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Transformation July 29, 2013

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Psychopaths lie. July 29, 2013

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Salem Witch Hunt


Psychopaths’ lack of empathy and guilt allows
them to lie without inhibitions or remorse;
they do not see the value of telling the truth
unless it will help get them what they want.

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Has Joan Wheeler learned any lessons from the past 3 years? NO, she still thinks she’s gotten away with something! July 24, 2013

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Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor

What happens when you write a libelous book and try to silence those that you have harmed?  You get exposed. You are discredited. You lose.

Ruth just wrote a post about the court outcome of the harassment charge against Joan from when Joan, in January 2013, falsely accused Ruth of violating her work place computers. That post is here….

Joan Wheeler perjures herself TWICE on the stand today, July 23, 2013 July 23, 2013

My comments are better served via a new post.

Behind everyone’s backs, for years, Joan Wheeler kept writing her ‘spin’ on events, encounters and situations for her ‘block-buster’ of a book that would make her a world renowned adoption activist! She would be a millionaire. A movie would be made of her life…so that NO child would ever be adopted again. What utter nonsense!

What she forgot is that she wrote lies about REAL PEOPLE. She tried…

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Joan Wheeler perjures herself TWICE on the stand today, July 23, 2013 July 23, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Contradictions of Joan Wheeler, Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
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Joan Wheeler perjures herself TWICE on the stand today, July 23, 2013

addendum to this post  keep reading for explanation – Joan testified that she has NO connection with anyone from Buffalo General Hospital – I mentioned that she is facebook friends with one Laura Heath – Laura J. Stickney-Heath, whose husband Thomas D. Heath was caught redhanded “following” me on facebook on July 16, 2013. Laura is a former cow-worker of mine, who after I booted her off my facebook page, went seeking out Joan on facebook to friend her to — what? Combine forces with Joan to do shit against me? Anyway – Laura has listed on her facebook page many current and former Buffalo General employees – so tell the court again and perjure yourself again Joan – how you have no connection with anybody from Buffalo General – you’re a fucking liar Joan. And both you are Laura are shit trouble-makers. Grow the fuck up – both you bitches.

So we get to court today for Joan to answer criminal stalking and harassment charges for contacting my employer with false accusations.

I was sworn in and my lawyer asked me some questions to lay the basis of my charges against her. One of the questions was to what my online screen name was and did I know Joan’s online screen name. I answered truthfully that my screen name is LadyMoondancer and Joan goes by several, forbidden-family is one of them.

My lawyer then submitted into evidence the screenshot and printout that I had made of Joan’s admission to contacting my employer with false accusations.

Joan’s lawyer objected because we did not establish a foundation that my employer was contacted and that I was reprimanded.

To remind readers, – my employer, Buffalo General Hospital, received a letter in Nov. 2012 that stated that I was using their computers to harass Joan via the internet – by reading her blog. Sorry toots – your blog is out there FOR people to read. And the medical library has computers for public use – we even use them to play games at pogo.com – ON OUR OFF DUTY HOURS! So if I’m using those computers on my lunch break – sorry Joan – I haven’t broken any rules laid down by BGH. Joan also said that the Kaleida IP address showed up on her website tracker. So? What does that prove? Kaleida’s complimentary WI-FI service is used by literally thousands of people everyday by staff, patients and visitors. And how do I know that Joan herself didn’t drive to BGH, park on the street, access the BGH WI-FI with a laptop and go to her blog to make it look like I did that. She has done underhanded shit before to make it looke like I did stuff – namely like call child abuse on herself using MY name. Yes, in December 1994, she called the child abuse hotline and said she was me and named my fiance as an abuser. – Like I’m going to give out my real name and name my own fiance as a child abuser – oh grow up Joan.

So back to 2012/2013 – When BGH received the letter – they investigated me and found me innocent. So much for Joan’s trying to make trouble for me.

But my lawyer argued that the internet message was proof enough that Joan was harassing me and the judge allowed the message to be entered into evidence.

