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Blog postings of recent correspondences by Gert McQueen and Ruth Pace to several individuals to refute lies told by Joan M. Wheeler in her book Forbidden Family May 14, 2011

Posted by Ruth in Announcements and updates, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements, Statements from The Three Sippel Sisters.
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by Ruth Sippel Pace

Readers of this blog may notice the publication on this blog of correspondences that Gert and myself have had with some individuals. This is being done in the interest of full disclosure of what we have said and to whom. Because Gert and I are not liars.

BUT FIRST AN UPDATE, MAY 2016, as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler says about me and family. After the first book was pulled from publication by the publisher, May 2011, she has ‘self-published’ another ‘revised’ version. In this ‘version’ called ‘duped by adoption’ she has increased her exploitation by including PICTURES and REAL NAMES and much more personal information violating again the families. Joan has no decency NOR shame. There is NOTHING in this book for adoption reform. She is totally against adoption and her two families. To learn more see…



We NOW continue with this post….

Contrary to what Joan Wheeler accuses us of we are NOT contacting various adoption reform agencies and professionals and calling her an asshole. Nor have we EVER told her to commit suicide. Not on this blog, not in any form of communication to her, through third-party contact, or even on the internet.

Therefore, we are making public any past correspondences we have sent to ANYone concerning Joan Wheeler and the book Forbidden Family, and their replies, if any. We did this back in September 2010, when we contact Mr. Joe Soll, who replied within a half hour of receiving an email from Gert concerning a 40 page letter that the Three Sippel Sisters supposedly wrote and sent to Joan in 1992, “kicking her out of the family.” Joan tells of this letter in her book. This is a complete fabrication, there was NEVER a 40 page letter written by us and sent to her. Joan expands her lie to say that we also sent copies of this letter to various adoption agencies. She then says in the book that she herself made a copy of it and sent it to Mr. Soll, and then had a phone conversation with him, discussing this letter.

In his return email to Gert, Mr. Soll denies any knowledge of this letter, and further says that what Joan writes about him in her book is “patently false.” – so much for her asserting that she is telling the truth in her book, when Mr. Joe Soll says emphatically that she lied about him.

The only time prior to 2010 that any adoption reform agency was ever contacted was ONCE in 1990, after Joan published a short story called “The Secret is Out” in a European adoption reform journal. In this article, Joan used our real names, without our permission or prior knowledge. ONE and ONLY complaint was ever made, and I believe it was one typewritten page!

Never in any correspondence that we have engaged in, have we EVER called Joan an asshole or any other name. As for her claims that we have urged her to commit suicide, nope – on the contrary, in our correspondences, we have urged those who know Joan to reason with her and to seek professional help! Just as we have done on this blog – we have urged Joan many times on this blog, as we had done in person in the past – to seek professional help and get some medication and to stop her anti-social behaviors.

Joan does not produce any proof that we have written to people and agencies and called her an asshole. The only name she produced was Joe Soll, and he disavowed any knowledge of her claim! She does not produce this “40 page letter” she claims we wrote. She does not copy and paste or give the url link to prove to people that we have urged her to commit suicide. She just runs her mouth, and gives no proof to her charges.

We, on the other hand, DO give the proof – the evidence – of all that we say and do. Whatever we say on any internet forum – we copy and paste what we have written, AND provided the url link to the site so that readers can double check that what we say on this blog, is the TRUTH!

We deal in truth. Joan deals with falsehoods. It’s just as plain and simple as that. 

addendum, May 15, 2011, 1:00pm

I have on file scanned copies of the complaint that was sent protesting the use of our true names in Joan Wheeler’s short story “The Secret is Out.” I shall be composing a blog post detailing this invasion of our privacy by Joan Wheeler in the year 1990, and will post the complaint about said use of our names in publication WITHOUT our knowledge or permission. And there is not ONE reference to Joan as an “asshole.”

In 1992, my sister Kathy Inglis, received a condescending letter from Joan’s friend, Dr. Rene Hoksbergen. this was due to Joan not shipping to England several boxes of personal belongings of Kathy, who had sent Joan money orders to cover the shipping costs. Joan refused to ship the belongings, and involved Dr. Hoksbergen in Kathy’s personal life, by lying to Dr. Hoksbergen that it would cost about $500.00 to ship over the belongings, and Joan did not have the money. (what happened to the money that Kathy sent – Joan used it for her own living expenses, because she was too lazy to get off her butt and get a job). My father eventually got involved, took a cab to Joan’s house to collect Kathy’s belongings and shipped them over to her to the final cost of $150.00. And Joan did NOT return all of the belongings. – missing are valuable Beatles collectibles. My father shipped over vinyl records, which as I said, cost him $150.00. Nowhere near the $500.00 Dr. Hoksbergen was led to believe it would cost.

Kathy wrote a letter to Dr. Hoksbergen, in essence, telling him to mind his own business. And she wrote a letter of complaint to Utrecht University because of his unprofessional manner in sticking his nose into our family business. Gert also sent off a letter to Dr. Hoksbergen, again telling him to mind his own business. And in these three missives, there is no mention of Joan Wheeler of being an asshole. And I have the scanned copies of these letters, and they will be posted to this blog as proof that we may have contacted “adoption reform professionals,” but with good reason, and we never used those letters to call Joan an asshole.

As stated above, we Sippel Sisters deal in the Truth, and provide proof of it with written documentation. Joan deals in falsehoods and offers no proof of anything that comes out of her mouth.

NOTE FROM GERT…May 9, 2016…what is said in this post…long before I had my own computer and internet access and was using Ruth’s blog…is the TRUTH. We don’t have to lie for we did NOT WRITE A BOOK against anyone. We have only ever DEFENDED OUR AND OUR FAMILY’S REPUTATIONS AGAINST THE SICK LIES OF JOAN M WHEELER

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