truth. And I back up what I say with documentation. And if you profess to want the truth and don’t bother to find out the truth of something – you are an asshole and as guilty as the person who tells the non-truth in the first place.
The following is taken from my blogpost of “Reality is Truth. But all Joan Wheeler knows is self-delusions, fantasies, and lies July 15, 2011″ it contains ACTUAL screenshots of a myspace email conversation that I had with Joan’s own daughter about the incident. And I have included those screenshots here at the end of this post.
Remember, Joan is bitching about —
… that I got her phone number from my father – yes I did. On November 3, 2009 – because my then 85 year old father was tired and I called Joan AS A FAVOR to tell her that a family member died. On the phone Joan subjected me to a barrage of yelling obscentities that even her daughter (who in an email exchange via myspace the next day, came running down the stairs to see what her mother was screaming about).
So here is some info: “Doris Ohl was born June 05, 1919 in Buffalo, Erie, NY, and died October 31, 2009 in Silver Creek, NY. She married (1) Michael W. Herr in Buffalo, Erie, NY, son of Jacob Grant Herr and Gertrude H. Stoll. She married (2) Lou LoManto.”
Doris and Michael were Joan’s original godparents, and Joan Wheeler’s original name was Doris Michol Sippel. (None of this information is private, Joan plasters this all over the internet, and the info on Doris was taken from an online internet family tree. Addendum: July 16, 3:00am, ok, I was doing research – do you know that hotmail saves EVERY email you send? So I found the original email from my Uncle. –
From: To: Subject: RE: Aunt Doris Date: Tue, 3 Nov 2009 08:39:56 +0000 Hi Uncle Rich thank you forwarding this to me. Can you send me Wayne’s email so I can send him my condolences? Everything is going fine. I had a small vacation, which I used for housework. lol. all the stuff you never seem to get to, like getting behind furniture and degreasing cabinets. Also had to clean out the utility room. got a new washing machine, the old one went kaput. I found some missing socks amidst the dust bunnys back there. lol. Love Ruth
Date: Sun, 1 Nov 2009 08:33:33 -0500 From: To: Subject: Fw: Aunt Doris Received this from Wayne about his Mother (Uncle Mikes first Wife.) Dad, Opa and Uncle Rich —–Forwarded Message—– From: Wayne D Herr Sent: Nov 1, 2009 7:57 AM To: silverdick1 .. judy , Richard Herr Subject: We spent a very hard week this week, but last night @ 9:45pm Mom pasted after a very hard week for her. I believe she is happy now, she was ready. Eileen and I were with her so she did not have to die alone. This past sunday she told me she was going to see Edmund and she might even talk to Michael. Thank you for your prayers. Love, Wayne
Joan’s self-delusions and the facts are that Joan cannot accept the REALITY and the TRUTH that her “mean and nasty” sister Ruth couldn’t possibly call her on the phone for the simple reason of doing her father (and Joan) a FAVOR. Further, she cannot STAND for the TRUTH of the phone call to be made public. Instead, Joan twists the FACTS of the event of November 3, 2009 and reports it on the internet that I called her as an act of harassment.
The phone call was made by ME, around 5pm. Later that evening, around 10pm, I emailed my niece, Joan’s daughter via myspace. We were myspace buddies and facebook buddies at the time. Here is the transcription of the email exchange between her and me, and the graphics are the actual screen shots of that exchange that I captured on July 14, 2011. I also have included a screen shot of Joan’s blog (also captured on July 14, 2011, that shows Joan’s version of the phone call. Notice she says really nothing about the phone call. Because deep down, she knows the TRUTH about that phone call – that I obtained the phone number from a tired 85 year old man, as A FAVOR TO BOTH HIM AND JOAN to let Joan know that her original godmother and namesake had died. AND Joan fails to tell everyone HER subsequent actions! After screaming obscenities at me, subjecting me to verbal emotional abuse, she then called my father and SCREAMED AT HIM – AN 85 YEAR OLD MAN, WHO WAS NOT FEELING WELL THAT DAY! That is called ELDER ABUSE! And of course, Joan doesn’t tell what happened when SHE made an abusive phone call to an elderly man – that the call was terminated when the tired elderly man HUNG UP ON HER!