I left the stand and Joan took the stand and was sworn in. My lawyer showed her the printout I had made of her internet  post and asked her to read it. She started to read it out loud, but then was told to read it to herself. When she was done, she looked up at my lawyer. He asked her point-blank if she had written that post.

She looked him right in the eye, moments after being sworn in to tell the truth and LIED – she said, “no. I didn’t write that.”

My jaw dropped open! Then my lawyer said something else (I don’t remember what) and asked her again if she had written the post.

Joan cocked her head to one side, then the other, very jauntily, then said rather cockily, “Yeah, I wrote it.”

OH! But did she not just say she DIDN’T WRITE IT? Perjury and contradicting herself! – so what else is new? Joan is such a pathological habitual filthy liar – that she automatically LIES!

My lawyer then brought up the second part of her post – the false accusation that I had “called from my employer for me to make appointments at your place of employement.”

First, before we go further – the wording she wrote on Huffington – she said that I had called FROM MY EMPLOYER. – but that’s not what she said in court.

Okay, I’m going to paraphrase here and this is the cock and bull shit stupid story she said.

Sometime in January of this year (2013) she received a phone call from Buffalo general’s cardiac department. (and she kept switching from saying the call came from the cardiac department to the imaging department and back again to the cardiac department and then back to the imaging department). Anyway, supposedly – whatever department (make up your mind Joan) called her on her unpublished phone number to remind her to make an appointment for an echocardiogram. Then a few minutes later, when she said the call came from the imaging department – the apppointment was supposed to be for a mammogram.- Guess what people? – The EKG/EEG  (echocardiogram) and mammograms are done in TWO DIFFERENT DEPARTMENTS! Which is why she couldn’t keep her story straight – and kept bouncing from one department to another. She also said that 30 years ago I worked in the cardiac department. WRONG! I have NEVER worked in the cardiac department. I have always worked on the nursing units – from 1972-1985 on a general med-surg nursing unit. From 1985-1990 I worked on a nursing unit that took care of cardiac – mostly angiology patients. Big difference baby. From 1990-94, in the Medical Intensive Care Unit. From 1994-2000 a floor that was GYN, had 7 hospice beds, two lead shielded rooms for nuclear med patients, from 2000 to present in the kidney transplant nursing unit/renal nursing unit. Why the fuck don’t you do your research babe? AND  I worked 1972-1976 night shift – 11pm-7am. 1976-1980 day shift, 7am-3pm. 1980-2011 night shift – 11pm-7am. 2011 to present, night shift – 7pm – 7am. Now get your false accusations lined up to my correct hours and duties, idiot.

She said that she doesn’t go to BGH for anything and she just KNEW the call had come from me.

My lawyer asked her to explain. She said, the call from BGH was a message left on their answering machine for them to call Joan and remind her to call to make an appointment. My lawyer asked her what steps she took to make sure it was Ruth who made the call. Did she ask BGH to play the recording for her so she could listen to the voice? Joan said she had asked them that, but they had erased the message (how convenient). My lawyer asked her something else, then she said, “well it is my SUPPOSITION that Ruth made that call.”


I was trying very hard not to laugh out loud.

Then Joan further perjured herself by saying that I am the only person she knows that works at Buffalo General Hospital. And she has NO CONNECTION WITH ANYONE FROM BUFFALO GENERAL HOSPITAL.

OH REALLY? On Joan’s facebook page, she is freinds with a Laura Heath – yes the very Laura J. Stickney-Heath whose husband Thomas D. Heath was caught red-handed last week following me on my facebook page and I wrote all about it in this blog post – “Joan Wheeler has a couple of new puppets to spy on me – Thomas Heath and Laura Stickney-Heath – roflmao! July 17, 2013”

Joan and Laura became friends in June 2010 after I booted Laura off my facebook for disrespecting me. Laura got into a hissy fit and ran off looking for Joan on facebook and friended her.

