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March 26, 2013

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even BEFORE the libelous book was published Joan Wheeler slandered the birth family

Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor

In early 2010, we birth siblings, found out that Joan Wheeler, our ‘reunited adopted-out’ sister, wrote a book called Forbidden Family. We are that Forbidden Family! this is part one of two

In those early days, when we looked at what was inside the book, we reacted in anger; for we couldn’t believe that she did that! It took a long time before we came to understand the ‘finer’ details of her duplicity, corruption and the various players that were ‘cheering’ Joan Wheeler on and/or attacking us; which is still going on 3 years later.

In those early days, when our own anger, at what she had done, ‘clouded’ our understanding of certain things we were seeing on the internet. Some were so obnoxious and strange that we just didn’t want to look at them! Also we were BUSY with reading, and reacting, to what we were reading. We…

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March 26, 2013

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even BEFORE the libelous book was published Joan Wheeler slandered birth family

Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor

Comments related to November 2009 ABC news story that featured Joan Wheeler. part 2 of 2 posts

I have attempted to place a comment on this site, but it has not been placed. That comment is at the bottom of this post!

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/MindMoodNews/adoptees-cite-discrimination-landmark-study-push-open-birth/story?id=9138141

Gert here: When this story first appeared, I was too busy reading and writing about the contents of the libelous book to play attention to it and other things. I have come to learned that it is NEVER too late to go back and take a closer look at Joan’s positions and words; they reveal a lot and help shed light on her dirty deeds and words for the many who do not know of her history of abuse to the birth family.

First we see a couple of individuals that have ‘ran across’ Joan Wheeler before!

11/30/09 lisa marie Why ABC or any one would use…

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It seems that Joan Wheeler CAN do the right thing when she wants to. But she still will have to pay for the times she went out of her way to lie about her birth sisters March 20, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Contradictions of Joan Wheeler, Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family.
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 About Joan’Wheeler’s comment page on The Huffington Post.–

Since Joan made that libelous statement about me and admitting that she wrote that libelous letter to my employer (Nov 2012) on January 22, 2013, she has made several more comments about adoption and birth certificates. So you will have to scroll down to see the stupid comment she made about me and my sisters – even accusing me of starting my twitter account solely to bother her. really. I took her to task on Huffington – refuting all her bullshit lies there. All her stupid libelous comments AND my replies – with the TRUTH – are all there in one spot. You just have to scroll down a bit.

As to her recent activity on Huffington – with her discussions about adoption and birth certificates – THIS IS WHAT WE’VE BEEN TELLING JOAN TO DO FOR MORE THAN THREE YEARS NOW – have your debates about adoption and birth certificates all you want – we don’t care – JUST LEAVE US THE HELL OUT OF YOUR DISCUSSIONS! AND STOP LYING ABOUT THE CIRCUMSTANCES OF YOUR ADOPTION.

It seems as though Joan is quite capable of discussing her adoption activism WITHOUT DRAGGING US INTO IT OR DISRESPECTING OUR FAMILY after all. Because I have not one single problem with what she has been saying recently on Huffington.

She even FINALLY acknowledged that the natural family relinguished her because there was no other choice. Which actually is a direct contradiction of what she keeps harping about – she keeps saying she is 100% against adoption, and keeps promoting kinship and guardianship care. Which was NOT a viable option in our family.

We’ve told Joan before – if you want to engage in your anti-adoption activism, LEAVE US OUT OF IT. By continually dragging us into it – she opens herself up to our rebuttals.

All she has to EVER say is, “I was adopted when my birth mother died. Due to lack of options of child care, my birth father relinguished me for adoption. My adoptive parents lied to me. I was found by my birth siblings in 1974. A few years later, personality conflicts between us resulted in us not having a relationship.”

That’s all she has to ever say about us. Since she keeps lying about us – we keep telling the truth about us.

1. gertmcqueenMarch 20, 2013

It’s so simple to just tell the truth without harming others!

