A short April Fool’s note to Joan Wheeler March 31, 2012Posted by Ruth in Having Fun with Disfunctionality.
While you were busy writing a lying book judging and condemning your birth sisters and others, a funny thing happened. Your little secret skeletons poured out. And this is no April Fools – it’s the Truth. Because we deal in Truth on this blog. And the only thing in our family that is forbidden is — you.
1. gertmcqueen –
too funny!! but oh SO TRUE
people who live in glass houses should NEVER throw stones
Joan’s house of cards….has fallen down!!
all that’s left to do is pick up her garbage and tell the world
oh for sure Gert – we ARE telling the world – that Joan Wheeler is NOT the Miss Goody-Two-Shoes, Squeeky Clean person she presents herself to be.
In a accusatory email she sent to me in January 2004 (which I have posted to this blog), she is accusing me of things I hadn’t done (so what else is new?) Then, without either one of us talking about papers in each other’s possession, she writes this line: “I don’t care how much paper you think you have against me.”
Well, Joan, it’s 8 years later. I’ll bet you’re caring now! Because those papers were the documented proof of YOUR harassments to me. Handwritten letters and envelopes from Joan herself to my husband and his mother trying to turn them against me. Copies of letters that Joan wrote to elected officials smearing my character. Actual court documents that was given to me when Joan and I went to court that prove that what she says in her book and online are LIES.
Yes, Joan, while you were writing lies, you forgot about all that paper that I had. And I’m sharing all that paper with the world. lol – I bet you care now.
HSLDA | Newborn Seized in Hospital by Police, Social Worker March 30, 2012Posted by Ruth in Uncategorized.
of course, it’s not adoption related. wonder if Joan Wheeler and all those angry adoptees would put their militant mouths to take a stand for some REAL social injustice!
Two new posts at our sister blog Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor by Ruth Pace March 24, 2012Posted by Ruth in Uncategorized.
A Tribute to Millard Fillmore Hospital March 24, 2012
Wisdom from Dr. Who on altering facts. March 19, 2012Posted by Ruth in Lessons in Life.
Altering facts is stupid. Because it cannot be done. The facts are the facts.
off bog topic – Women’s Rights being superseded by the Republican Candidates – don’t let them do it. March 15, 2012Posted by Ruth in Announcements and updates, Lessons in Life.
Cap’n Ruth Herr Sippel Pace
David takes a stand for Women’s Rights – are you with us? Because if you’re not – then you are saying your mother, the person who gave you life itself is worthless. Or your daughter – or your sister, or your female relatives and friends. That’s half the human race for goddess’ sake!Regular readers here know that I stand for the civil rights of all people. In the past, I’ve focused on the marriage rights of same-sex couples. (If you’re against marriage equality, do us both a favor and defriend me, I won’t be friends with someone who thinks my civil rights are negotiable.)
But underneath homophobia is something much more pernicious. The root cause of homophobia is misogyny — an inability to recognize and cherish women as equal partners in the human adventure. Beyond that, misogyny is an irrational desire to subjugate and dehumanize women.
I stand for the rights of women. And any male who wants to think of himself as a real man should make the same stand — to stand as an equal partner with his mother, his sister, his daughters, his family, his friends and his neighbors.
Any man who talks about “pussy” and “broads” and “ho’s” and “sluts” and other disrespectful terms — that’s not a real man, that’s a child, a terminal adolescent, a snickering buffoon sneaking a cigarette in the boys’ bathroom while drawing stupid pictures on the walls of the stall. He’s not a grownup, not an adult, and certainly not someone who’s yet capable of recognizing what equality and partnership really mean.
That we even have to have this conversation is a national disgrace.
But when republican candidates talk about eliminating Planned Parenthood, destroying a woman’s right to choose, and eliminating opportunities even for necessary medicine — something is wrong. When republican pundits (like Ann Coulter) say that women shouldn’t even vote, it sounds like we’ve fallen into a tragic time warp of astonishing ignorance.