So why isn’t the COMPLETE TRUTH about that phone call of November 3, 2009 published on Joan’s blog? Because she doesn’t want to tell the truth – she always presents HER twisted version of the truth – she wants people to think that I, Ruth Pace am a bitch, and all I do is harass her by getting her phone number from relatives and call her up and bother her. But Joan can whine on a forum that when another relative died, she wasn’t notified – well, because when she was notified of a relative’s passing, she went all f’ing crazy! Who does Joan thinks she is? That she can treat people like dirt and they have to accept it? This is why Joan is an outsider – she has no family – either birth or adoptive – BECAUSE SHE HAS ALWAYS TREATED US LIKE DIRT. So here is the transcript of the myspace email:
Nov 3, 2009 RE: something happened today Ladymoondancer ~ says
To: *~*~They call me Cat, Kit… (@myspacecom) I got an email, (from a relative)that my Uncle Mike’s first wife Doris died on Saturday, Oct. 31. Uncle Mike and Aunt Doris were your mom’s original godparents and she was named for them (Doris Michol). so I thought she should know about it. I called the old number but it was disconnected so I called my father and he gave me your mom’s number. So I called her. She asked how I got the number. I told her. She said “Big mistake.” then she said she didn’t want any contact from me. Fair enough I thought. She was calm at this point, but then she said tersely, “Thank you for telling me about Aunt Doris, but I do not want to hear from you. My mother is dying.” (I have heard this, and I felt bad, I thought, shit, this is bad getting bad news now and all. (Ruth’s note – April 24, 2013 – as an example of how Joan exagerrates things to manipulate people, she had been reporting on the internet that her mother had been dying almost every week – then publishes a picture of her celebrating her birthday in the nursing home – and looked quite spry for a lady in her 90′s. She passed in March 2012 – over two years from November 2009 where it was reported she was dying.)
But then you mom said, “She (her mom) does not want to hear from you.” (I was not calling for her). Then your mom started screaming about her sisters. She said that I threw her out of the family. Cathy, I just sat there staring at my computer screen. I was in shock. She was screaming so hard I could not understand what she was saying. I did hear “you are not my sister.” She was ranting and raving. I started crying. I didn’t know what to do. All I did was call her to tell her that her godmother had died. I got angry. I did not call to make trouble. I swear to you Cathy. I did not. I swear on the soul of my unborn son that I lost in 1985. I did not call to make trouble, but dammit, why should I be subjected to her verbal abuse? So I said “You know what? You’re right. You’re not my sister. You don’t know how to behave like a sister. so fuck you.” and then I hung up.
Cathy, I was so upset. I wanted to go to my dad’s house. I left my house with my washing machine running. I only grabbed a sweater and my keys. I was still in my slippers. I was crying so hard then when I was on Genesee St. I couldn’t see. I stopped at my cousin’s house and she calmed me down. (Ruth’s note April 24, 2013 – Nancy T.) I went on to my Dad’s. In the meantime, she had called him and when she started screaming at him, he hung up on her.
He had told me a couple of weeks before that he had thrown her out of his house because she was whining again about no money. He told her to get a job, like we have all been telling her for the past 25 years. She said she didn’t like Polish people. Well his mother came from Poland and we are all part Polish, so what the heck? She wanted money from him to fix her car. When I got home, there was a message on my answering machine from the Town of Tonawanda police that “Ruth Sippel Pace, Gertrude McQueen and Kathy Inglis are NOT to have any contact with Joan Wheeler.” Now where did Gerty and Kathy get in this?