Laura quit working at BGH about a year ago but that doesn’t mean anything – Joan said she has no connection with anyone from Buffalo General Hospital – a former employee is FROM BGH. and how do I know that LAURA didn’t make that call to BGH to make it look as though I did it.

And really, how do we know that ANY call was ever made? Joan makes up stories as she goes. Where is her proof? If I don’t have proof that a letter was received by Buffalo General Hospital accusing me of stuff, what proof is there that a phone call was received by BGH? and here’s something – because Joan had called child abuse on herself in 1994, posing as me, how do we know that she herself didn’t make this phone call to BGH? mmmm? food for thought. Like I said before – Joan makes up shit and lies and makes up little scenarios and little schemes.

Now here is the contradiction about this supposed phone call that BGH received – the message on Huffington Post said that I “have called from your employer for me to make appointments.” BUT in court she said that I placed a call TO BGH and THEY called her.

God dammit Joan – MAKE UP YOUR MIND!

So the judge actually dismissed it because we hadn’t proved that a letter was received by BGH and that Joan had written it and blah blah blah. I had asked Human Resources to give a copy of the letter, but their legal department wouldn’t give it to me – and without it, my lawyer couldn’t prove “proper foundation.”

I am not upset – because – my lawyer is going to get the transcripts of today’s proceedings and when I get them – I will have them notarized and scanned and post them to this blog so everyone can see for themselves how Joan committed perjury!

So I don’t think of today’s dismissal of my charges a defeat – oh hell no – I think of it as a victory – cos Joan got caught in a lie and I will post the proof of the lie when I get the actual court transcriptions.

I wanna see her worm her way of that!

And by all means, Joan – keep on calling BGH with your foolish phone calls. And keep on telling your asshole lies – because all your bullshitting has accomplished – NOTHING! I’m still working there baby. I go in at 7pm – do what I supposed to do and leave at 7am.

BGH is quite aware of your harassment of me – your lies were investigated and I was proven innocent. – Your reputation in BGH is now like it is on Huffington and various other internet sites – a stupid lying idiot.

You tried back in 1994-1995 with multiple, multiple phone calls and letters to Buffalo General Hospital, and it got you nowhere. Keep it up baby. Because one of these days, Kaleida’s legal department might just rear up and start a harassment charge of their own against you because you keep calling them with stupid nonsense.

And whatever will you do when I retire? Oh no – I will have taken away your plaything. Well, hell, I took it away already. Your name is on file at BGH as a crackpot.

And I’ve blogged about Laura J. Stickney-Heath and her husband Thomas D. Heath’s trying to worm their way into my life last week. Now, I’m only basing this on my SUPPOSITION that Laura had anything to do with this mess – but by god, if she did – she’s going to find herself in a heap of trouble. Because even being a former employee of BGH, causing trouble for an employee – oh – that don’t look so good.

Have fun kiddies!

1. RuthJuly 23, 2013

oh – I forgot – I’m not sure why she said this, to answer a question – I was jotting down some notes – but she did say that she is afraid of me.

Again, I tried very hard not to bust out laughing. What the fuck is she afraid of? That I will beat her ass? Look bitch, YOU are not worth me going to jail over. I don’t HAVE to beat your ass. I beat you in ways that are far worse. I was successful in getting your precious BOOK pulled from publication when I proved to the publisher that you slandered and libeled me in it. AND I ruined your credibilty in the adoption reform movement when I outed you as a liar. (of course I had the help of my sister Gert McQueen in doing this). You tried to ruin my reputation by stating in that filthy book that I have a criminal record and I proved you false. You tried in the past to ruin my relationship with my husband by writing me a letter saying he got the next door neighbor pregnant – and that didn’t work. You’ve tried in the past to get me fired and you tried it again. And it still hasn’t worked.

You are afraid of me? Well, why do you keep doing things to piss me off? Did you ever think of that? But like I said, as much as I would like to smash you – I won’t lay a hand on you – I don’t have to. I’ve hurt you far worse – and you have only yourself to blame. That’s what you get for lying.