This pernicious misogyny reveals the squalid patriarchal forces at work behind the republican machinery — a desire to push this nation into an ugly theocratic mindset that will push us into a new dark ages.
Anyone who cherishes liberty — who understands that “liberty and justice for all” must be a commitment in absolute fact — should look long and hard at what the republican candidates are saying.
Over here, I say it’s not just wrong, it’s long past wrong — now it’s evil. If you have a mother, a wife, a daughter, a woman in your life who you love and cherish — will you stand against those who would deny them equality?
That’s where I stand.
a couple of good quotes that Joan Wheeler needs to study and learn – then maybe she wouldn’t be always be in so much trouble and turmoil. March 14, 2012Posted by Ruth in Lessons in Life.
“Free speech, whether it’s online or on the air, carries with it the possibility that others will hold you accountable for your speech. Ignore that at your own risk.” – David Gerrold
“The first duty of every Starfleet officer is to the truth, whether if it’s scientific truth or historical truth or personal truth. It is the guiding principle on which Starfleet is based.” – Captain Jean-Luc Picard (from a fictional character on TV (Star Trek The Next Generation, but still damn good words!)
Big Bad Russ speaks – (Joan Wheeler sics her boyfriend on us) – too bad we found it a year and a half later – well, better late than never.- repost from Gert’s blog March 13, 2012Posted by Ruth in Announcements and updates, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
Tags: hypocrites, liars, Russell Thomas
March 13, 2012 Big Bad Russ speaks – (Joan Wheeler sics her boyfriend on us) – too bad we found it a year and a half later – well, better late than never.
it took us awhile, but we found this gem! Actually Gert found it. Back in the fall of 2010, my blog started receiving some nasty comments from a guy called Russ. He would routinely call me a bitch. I finally labeled his comments as spam so they would automatically go into the spam folder, then be automatically deleted. After a few months, we found out that Russ was Joan’s boyfriend. I had contacted him once via email, asking him to stop leaving obscene comments on my blog, and to not bother answering my email, as I did not wish to have contact with him but he answered me. I don’t remember what he said, but I just ignored him. About a month later he emailed me again. I notified him, via my blog that I do not want him to contact me, and since he contacted me via my private email after I told him not to do, he was now guilty of harassment. I threatened to call the police. We never heard from him again.
This was February 2011. BUT in January 2011, at the funeral home, in the same room that my father lay in his casket, an eyewitness stood behind Russ to await her turn to sign the funeral book. She witnessed the man write a long message at the bottom of a page, turn to another page and sign. She signed after him – and flipped the pages back to read a hate message directed at my father and signed by the names of 4 dead men and one living man, who at the time was in Florida. These 5 men, the brothers of my late mother, who made no bones about not getting along with my father certainly did NOT sign the register. The message was to my father to “rot in hell.” The eyewitness, signing after Russ, noted his name and described him to us. Russ did not know our family, the only way he knew to write this disgusting hateful message was at the request of Joan, who wanted to strike back at everyone in fell swoop – the birth father who gave her up for adoption – her birth sisters who would read it and get upset – the brothers of my mother who didn’t stop her adoption – my father’s new family – my stepmother, her daughters and their families, who, along with myself and my husband in my father’s hospital room made the decision that Joan be excluded from the wake and funeral (due to her troublemaking). We did agree to tell Joan to come to pay her respects at 4:30pm, AFTER the family had left – and she came at 4 – her daughter came in as we were leaving, and she wrote me via facebook that she was with Joan and Russ. They must have been in the car. When someone tells you to come at 4:30 – you come at 4:30 – not 4:00. Catherine also says she didn’t see Russ write it. The eyewitness said that Catherine and her mother Joan were at the casket – with their backs turned away from the book. So of course she didn’t see it. Look, the writing was NOT there when I left at 4pm, the eyewitness and Joan and her boyfriend and daughter were the ONLY ones there between 4pm and 7pm (according to the funeral director) when we returned. The eyewitness also described Joan mouthing off to the funeral director.