I swear to you Cathy, your mom needs a psych consult. My father said she is mentally ill, and I see that. I am sorry to tell you this, but I believe it. All she had to say was, “Thank you for telling me about Aunt Doris. Goodby.” there was no reason for her to off on me like she did, or call the cops on me. If she hauls me into court for harassment, all she is going to get is a psych consult. Because I will insist on it. She threatened my life once before. The district attorney knows this. I am not going to write to you again about this. I just wanted you to know what went down. I undertstand that she is your mother and you love her.
But geez, she is my little sister, I love her too. Why the hell would I have called to tell her about Aunt Doris? I can’t stand this anymore. I’m done. I didn’t call her to make trouble I swear. I won’t make the same mistake again.
ps I already shredded the piece of paper that I wrote her phone number on. I did not memorize it. I swear to you, I will not call her, I will not drive over there. I will not contact her. I am done. I try to do the right thing and all I get is a kick in the teeth AGAIN. no more.
Nov 4, 2009 RE: something happened today *~*~They call me Cat, Kitty Cat*~*~ saysTo: Ladymoondancer ~ look im sorry bout wat has happened. i originally wrote a message earlier but then i guess time warner decided to have a hiccup so it never sent, which gave me another chance to write with out being so mad. i am very sorry bout aunt doris’s passing. its too bad yet another person who probably was good has gone. i am sorry that mom did that. i guess my question to u is- y would u think shed wanna hear some one has passed, coming from u?…..u know better.lol. as to how she feels and how u feel. i think it best to stay clear of us. i would not tempt her. i know u said u wipe ur hands of her. not to sound like a bitch- but it would be best. i hope this means Kathy and Gertrude too. no contact with her at all. no smart things from her blogs or anykind of publication she has. she has it in her head u all are like gonna do ur best to hurt her….….which if u r i have to say- so not cool……anyways, i understand u all r getting old, but my mom has good reason to think none of u wont try anything- the wheeler’s r fucking nuts!…well u sippels are a piece of work too….lol… i want to make it clear that none of u will not come into contact with my mom, my brother, or my nana- none of them want it or can handle it. as for me. if either of the other 2 wanna have any contact- they will have to ask u to write me a message via myspace. i do not want any disturbances from anyone- i want my own life. i deserve it. i wanted things to go different- i hoped everyone would get over everything so that when times like these came- we’d all be civil. i was surely wrong. mom just has alot of hurt. not saying none of u dont, but i see it of course more form her. if any one else passes- let maryelle or joselyn contact mom. gpa sippel should have known better not to give my moms number out to anyone. so yea- i was there kind of when u called. i was taking a shower- and thought something was wrong. she was crying and yelling that u had called. i got mad and thought- here we go again i told her i didnt give a crap bout watever happened between u 2. but yea she was very distrought. so please- fo my sake- no more contact, ever- from any of u in any form. leave her alone- let her write her lil things online- its a free country and the internet is free- i mean we allow freaky ass porn!- let her do her shit in peace. let her, my brother and my nana be in peace. and im sorry for the way everything went down. it was a fragile time for everyone and i am sorry. i wish i knew this doris woman, she must have been a good woman. and please- no response to this other than- telling me that u will keep ur promise and tell the other 2 to stay away from us. thanks, and sorry again.
Nov 4, 2009 RE: something happened today Ladymoondancer ~ saysTo: *~*~They call me Cat, Kit… o(k I hear ya. I agree with you that it was not a smart thing to call. but as I said, I only wanted to let her know about Aunt Doris. but you know, you are a little unfair. you say steer clear of Dennis and your Nana. I understand you are only looking out for your family. I am not looking to call them. Neither is Gert or Kathy. As for your mom’s blog, well, yeah, it’s a free country and all, like you say, so why is it, that only the sippels must censor themselves? Your mom can go on and on and say this and that about us. but the minute we say ANYTHING, it’s always, “don’t do that. it will hurt Joni.”