2. RuthJuly 24, 2013

when Joan originally lied about having written that damning statement on Huffington – she hesitated a second. – but let’s back up. When I was on the stand, her lawyer objected to having that statement placed into evidence on the grounds that there was no proof that the statement actually came from Joan.

I was asked another question, and I said that the posting was done through Joan’s account on Huffington, and the accompanying profile picture is that of Joan.

When Joan lied on the stand, I think she was going to try to squirm her way out of by trying to claim that her account was hacked.

Too late for that Joan – because that posting and my accompanying answers have been on Huffington for all to see for six months now and I know you’ve seen my comments – cos they are all here, along all of YOUR damning comments.

She hesitated for a second, then denied writing the comment. And then a minute later admitted to writing it.

Too late Joan – I don’t think the judge caught it, but I did – and when the transcripts are posted on this blog – the whole world will see it and know what I’ve been telling the world for going on 4 years now – that Joan M. Wheeler is a LIAR.

To see the Huffington comments go here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/social/forbiddenfamily?action=comments – you will have to scroll down a bit – but you will see it. The comments are in reverse order, but you will see how I answer her and show the whole adoption reform world what a liar she is by giving out pertinent FACTS – and since that time, she has been upbraided on several adoption boards, her adoption buddies are running the hell away from her.

This is what I meant when I said I’ve hurt her far worse than laying hands on her. Her credibility is ruined. But that is not my fault. To keep one’s credibility intact and squeeky clean, one must tell the truth always. And not continuously make false accusations about people, and not target one person over and over.

Joan does not tell the truth. She continuously targets me with false accusations and slanted gossip.

If she has “fear” – it is her own conscience telling her that she is living her life wrongly.

3. gertmcqueen – July 24, 2013 [Edit]
Gert here…my comments to this post are in my new blog post..

Has Joan Wheeler learned any lessons from the past 3 years? NO, she still thinks she’s gotten away with something!
by gertmcqueen on July 24, 2013

4. RuthJuly 24, 2013

getting back to that phone call that BGH “received” from me. What other steps did Joan take to determine that it was indeed me who made that phone call (if there ever WAS a phone call). Joan, why don’t you get your lawyer to subpeona BGH’s phone records? IT’S CALLED CALLER ID BABY! All incoming calls to whatever department – imaging, cardiac and ALL departments have caller ID AND the hospital’s central phone system has records to ALL calls – incoming and outgoing. And I promise you – MY home phone number and my cell phone number will not show up on those phone records to either the cardiac department OR the imaging department. Why? BECAUSE I NEVER CALLED THEM. I also don’t have my medical services done at BGH, so there. MY home phone or cell phone only shows up to the floor that I work on or the nursing office. Because those are the only numbers that are pertinent to me. And don’t even try to pull another prank with BGH involving my floor or nursing office – because I am well known and well respected in that hospital. So take your stupid childish pranks elsewhere. Way to go Joan. Buffalo General Hospital is in the business of taking care of sick people and saving lives – do you have no respect for that? We don’t have time for you asshole pranks. Grow the fuck up.

And another thing – I don’t have your unlisted phone number. But I know who does – LAURA J. STICKNEY-HEATH. – yep. I saw a facebook exchange in October 2012 between the two of you – planning on going out for coffee. I wonder if HER phone number will show up on BGH’s phone records as the originator of the call.

6. RuthJuly 24, 2013

sick and frail – yep that’s Joan. When I first saw her in court, (five months ago) she came shuffling in. head bent down, oh, the weight of the whole world was on her. But she looked sort of healthy. a little too thin, but healthy. Yesterday, while I was on the stand, I looked at her and almost gasped out loud – she is nothing but skin and bones. I saw a three-quarter turn of the left side of her face. Her jaw bone sticking out. Her lips thin and pinched in. Gert suggested dental problems. I said no. This was different. My husband suggested something else —

That horrible horrible picture that is seared into my brain – because it was so awful – of Rock Hudson before he died. 30 years later and I can’t get that picture out of my head.  Joan is not that bad – but I’m left wondering.