We blogged about all this and after I threatened to call the police on Russ – we never heard from him again. But before all that – in October 2010 – Big Bad Russ started his own blog. “Russ’s World.” Gert found it this morning. this is such a joke – Big Bad Russ only had one entry – a clear attack on us – oh wow – we’re scared. But it shows everyone what a hypocrite he is. I also found out that in December 2010, he joined Badoo – a dating service. Apparently, he clicked on Badoo’s request to access the “contacts” he had in his email. So I got a sent an invitation, seemingly from Russ to join Badoo. I did. Under a disquised name and email. And I read his profile – he’s interested in sailing and sex. lol – that’s class!
Here is Big Bad Russ’ one and only blog post, followed the comment that I submitted, but which he will not have the guts to approve and publish.
Posted on October 29, 2010 by rus623 at http://rus623.wordpress.com/2010/10/29/hello-world/
I decided to start this blog after reading so many mean-spirited and slanderous blogs. That, really, is not the way to get your point across. Say what you want to say but don’t attack, demean, or cast aspersions on anyone. I want to publicly apologize here if I have done any of these to anyone. Now to comment specifically on a certain blog here at WordPress. It is posted by Ruth Sipple Pace. In it she attacks her youngest sister most vilely, saying she wanted to remove her sister’s teeth with her fist. This is extremely barbaric. I would like to think this was not a common way for her to act. I do however have doubts about that. The other two sisters, Gert and Kathy, also have disagreements with Joan, but do not sink to quite this level. They all call Joan a liar. I think this might be a collective denial of sins past. So be it. I can’t say I have any proof of what is true. Some one is fabricating but who is left for readers and God to figure out. I tend to believe Joan because I know her. I only know her sisters through their writing, and I am not expecting to meet any of them soon.
I invite everyone to hit both Joan Wheeler’s blog(Cyberbullies) and Ruth’s(Forbidden Family:Lies) blog if you want to see what is going on. I do know that Joan doesn’t want any contact with her sisters. I challenge them to honor that. Comment all you want on her book. Don’t comment on her.
my comment (which is awaiting moderation):
of course, Russ, you won’t dare to print THIS comment – because I shall tell everyone right here and now how MEAN-SPIRITED you are.
Yes, you first come on my blog and call me a bitch. Not once, but twice. Then you emailed me via my private email. And called me a bitch. When I told NOT to email me again, you did. You claimed you were only “trying to help.” Riiggghhttt. you try to help someone by calling them a bitch.
After you were seen by an eyewitness writing a hate message in the funeral book of my father in January 2011, and I blogged about and threatened to call the police – you acted like the cowardly little cur that you are – that is – you hid your tail and ran away. From me, from my blog, AND from your “relationship” with Joan. Oh, you are such a big man. And not very mean-spirited? HA! – well, thanks for the laugh Russ, even if it’s a over a year later.
And I will comment on her – especially because in her book she says that I have an arrest record – which is completely false and I have provided court documentation that disproves it. Joan is a liar – you are a liar – and you are both lying cowards and troublemakers.
When Joan decided to write a slanderous book, she opened herself up to full disclosure of both her book and her personality. that’s the way Freedom of Speech works Russ. If Joan has the Freedom of Speech to say what she wants about me, then surely, I have the same Freedome of Speech to say what I want about her. The only difference is: Joan tells lies. I speak the truth. Apparently, Big Russ couldn’t handle the truth and ran away. Ain’t nobody missing him!
comment by Michelle Herr Rupert (to this blog post)
Russ better hope I never find him, He has NO RIGHT to sign my dead father’s name or bad mouth my family in any way! Michael Herr was my father and I Loved him very much! He might of had his faults but so does everyone, That doesn’t make him a bad man or too have his name forged! Ruth thank you for sharing this.
