The Truth Stands Alone – a lesson that Joan Wheeler really needs to learn January 26, 2012Posted by Ruth in Contradictions of Joan Wheeler, Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
Tags: abuse, bullying, contradictions, dishonesty, false accusations, harassment of an adoptee's birth family, Lies, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements, SLANDER, spreading untruths
On Joan’s webiste, she has the following: “unauthorized use and/or duplication of this material pertaining to the author’s life, personal and professional opinions, without express and written permission this website’s author and owner is strictly prohibited.”
mmmm, sounds pretty straighforward – except we are dealing with a person who is two-faced. Joan M. Wheeler wants to copyright HER life, but she writes a book that has things about MY life. And she LIED about my life and NEVER got written or oral permission to write about me in the first place.
So let it be known, that Joan is in violation of MY privacy. And always had every intent to be in violation of my privacy. Here is an excerpt from an old book proposal that she sent out more than 15 years ago when she was trying to get a publishing house to publish her book (before she had to resort to self-publishing it via a vanity press because no reputable publisher wanted to touch it).
“The author questioned several lawyers on the possible legal problems with an autobiography. All are in agreement that the truth stands alone. The author has compiled sufficient documentation as proof to back up her statements.
The author will maintain her identity throughout the book. Family members’ names will remain unchanged since they were published in various obituaries and newspaper articles. The author will use only the first names wherever possible, and a fictitious name for a relative or friend if that person’s name is not part of a public record.”
Oh yes, we’ve heard that crap from Joan in the past that she spoke to lawyers. Uh-huh, and just what did she tell them? I guarantee it wasn’t the truth. – But that’s not what I want to talk about.
I want to talk about how 15 years ago, she fully intended to violate MY privacy by publishing MY real name. Doesn’t matter if MY name was in my mother’s obituary, because if Joan had protected my mother’s privacy, my privacy would have been protected as well. But we see how this works AGAINST Joan – Joan says on her cyberbullying page that we sisters identified ourselves on our blog BEFORE her book came out. (I covered the actual timeline that this blog was created and when the book was published in my post of December 8, 2011 “Joan Wheeler FINALLY announces the demise of her book Forbidden Family, but still shows evidence of her silly delusions”). Well, now, to take Joan’s logic in her book proposal, since our names were part of the public records from the 1950’s does it really matter what she says on her cyberbullying page? No, it negates what she says. And it shows how she is just grasping at straws to show how SHE is in the right, even though it is a 180 degree turnabout. She has actually argued for BOTH sides of my privacy issue.
And to publish my name, she needed written permission to use my name, which she never got, therefore, in the published final version of the book, my name WAS changed. HOWEVER, Joan left enough clues to identify me. These clues were discussed in that post I referenced above.
But to take things further, Joan deliberately LIED about me in the final version of her book. Like falsely reporting that I have an arrest record, falsely reporting that I was placed on probation, falsely reporting that I was a computer hacker on my job and tampered with Joan’s hospital financial records. Falsely accused me harassing her. Falsely accused me of calling child abuse on her, falsely accusing me of accusing her of having an affair with my fiance. Falsely reporting actual court proceedings in her book. All these falsehoods in a book that was supposed to be the TRUTH. All these falsehoods that were PROVEN to the publisher and the end result? – Joan’s precious book was KILLED!
Now what did she say in that book proposal about the TRUTH? –
“the truth stands alone.” Well, if that’s the case, and she reports in a book proposal that several lawyers were in agreement with that premise and basically gave her the go-ahead to publish my name, why was the final product changed? Gee, I thought “THE TRUTH STANDS ALONE.”
Yep, she ended up changing my first name because SHE DELIBERATELY INTENDED to write all those falsehoods against me. She tried to pull a fast one and guess what? The TRUTH came back to slap Joan in the face!
Oh, I love the TRUTH. I don’t fear the truth. yeah, I’m quite aware of that time old saying “the truth hurts.” But the truth doesn’t hurt me. Because I have always abided by the truth. Only a liar fears the truth. Only a liar like Joan. Because for her, the truth really does hurt. — yeah, that slap hurt like hell – and she deserved it. She deserves every little thing that she gets.