What about my hurt? Do you think I like being labeled scum of the earth? When all I ever did was set limits? Like telling your mom and dad, that I will not be disrespected? Did I ever call somebody’s place of employment for 6 months straight and tell them that they have a thief and a computer hacker working for them? do you know how embarrased I was? do you know how embarrased I was when I met Mayor Anthony Maseilo and he saw my name tag and said, “Ruth Sippel, now where do I know that name from?” from the crazy letters your mom wrote to him. When here I am, at a symposium for block clubs, and passed a course at the Buffalo Police Academy, doing things in local government, only to have the mayor look at me like I’m crazy thanks to your mom. So I’m supposed to sit back and let this happen to me year after year after year? Or your mom calling the immigration department in England to scheme to have Kathy deported from there and sent back to Buffalo, when it was always Kathy’s dream to live there. Or how Kathy gets a letter from some college professor in Holland who proceeds to tell Kathy how to live her life because your mom has told him some lies about her. So we are supposed to get hurt over and over? And everything was ok for the past few years until your mom goes on the internet on her blog and singles out THE SIPPEL SISTERS. and slanders us. internet is free speech? ok, so I have the free speech too. It works both ways. and this is something your mom refuses to see.
She wants us to respect our privacy, and not to gossip about her, but she runs into Francine’s brother and then starts telling him about what a bitch I am. And he’s like, hey, I’ve known Ruth since I was 1 year old, and she’s my aunt, and who is this whackjob and then he finally has to tell her to shut up in the middle of the muffler shop and he gets his boss looking at him, and I have to hear it from his other brother.
As for the Sippels being a piece of work, well yep. That’s right. Gert put herself thru school and became a dental hygeinist. Worked for the government. Retired a few years, is now an artist. Kathy scrimped and saved and emigrated to another country, became an accomplished guitarist and school teacher. Me, I have held the same job for 37 years. Am renovating my home. Was a professional dancer for a time. Board member of the Beledi Club, an organization for belly dancers. organized and head up the block club on my street. My brother before he died, worked in a hospital, studied medieval warfare. And all of us are artists and writers. I am head of a local Star Trek fan group.
And all of us have never stolen money from each other, maybe have snipped at snapped at each other, but always came back to hugs and kisses. Never tried to set each other up with the police and the courts. Never been arrested. Never sent false letters telling them that their spouse was unfatithful, never called false child abuse on each other. As for my father “should have known better to give your mom’s phone number out.” Why? I told him why I was going to call her. So she got kicked out of his house a few weeks ago? And whose fault is that? so everything is always the fault of somebody else. Your mom is mentally ill, there is no reasoning with her. I am not out to hurt her. Neither are my sisters.
But ask yourself, who is out to hurt whom? Do you think I was just all happy go lucky to open a letter and read my spouse got a women pregnant, and the house was vacant? So it was a lie. And why did your mom sent me that? to have me say, O I’m so happy to hear this letter. No, the person who is doing the hurting is your mom. And then she gets surprised to find out that nobody likes her. or wants her in their life. and she has only herself to blame.
April 24, 2013 – so the next day in Nov 2009, I call Gert and tell her what happened and she calls the Town of Tonawanda police – to tell them, that it was RUTH who made the phone call, NOT her or Kathy. And what did the police say to Gert? – “Don’t worry, We know all about her (Joan)” roflmao!
so here is the actual myspace conversation between me and Joan’s daughter:
what you post in social media on the internet is public domain. lesson for Joan Wheeler April 22, 2013Posted by Ruth in Announcements and updates, Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family.
This morning, I was relaxing on my couch, sometimes snoozing, sometimes awake and paying attention to CNN. There was a discussion about the suspects in the Boston Marathon Bombing that occured last week. Apparently, the dead suspect, had posted some terroristic videos on his youtube channel. The reporter didn’t say if he made those videos himself or merely harvested them from somewhere else and put them on his channel. (youtube calls a user’s page their “channel”).