A Disclaimer – March 6, 2012 March 6, 2012Posted by Ruth in Announcements and updates, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements, Statements from The Three Sippel Sisters.
On March 6, 2012, Joan Wheeler left a comment on Gert’s blog “Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor.” In order to post a comment, one must leave an email address. And Joan left hers. It was an email address that I have known for some time.
(see end of this post for updated material)
Back when I first started my blog Refuting a Book of Lies, I posted a similar disclaimer. Joan had made a statement on her website that The Three Sippel Sisters were going around and leaving disparaging comments about her on various adoption reform forums. That was a lie. In October 2009, Joan was quoted in an adoptee article “Adoptees Face Sting of Discriminiation.” And then left several comments. In her comments, she got the facts of her adoption wrong. I tried to leave my comment, rebuting her, but my comment was not approved. An another website, The Daily Bastardette, the webhostess put up a post promoting Joan’s new book. (November 2009). I tried to leave a respectful comment, but the webhostess chose not to post it. Which was her right. It was because of my frustration in not having my respectful rebuting comments posted, that I began my blog – AFTER Joan’s book was published – which contained a direct reference to an article that contained my true name. My blog, containing my true name was not in existence until AFTER Joan’s book was published, so that makes her statement that we named ourselves on the internet first – a LIE!
So in my original disclaimer – I rebutted the fact that neither I, nor Kathy (Gert was not part of the blog until months later – we are after THREE distinct individuals, not one lumped together entity) were leaving disparaging remarks about Joan on various adoptee websites.
I said pretty much this – and it holds true today as it did then:
If any website is getting any comments from any individual naming themselves as one of the three birth sisters of Joan Wheeler, to please contact us via our blog for authentication purposes. As a matter of fact, after Joan’s book was pulled from publication, we did leave comments spreading the news that it had been pulled. And in the case of The Huffington Post, where Joan, out of the clear blue sky, posted a very vile lie about us and our grandfather, we rebutted the lie. (a complaint was made to Huffington, and Joan’s comments were deleted, her account canceled). In those cases, we left links to our blog(s). And blogged about what we wrote – and posted links to the discussion, so people can readily reference what we write on the internet.
If any website (and this includes Joan’s official website and her email) gets any email or comments with an email purporting to be from any of us birth sisters, please contact me with that email address, the IP address if it can be obtained, and the url address.
The reason? – Because Joan is devious enough to set up fake email addresses in our names, and use those fake email addresses to post as us. Joan did it before. Back in 1993, when she posed as her own 10 year old son, forged a letter to me, addressed the envelope to me, but the inside forged letter was for my husband. The purpose? To bait me to phone her – knowing she had a trace trap on her line – and she then hung up on me when I called. I thought we were disconnected, so I called back – and she hung up again. She then reported to the police that I was calling and hanging up on her and she filed a false police report on me.
So, bottom line, I want any email Joan receives from “us” investigated thoroughly – because it won’t be from us. It might be from Joan herself. Because she likes to play games and lie and twist the truth around. I don’t play games. Never have. I don’t lie. If I make a mistake, I own up to it. Not Joan. Even when the PROOF is shoved right into her face, she keeps on saying, “oh no, I didn’t do that.”
UPDATE November 2016; as older posts are being seen I, Gert, am updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler (Doris Michol Sippel) says about me and family. The first book ‘Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism‘ was published in 2009 but then was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011, for libelous material within the book. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor! Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and rewrote and republished the SAME crap in another book; a Third edition! CALLED ‘Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity’! Talk about conning people!
this blog’s title/sub title is… DUPED BY ADOPTION & AN WOMAN’S STRUGGLE FOR IDENTITY, A BOOK STUDY an in-depth analyzes of the books called Forbidden Family; My Life as an Adoptee Duped by adoption & An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity by Joan M Wheeler/Doris M Sippel.
chapter 37 of Joan Wheeler’s lying libelous book March 1, 2012Posted by gertmcqueen in Uncategorized.
Here’s the next chapter in that hateful book!!