RuthMarch 20, 2013

absolutely Gert – Joan needs to learn that when she lies, she not only hurts others, she hurts HERSELF as well! By lying on Huffington about me – by writing a lying letter to my employer, SHE has hurt herself. Now she goes on trial for that. Idiot. We’ve been saying on our blogs for over three years to Joan – STOP LYING. JUST TELL THE DAM TRUTH AND STOP TALKING ABOUT US. cos when you tell the truth – you don’t get in trouble. Joan creates the very situations she bitches about. Because she’s a fool.

RuthMarch 21, 2013

let me clarify the title of this blog post. When I say “But she still will have to pay for the times she went out of her way to lie about her birth sisters ” – that is not a threat. It is a fact. If you do somebody wrong – it’s gonna come back to you in some way. Karma baby – it’s called KARMA. It’s called paying for your sins. Somehow, someway, you will reap what you have sown. If you treat people like dirt, the way Joan has treated me and members of my family, someone is going to treat Joan like dirt. It’s the law of the universe – cause and effect. Like I said – it is Joan herself creating the situations she is bitching about. NOBODY TOLD HER TO TELL LIES ABOUT ME. SHE MADE THE CONSCIOUS DECISION TO TELL THE LIES. Now, with her lies exposed, she has to deal with the consequences of her actions and words.

Update on court case against Joan Wheeler – March 19, 2013 March 19, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Announcements and updates, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
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To bring people up to speed – back in November 2012, just after Thanksgiving, my employer’s Human Resources department received a letter falsely accusing me of computer fraud, involving my employer’s computers and computer system. My employer investigated me and found me innocent. Their computer security systems can trace and track every keystroke that I do.

I was not informed of the letter or of the investigation until January 2, 2013, by my immediate supervisor. I was told that a meeting had been set up on January 4. I was told the reason for not telling me sooner was so that I could enjoy my holidays, and the meeting was NOT disciplinary, but for my information.

On the afternoon of January 22, 2013, Joan Wheeler, while shooting her mouth off on The Huffington Post, – (click here to see her comment that contained false accusations against me, and see note below before going to Huffington Post) admitted to being the one who sent that lying letter. Further, she falsely accused me on the internet of calling her house FROM MY EMPLOYER to make appointments for her. (what a crock of shit).

Seeing as she admitted to the CRIME of harassment online, (and further making false accusations of me – making appointments for her) I immediately filed harassment charges on her.

So after a couple of delays, we got in front of the judge today in Family Court, where I was granted a temporary Order of Protection against Joan Wheeler. The terms are that she not contact me in person, or by mail, telephone, email, voice-mail or other electronic or any means and “RESPONDANT (Joan Wheeler) SHALL NOT CONTACT PETITIONER’S (me) EMPLOYER.

We have a new court date next month for Joan to stand trial for her crime of harassing me. The temporary Order of Protection is in effect until that date.

As routine, I filed one copy of the Order of Protection with the Buffalo Police Department. I have a copy for myself that I must carry with me at all times, and was instructed by the police that if the order is violated, I should call 911 immediately.

My attorney advised me to make a photocopy of the one that I have and file it with my employer, to keep them abreast of the situation.

And that’s how it stands as of today. As I always have, I stand up to bullies, liars and intimidators of all kinds.

Ruth’s note about Joan’s comment page on The Huffington Post. Since Joan made that libelous statement on January 22, 2013, she has made several more comments about adoption and birth certificates. So you will have to scroll down to see the stupid comment she made about me and my sisters – even accusing me of starting my twitter account solely to bother her. really. I took her to task on Huffington – refuting all her bullshit lies there. All her stupid libelous comments AND my replies – with the TRUTH – are all there in one spot. You just have to scroll down a bit.