I’ve got my health problems, yes. I’ll be 61 in a couple of weeks. I got those rotten hot flashes. I got arthritis. I was born with a slight case of scoliosis. I am 30 pounds overweight. And due to thyroid issues, I have thinning hair. But on the whole – I’m a dam healthy new senior citizen. under my tummy fat, I got abs that would make Arnold Schwarzenegger jealous – I can feel them on the sides. When I work out – I lift weights and I shadow-box. I’m a former professional dancer – and I do heavy lifting on my job. I started a diet in January and had lost 15 pounds by June. Then I went on a picnic and then the Fourth of July came around, and I gained back 5. When I go on vacation soon – it’s back to the diet and working out.

Joan needs to pay more attention to herself and eat. Stop the dam bar-hopping and trying to be a teenage groupie in the local music scene. Cause honey – you look ridiculous. The long gray hair framing a too-thin, too pale, face just makes you look like a washed up old hag. And please stop wearing dark clothes. so depressing. I came to court, dressed casually, but respectfully. With pink trousers and a blue tank top that had a lace cutout over my cleavage. (I like to dress in bright, but pastel colors). And my dusting body powder that you need in this heat – has glitter in it. Joan – get out the night time bars and drinking so much – get out into the daytime sun and live!

Facts are facts, truth is truth and lies are lies. July 22, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Lessons in Life.
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Found this on my facebook newsfeed. From one of my facebook buddies. He posted this picture and said:

Reality is like that.  When you construct a house of cards you do so at your peril.   Reality and truth will eventually burst any bubble of inaccuracies at some point.   Truth can be a fickle friend but far better that than a lifetime of self-delusions.

truth is truth, lie is lie

Ruth here. Facts are facts, truth is truth and lies are lies. – Reality is Reality. This is what this blog is all about. Refusing to find out the truth of the matter, refusing to see actual court documents that are posted to this blog tells me and others that you are too blinded by your own self-delusions.

UPDATE January 2017; as older posts are being seen I, Gert, am updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler (Doris Michol Sippel) says about me and family. The first book Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism published in 2009, was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011 due to libelous material in it. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’, being her own editor and owner. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor! Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and reedited and republished the SAME crap in another book; a Third edition! CALLED ‘Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity’! Talk about conning people!


https://gertmcqueen2.wordpress.com/     this blog’s title/sub title is… DUPED BY ADOPTION & AN WOMAN’S STRUGGLE FOR IDENTITY, A BOOK STUDY an in-depth analyzes of the books called Forbidden Family; My Life as an Adoptee Duped by adoption & An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity by Joan M Wheeler/Doris M Sippel.


changing the truth to match your story – something Joan Wheeler does all the time July 16, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Black and White Evidence of Joan Wheeler's Lies: Letters, Court Documents, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Lessons in Life, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
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story doesn't match truth

Not only did Joan Wheeler change the truth to match her story in her book, she changed the FACTS. And that just is unacceptable.

Especially when the facts she changes is about other people and harmful to their good reputation.

One of her “friends” said once that she has the right to tell her story the way she wants. No, she does not. If she’s telling a story about herself and wants to change the truth and facts about herself – that’s her business. But when she changes the truth and facts about another person – that is NOT right and is unacceptable.

That’s what this blog is all about – taking a lie about myself or my family that Joan had put in her book and on the internet and putting forth the truth. And backing up what I say with irrefutable TRUTH and FACTS – with actual court documents that prove that Joan Wheeler is a liar.

If you refuse to examine the evidence and think critically, you have no right to voice your uniformed opinion. Because you DON’T have a right to your opinion, you have the right to an INFORMED opinion. Because if you open your mouth without knowing all the FACTS – you have shown everyone that you are incapable of thinking critically and with knowledge. And you have made yourself out to be a fool.