And by the way Joan, MY life is copyrighted too. You don’t get a second chance to smear my good name. Your book is dead, and it will remain dead. Scrap more money together and self-publish that lying crap again, and the results will be the same: another death. Because you tried to defraud Trafford Publications, your credibilty is shot. And I will sue the pants off ANY publishing house or entity that puts out your lying crap book. And that’s a promise baby. That’s the TRUTH – AND THE TRUTH STANDS ALONE!
Well said, Ruth!
Joan’s argument that because, in our mother’s obit, her children’s names were published, means that it was OKAY for Joan to identify us, is so full of holes, an ocean runs through it.
Joan’s birth name is also published in that obit, but, that named person, NO LONGER EXISTS. Joan can claim both those names as they are hers, but, she had no right to EXPLOIT, for fame and profit, the rest of OUR FAMILY. Joan USED better judgement when it came to the ADOPTED FAMILY.
No, Joan can’t worm her way around the FACT AND TRUTH that she provided plenty of documentation for anyone to FIND OUT the real names of those she exploits and lies about in that hate-filled book and on her websites plural.
Joan had NO RIGHT to publish documents with our parents names on it, where they lived, etc. Living or dead makes no different. Joan crossed over the line of respectability and familiar honor when she published our family’s names and faces. Those acts are acts of dishonor and in the old days someone who had done an act of dishonor would have been buried FACE DOWN IN THE GRAVE!
In several places Joan states that she spoke to lawyers, in the plural, but not ONCE does she ever name a lawyer. If she did indeed have a lawyer, that lawyer’s name ought to be presented, so that people can contact the lawyer to verify Joan’s claims. It is well known that Joan not only contacts lawyers, at the public’s expense, but she also hounds them to the point of where they refuse to take her calls, which causes her to hound them again and again.
We have already proven that Joan has used a well-known adoption reformer’s name and position to further her lying case against the birth siblings. Does the name Joe Soell mean anything to the adoption reform movement? Go ask him directly, like I did, if Joan Wheeler told the truth, as written in that book, or did she fabricate it?
Joan Wheeler has an identity problem. She must use both her names, she must tell her story, and to do so she must tell about the birth family and the adoptive family. She should NEVER have written a book…her life isn’t all that interesting or important. But by writing a book about her life, she has written a book about many other people that were NEVER asked for permission for their lives to be written about, let alone twisted and lied about by the diseased mind of Joan Wheeler.
Joan Wheeler needs to hide in shame for the personal disgrace of betraying her birth family!
very well said Gert. And to save anybody any trouble to ask Joe Soll what he said – I will quote him. In Joan’s published version of her book – she says she received a 40 page letter written by her birthsisters “throwing her out of the family.” She says in the book she sent Mr. Soll a photocopy of this letter. She says in the book that she phoned him and they discussed this letter.
Gert emailed Mr. Soll in May 2010. Within a half hour of receiving Gert’s email, Mr. Soll wrote back and said that what Joan wrote in her book about his was “patently false.” — patently FALSE!
But Joan keeps insisting that what she wrote in the book was TRUTH. But here comes an adoption expert, and reports a FALSEHOOD!
And another little item I found in that book proposal: she originally intended to pubish 20 photographs in the book – and in her own words some of those photographs were of BIRTH FAMILY MEMBERS! And where were the legal signatures from those birth family members giving her permission to publish those pictures? Well, she eventually didn’t publish those photos, – wise move Joan.
OH – the subject of a lawyer – I will name one – Mr. R. Campo – who was hired by us to do the legal work for buying real estate. We were in his office strictly to do legal work for real estate – and then Joan brought a huge pile of papers and asked him to look over it for a “civil lawsuit” regarding her adoption. He said he would take a look “when he had the time.” Because he was given a retainer fee for the real estate work, and NOT the adoption issue, he didn’t take the time. (He wasn’t going to work for free). Joan got upset, hounded the man to the point that he got angry with her, and then got angry with me, when I had nothing to do with Joan’s adoption issue. This was back in 1990. It is now 22 years later and Joan is STILL looking around for a lawyer to handle her civil case. Because she has hounded the hell out of every lawyer in Buffalo – and then turned to the internet and wrote falsehoods when trying to find legal answers.
Does Joan not know the definition of the word TRUTH? Apparently not!