As to her recent activity on Huffington – with her discussions about adoption and birth certificates – THIS IS WHAT WE’VE BEEN TELLING JOAN TO DO FOR MORE THAN THREE YEARS NOW – have your debates about adoption and birth certificates all you want – we don’t care – JUST LEAVE US THE HELL OUT OF YOUR DISCUSSIONS! AND STOP LYING ABOUT THE CIRCUMSTANCES OF YOUR ADOPTION.

It seems as though Joan is quite capable of discussing her adoption activism WITHOUT DRAGGING US INTO IT OR DISRESPECTING OUR FAMILY after all. Because I have not one single problem with what she has been saying recently on Huffington.

She even FINALLY acknowledged that the natural family relinguished her because there was no other choice. Which actually is a direct contradiction of what she keeps harping about – she keeps saying she is 100% against adoption, and keeps promoting kinship and guardianship care. Which was NOT a viable option in our family.

We’ve told Joan before – if you want to engage in your anti-adoption activism, LEAVE US OUT OF IT. By continually dragging us into it – she opens herself up to our rebuttals.

All she has to EVER say is, “I was adopted when my birth mother died. Due to lack of options of child care, my birth father relinguished me for adoption. My adoptive parents lied to me. I was found by my birth siblings in 1974. A few years later, personality conflicts between us resulted in us not having a relationship.”

That’s all she has to ever say about us. Since she keeps lying about us – we keep telling the truth about us.

Joan Wheeler just got caught in another blatant lie, March, 2013 March 18, 2013

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I am copying and pasting Gert’s latest blog post and my comment here in it’s entirety- because it shows – proof positive – that Joan cannot stop LYING and making herself out to being oh-so-very-important. This is a classic case of resume padding.

Here is Gert’s post of March 18, 2013, “A single cow, in the cattle drive, is just another cow! Nothing special!”

While taking a look at Joan Wheeler’s website yesterday I noticed something NEW. And yes I look at her web page. She looks at mine! She has been ‘resume padding’ again! Under the topic/tab ‘author’ we find the following paragraph:  

‘Joan Wheeler has been interviewed on radio in Erie, Pennsylvania, 1975; Liverpool, England, 1976; Hamilton, Ontario, Canada, 1977; Buffalo, New York, 1980, 1982, 1986, 1995 and 2007; and Internet Radio via phone-in to Fall River, Massachusetts, 2006 and 2007. Joan has also appeared on local Public Television in Buffalo, New York in 1980 and short TV interviews by local channels from 1980 to 1982. She was an un-paid extra in the movie The Natural, 1983.’  

‘un-paid extra’….translation…a unrecognized face in the crowd!  

Joan Wheeler really NEEDS to be recognized, no matter how tiny a role!   Well, let’s see what she says about this in her book, Forbidden Family. She changed her husband name to Randy. In 1983 she was pregnant. On Page 236;  

‘When we returned home, we….because Randy went straight to work on a movie set. Just a few weeks before….we watched as a Hollywood movie company came to Buffalo…for ….film, The Natural. Randy and I joined thousands of others in the cattle call. When I heard that they had a maternity ward scene in the movie, I thought for sure I’d get in, but it wasn’t me the casting director wanted. It was Randy. ‘  

‘When they got done with him he looked like a different person. Randy worked with the movie crew for two days…crew worked strange hours…I was jealous and anxious to be a part of the action. When they called for an open casting call, I showed up wearing a light colored maternity dress and waddled through the crowd. I couldn’t visit with my husband for very long because they chased me back up to the distant seats of the old baseball stadium, along with the thousands of others who wanted a chance to be in a movie. Randy and company sat close to the action and…’  

That’s all folks! What does that have to do with her adoption reform movement? How does that help with her experience? She was just another cow in the cattle drive! No experience needed!

My comment:

Ruth   I printed out her recent “resume” padding – which is a direct contradiction of her so-called “truthful” book. Why not make it easy on yourself Joan? Stop LYING. Did you lie in your book? Or are you currently lying here in your new “resume?” – Either way – it shows people what we’ve been saying all along – YOUR A DAM LIAR!