I have provided evidence on this blog. If you refuse to go see it and then compare what actual court documents against the lies Joan Wheeler says – then you really are a fool. And I have no use for you.

demand evidence

1. gertmcqueenJuly 16, 2013

When Joan decided to write a NON-FICTIONAL book AND put her full name and BIRTH NAME on the cover she instantly…CAUSED the problem. She labeled the book as a TRUE story, but placed OUR ENTIRE FAMILY’S NAME clearly on the cover. So any changes of names of people within the book was meaningless…she had ALREADY named the entire family on the front COVER and placed OUR PICTURES on the back cover. Furthermore, not only DID SHE LIE, she also FABRICATED, WHOLE CLOTH, events, actions and words, about OTHER PEOPLE, than her self, and THAT is the problem with Joan’s libelous book…and with Joan herself. She DOES NOT have any right to slander, libel, tell fictional stories of other people and label it as HER TRUTH.

UPDATE, Sept 2016, as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler says about me and family. After the first book was pulled from publication by the publisher, May 2011, she has ‘self-published’ another ‘revised’ version. In this ‘version’ called ‘duped by adoption’ she has increased her exploitation by including PICTURES and REAL NAMES and much more personal information violating again the families. Joan has no decency NOR shame. There is NOTHING in this book for adoption reform. She is totally against adoption and her two families. To learn more see…



writing memoirs and taking the consequences July 12, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Lessons in Life, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
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the following link is to a blogpost that Gert found, commented on, and shared with me. I shared the following on my facebook and share it here.


a discussion about someone writing and considering publishing a memoir.

I submitted the following comment. It is still awaiting moderation. But here it is for you – it’s good advice for all writers. –

Something else to consider:  If your “memoir” contains slander and/or libel – be prepared to suffer the consequences of your actions.  I am the sister of Gert McQueen, and we were both mentioned in a book that was first touted as a “truthful autobiography” then when the lies that were in the book were brought out and refuted on my blog, the author (sadly our younger sister) changed her tune and said it was her “memoir” – trying to give herself the out that her memory was faulty.  Which was just another outrageous lie.  My blog – https://ruthsippelpace.wordpress.com/ – contains actual city court documents, handwritten letters from my younger sister that proved what she wrote in her “memoir” was libelous.  Those documents were sent to the publisher and the book was pulled from publication and will never be reprinted.  Also – don’t publish any photos unless you have written permission from ALL persons in the photo. Just because you “own” a copy of a family group photo – it is not necessarily “yours.” My picture was plastered on the back of my sister’s “memoir” without my permission. And the publisher took that in consideration, along with the court documents and hence killed the book.  My sister wasted 30 years of her life, writing a trashy “expose” as a vehicle to get back at anyone in her life she was angry at – and I was her biggest target.  The consequences she has suffered is a wasted life, her reputation in the adoption reform field is trashed, members of both her adoptive and birth family want nothing to do with her.  All she ever wanted from the age of 16 was to be with her birth family. She was reunited with us when she was 18, and now that she is 57 – she does not have us – due to her own actions and her “memoir.”