I didn’t pay much attention to what else the reporter said but she did say something that clicked in my head – she called postings on social media sites as being “public domain.”
I just did a little bit of research. Now I’m not talking about copyrighted materials, I’m talking about general social media postings and general blog postings. And public and private websites.
Joan Wheeler in the past has gotten her panties in a bunch because I have read her blog. – So what? It’s out there on the public internet right? Is her site private? No. Is my name mentioned on her site? Yes it is. In a post she made in December 2009. Is MY mother’s name on her site? Yes it is. Is MY mother’s picture on her site? Yes it is. Is MY picture on her site? Yes it is. IF MY MOTHER’S NAME AND HER PICTURE IS ON JOAN WHEELER’S WEBSITE THEN I HAVE THE RIGHT TO VIEW JOAN’S BLOG. IF MY PICTURE IS ON JOAN’S WEBSITE THEN I HAVE THE RIGHT TO SEE HER SITE. Does Joan Wheeler talk about me and my childhood on her site? Yes she does. IF JOAN WHEELER IS TALKING ABOUT ME THEN I HAVE THE RIGHT TO SEE HER WEBSITE.
Joan has also gone on other websites and talked about me and my father. IF SHE IS TALKING ABOUT ME OR MY FATHER THEN I HAVE THE RIGHT TO SEE WHAT SHE IS SAYING ABOUT ME AND MY FATHER. – remember people – once Doris Sippel was relinquished to adoption, once my father signed those papers, once her adoptive parents signed those papers, once the judge approved the adoption and legally changed her name to Joan Wheeler, she CEASED TO BE A LEGAL MEMBER OF THE SIPPEL FAMILY. She has no legal right to be writing about the Sippel family and she must cease to do this. AND she had no right to pull that little stunt after MY father died – because of her disrespect to him, my father REMOVED Joan from his papers – which included his own self-written obitiuary. He had her included in his papers, not because he was of any legal obligation – but because he wanted to do it – from his heart. Once she stomped on his heart one too many times – he removed her. What does Joan do? She contacts the Buffalo News and submits HER OWN OBITIUARY OF MY FATHER, naming herself as his daughter. What kind of crap is that? Gross disrespect of the Sippel Family – of which, I will say again – SHE IS NOT A LEGAL MEMBER OF.
Her reason for writing about MY family was not to promote any kind of adoption reform, but it was a hate manifesto against anyone in Joan’s life who ever disagreed with her. She claims that her book was her personal memoir – then why was MY miscarriage in that book? And her disrespecting the death of my son by saying “it’s just as well she couldn’t get pregnant.” That book was nothing but an exploitation of MY family – an attempt by Joan to garner “fame and fortune” on MY family. I repeat – Joan Wheeler is not a legal member of MY family.
And if she is writing this stuff on the internet – she is putting it all out there for the entire world to see and she needs to stop whining that “my birth sisters are reading my blog.” Like I said, if she is talking about me, I will be reading it. And once she published her book and once she started promoting that libelous book, she opened herself up to full disclosure. If she can write about MY childhood and MY life, and MY family on her website, then I can do the same. It works both ways. If Joan writes a comment or posts anything on the public internet – that comment is subject to review and rebuttal.
Now, back to my research – I found this from Lynn University in Boca Raton, Fl. It is their social media policy for students. You can find the entire page by visiting this link. But I just want to quote something. And Joan Wheeler needs to learn it.
“Social media postings are in the public domain. This means anyone in the world can see your posts, and your posts can impact you and the university. Social media are public channels and are searchable via standard Web browsers – despite your privacy settings. You are responsible for any and all content and exchanges occurring within the pages/tools under your purview. Treat online comments the same way you would at a public forum.”
Joan writes inflammatory things on The Huffington Post, her website, other websites, even to the point of saying she wants to blow up buildings on her twitter page (April 14, 2013). One of these days, she’s going to find herself using a public computer in the library of a prison.