Because – SHE WASN’T IN THE MOVIE AS AN UNPAID EXTRA – SHE SAYS IT RIGHT THERE ON PAGE 236 OF HER LYING BOOK “…IT WASN’T ME THE CASTING DIRECTOR WANTED. IT WAS RANDY.”

Joan Wheeler has the flu (sniffle, sneeze) – the weather is crummy – and I got a great story to finish reading anyway! March 13, 2013

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So today, Wednesday, March 13, 2013, 2pm,  I was supposed to be in court to do battle with Joan Wheeler. I filed harassment charges against her back in January because she contacted my job with false accusations of me committing computer fraud. Then she brags about this criminal act on Huffington Post.

Well, I just got a call from my lawyer – we have to postpone because Joan “has the flu.” oh dear! This is why they give out free flu shots. I got mine the first week in January.

Listen, the flu shot will NOT “give” you the flu. You might have a slightly sore arm – just take some tylenol and move the arm to distrubute the vaccine. And time it right. I got my shot just after work one morning, knowing I would be off the next 3 days. And with no immediate plans to go anywhere or do anything, I just rested and watched some DVDs.

So now I’m free for the day. The weather is rather dull and crummy. Gray and dreary, cold with a few snowflakes. Who wants to go out in that kind of weather? I got some housework to do. But first — I have something to do.

Yesterday, I found a GREAT fan-fiction story of the meeting and budding romance of Sarek and Amanda – the parents of Mr. Spock of Star Trek. It is called The Vulcan’s Wife.” click here to get to the story.   The author only gives the screenname of Aphrodite420. She is a great writer. This story will have you laughing, almost crying. The whole gamut of emotions – of which, we know Vulcans DO have, they just suppress them.

So yesterday, I only got to chapter 30. And now I can go and finish it.

If any of you readers are Star Trek fans, go check out the story – you will love it. There are some sex scenes, nothing really too explicit or smutty. But you will enjoy it.

To whet your appetite, here are a couple of pictures of Sarek and Amanda as they appeared in the original Star Trek series, (Mark Lenard and Jane Wyatt) and the 2011 movie (Ben Cross and Winona Ryder). I also found some fan paintings on the internet. Enjoy!

Sarek and Amanda TOS

ben cross - sarek

winona ryder - amanda

amanda and sarek by ayumi lemura

sarek and amanda share a kiss by kyuketsuki vain-

1. gertmcqueenMarch 13, 2013

Our Day Will Come!! she can’t hide forever, she has to appear in court to answer the charges against her, she did the crime, she’ll have to do the time!

Ruth here – Right Gert. meanwhile, I forgot to put this picture up – It’s a family portrait of Sarek, Amanda, and their young son Spock – who must be forced to exhibit a smile for the camera:

sarek, amanda and spock

2. PaulaMarch 13, 2013

She probably did get a flu shot. She’s either lying or the Universe is trying to do away with her sooner rather than later. :)

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3. RuthMarch 14, 2013

I don’t know Paula – she may be telling the truth – or not. That’s the trouble with habitual liars – you don’t know when they ARE telling the truth. As to your statement that the universe is trying to do away with her — you may be more right than you know. — She’s ALWAYS sick with something or other. Because she doesn’t take care of herself. And I don’t just mean physically – I mean spiritually! Hanging on to so much negativity just drags a person down. She even says so in her book! She describes how she was so full of self-loathing she was drinking, doing drugs, driving drunk, not eating, not bathing, not washing her hair, not cooking for her kids. (what a life those poor kids must have had). She’s been in therapy for more than 30 years and STILL hasn’t gotten any better. Why? BECAUSE SHE DOESN’T WANT TO GET BETTER. She wants the attention. She craves the sympathy. If you REALLY look at what she says and writes – it’s ALWAYS “poor poor pitiful Joan. Woe is me. I had a fucked up life – feel sorry for me. ” And when you don’t feel sorry for her – beware – you are placed on her list of people she will get back at.

When my lawyer told me yesterday she had the flu, I didn’t say it to him – but in my mind, I said, “yeah — right.”

But hey! Like I said above – I really really didn’t want to go out yesterday. It was cold, windy. Downtown Buffalo gets the wind right off Lake Erie – I was NOT looking forward to it. – and today is less windy, but still cold. And I already informed the hubby we are NOT going shopping today. – it will wait until tomorrow. I have to go out tomorrow evening anyway – going ghost-hunting! Got my digital recorder ready. – Buying a digital thermometer and a K2 meter next month. Then I’ll need a spirit box and an Ovolus – these are devices that actually let the ghost “speak” to you using electronics.

And tonight – tonight I will finish up reading the Sarek and Amanda story. — oh, can’t wait!

–Ruth here again – speaking of Amanda – I was watching an old VCR tape this morning while I was working out – the 2009 Halloween Ghost Hunters Special. I had used an old tape that had several episodes of Hercules the Legendary Journeys. (I have the entire Hercules series and entire Xena series on DVD, so I taped over some of the episodes) One of the episodes that didn’t get erased was called Prince Hercules and guest starred actress Sam Jenkins. As I watched Sam – I realized that she is how I imagine the young Amanda Grayson to be. Here is Sam in her role in the episode Prince Hercules. She came and guested in another couple of episodes — and lucky girl — she married the star of the show Kevin Sorbo. I’ve included a picture of them on their wedding day. – In fact, I just finished Kevin’s book “True Strength” – chronciling how he suffered a stroke just 3 months before they married. And how Sam fought for him to find the strength to fight for his health. She is a remarkable woman. – just like Amanda.

Sam Jenkins ph  sam and kevin

Ruth here again – talking Trek – why do I imagine Sam as the young Amanda? Why not Winona Ryder? Because I think of Beetlejuice when I see Winona!

I couldn’t accept her as Amanda in the 2009 movie – I could accept Ben Cross as Sarek. That was hard enough to accept anyone other than the late Mark Lenard as Sarek. But I have gone on record stating that I do NOT accept the new Star Trek. Chris Pine is good as Kirk, Bruce Greenwood as Pike, and Karl Urban as McCoy. As much Zachary Quinto resembles Nimoy – his Spock is too stiff. Nimoy’s Spock flowed with natural energy. And I hated a skinny fashion model as Uhura. They should have gone with Sanaa Lathan (Aliens vs. Predators) to portray Uhura. And I cannot accept a love affair between Uhura and Spock. 

 JJ Abrahms – the producer of the new Trek – has gone on record saying he is NOT a Trek fan. Then why is doing Trek? — He has killed Star Trek for me.  – At least any new Trek. I still have the entire original series and animated series and Star Trek Enterprise on dvd. As well as all the movies (yes, even this hated one), and several seasons of Next Gen, Deep Space 9 and Voyager on dvd. Am working on completing my collection. I also have an extensive library of Star Trek novels, magazines and fanzines.

And keeping with my love of Trek, I head up a local Star Trek fan-group, The USS Ari – a starship – of which I am the commanding officer – rank: Captain. – and will be working on our newsletter next week for our meeting next month – the first since the onset of winter.

Joan Wheeler says (about adoptees) “One by one we tell what happened to us!” and one by one, her birth sisters tell what happened to them. March 8, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Uncategorized.
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Back in January 2013, Joan left a comment on an online newspaper and said “One by one we tell what happened to us!”

Gert wrote a blog post about it, “One Person at a Time; we, the birth family, are telling our story of how adoption has effected our lives” on March 7, 2013.

To which I left the following comment:

Joan said in her comment in January “One by one we tell what happened to us!”  Well now, in reading her book and Joan’s online garbage, Gert and I have seen many lies told by Joan about OUR own dam lives! And we have put up our blogs to tell the truth about OUR lives.  One by one we tell what happened to us! Which is our RIGHT to do so. If I want to tell a story about what happened to ME in the third grade, that is MY right. Who gave Joan the right to tell a fabrication about ME and what happened to ME in MY childhood? NOBODY. And since she is going to tell in public LIES about MY childhood, I will tell the truth about MY life.  One by one we tell what happened to us!

Guardianship, as alternative to adoption, doesn’t work in the real world; its just another one of Joan Wheeler’s fantasies! March 6, 2013

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Guardianship, as alternative to adoption, doesn’t work in the real world; its just another one of Joan Wheeler’s fantasies! on March 6, 2013

Learn this: Joan Wheeler – my employer’s security is damn good! March 2, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
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I came across an interesting news item published in our local newspaper The Buffalo News. I tried to find the piece on The News website so I could give a url address, but since The News changed their website several months ago, it’s hard to find anything! So I will just type this out.

from the “Police & Courts” section of The Buffalo News, Tuesday, February 26, 2013 —

Woman is charged in theft of medication from hospital.

A 20-year-old Genesee Street woman was being held on grand larceny and criminal possession of stolen property for allegedly breaking into a secured medication cart at Buffalo General Medical Center about 2a.m. Monday and stealing a number of medications.

When hospital security went after her, she fled, but according to police reports, the stolen medications were recovered on Main Street, and she was arrested at Elmwood Avenue and North Street a short time later. Hospital security staff had video of her breaking into the medication cart, according to police. — end of news item.

For those not familiar with the City of Buffalo streets, Buffalo General Medical Center (formerly known as Buffalo General Hospital) is on High st., one block east of Main St. North street is two blocks north of Main St. and Elmwood Ave is about 4 or 5 blocks west of Main St. – So when this girl ran out the hospital – probably from the new emergency room that has its entrance on North Street (yeah, BGMC is huge! that ER is two city blocks away from the wing that I work in). – So she headed up North St, dumped the evidence on Main St, and continued on North St. until she got to Elmwood Ave. – which is only about a 15-20 minute walk (I used to live on Elmwood Ave. and would walk to work, so I know).

So our security guys had the suspect captured on video, called Buffalo Police. Also, BGMC has its own fleet of security vehicles, and they may have tailed her and alerted the Buffalo Police as to where the suspect was headed.

On January 22, 2013, Joan Wheeler posted a lying comment of The Huffington Post falsely accusing me of calling from my employer (BGMC) and making appointments for her. – I’ve already blogged about that in this post. Joan Wheeler stupidly refuses to understand and respect personal boundaries February 15, 2013

I said in that post that there is no way for me to call from my employer and make appointments for her. I work the 7pm to 7am overnight shift and don’t get into the building until after 6pm. Departments that have appointments to be seen are long closed by the time I get there. Now, there are occasions that I might be in the building during the daytime. Even on those occasions it would be impossible for me to make appointments for Joan. I can’t just walk into the outpatient department and sit at the receptionist’s desk, and use their phone to call Joan.

Now don’t forget those ever-present security cameras that are all over the place! Why am I not on camera doing all these things that Joan is accusing me of? And if RUTH is calling on the phone, doesn’t Joan know my voice on the phone?

TELL US THE DETAILS JOAN! – You got a phone call setting you up for an appointment? When? What date and time did you receive this call or calls? What was the nature of the phone call? What was said? For what department or doctor or service was the appointment for?

See, this is what Joan does all the time – accuses me or other people of doing “things” to her, BUT SHE NEVER TELLS US THE DETAILS — SHE NEVER PROVIDES ANY PROOF OF IT!

In less than two weeks, I will DEMAND the proof of it. I want her to put up or shutup. I am sick and tired of these endless false accusation against me. This is slander Joan and you will pay for this slander.

I have challenged Joan Wheeler multiple times on this blog to a lie detector test. She has never responded. I am willing to take a lie detector test. Are you Joan? Either put up or shut up. Take a lie detector test or shut up. I will demand that the both of us take a lie detector test when we appear in court. I DEMAND IT!

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