1. RuthJuly 12, 2013

regarding the use of my photograph – Joan Wheeler tries to use the ridiculous claim that the picture was blurred – no it was not – my father’s face is clearly visible. And so was mine. At the time of publication – 2009, there were still 4 living persons in the photo – myself, my two older sisters, and my father. And Joan did not get written permission from any of us to use our picture for monetary gain. One of the articles of the contract that she signed with Trafford Publications said “You hereby state that you are the sole copyright owner of the work and all its contents.” Since she did not have the sole copyright of a family photograph that was taken the year before she was born and a legal (in the eyes of United States law) entity and being, she did NOT have copyright ownership of that photo. And was in violation of the contract that she signed. The contract that she signed also stated that the contents of the non-fiction manuscript she submitted for publication did not contain any falsehoods. She stated that she had a one year order of protection against me in 1993. Then she said in 1994 we were involved in a three month court battle and she got another one year order of protection against me. She stated in the book that I have an arrest record. I submitted proof to Trafford, via court documents that: the order of protection in 1993 was for six months. we were never in court in 1994 The “three months court battle” occurred in 1995 when I filed charges of harassment against Joan and the three times we were in court were 1. Joan’s arraignment in March 1995. 2. First appearance in April 1995 – adjourned to a later date. 3. The later date of May 1995, where the judge dismissed my charges saying “sisters should get along.” Each time we were in front of the judge for about 10-15 minutes. Less than an hour total time. So much for a “three month court battle.” Those court documents were sent to Trafford and their legal department determined that Joan did indeed LIE in her book and when she signed the contract, she did so under false pretenses. She has no one to blame but herself for the death of her precious book.

2. RuthJuly 12, 2013

as for the three month court battle – and Joan’s penchant for exaggeration – I filed harassment and stalking charges against her on January 24, 2013 for her crap writing a letter to my job in November 2012 with a false accusation of me committing computer fraud. Which I was investigated for and found innocent. Even had a meeting on January 4 where I was told of the letter and their findings. – Then on January 23, Joan gets on the internet and brags that it was she who sent the anonymous letter. I made a screenshot of her admission and filed charges against her. We have been delayed a few times – we are scheduled to appear again on July 23, 2013. So that makes six months now – between the time I first filed, and we’ve been in court and it’s gotten adjourned a few times – I suppose Joan is now saying we’ve been involved in a six month court battle. See, this is what she does – she tells people things in a slanted way – slanted to make it sound as though she does no wrong – and that I, Ruth am “bitch supreme” and asshole. And her stupid idiot friends believe her sweet-talking. Anybody who doesn’t believe an actual court document is the real asshole.

Believing things without evidence – a sin, or an act of stupidity? July 6, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Lies in the book Forbidden Family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
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I added a graphic and additional comments at the end of this post. – 7-10-2013, 11:230am

I saw this meme on my facebook page. A quote from Aldous Huxley:

believe evidence or sin

I have posted on this blog, scanned documents and pictures that present the evidence that what I say is the truth and the facts concerning Joan Wheeler and her lies. She lied in her book Forbidden Family saying that I have a criminal record. NO, she took me to court in 1993 for annoyance phone calls and was granted a six-month order of protection against me, which was dismissed in February 1994 because I had not violated the order AT ALL – therefore, I have no criminal record. The order of protection was granted the day we were in court on August 9, 1993. Joan says in her book that the order was dated beginning on August 1, 1993. On July 31, 1993,  I went to her house – to see my fiancé as I had every legal right to do – and the order of protection was not in effect then – because we hadn’t even gotten to the court. Yet, Joan says when I came to get my fiancé, I was in violation of the order of protection. Joan also says the order of protection was for one year.


I have posted on this blog the court order with the dates of August 9, 1993 to February 9, 1994. Joan’s idiot buddies, namely Russell Thomas and Brian Maloney refuse to even look at the graphic of the order of protection that prove that Joan lied in her book! Why? Because they are idiots. Brian even says that Joan has the right to tell her side of the story the way she wants. No sir, she does not. Not when her “version of the facts” slander someone else. Not when that book was touted as “the truth.” People thinking her book is the truth and read the lies she has told about me in that book will believe her slander. This is called ruining someone’s reputation.

Joan also wrote slanderous letters to elected officials, including the mayor of Buffalo and departments in the New York state government seat in Albany NY., saying that in August 1993, I was sentenced to six months probation! NO, it was a six months order of protection! What she told was a total falsehood and it was designed to give people, in the City of Buffalo government and New York State government the impression that I have a criminal record. This is wrong. It is disgusting. I have also posted the scanned document of the letter that Joan wrote to Albany NY on December 31, 1994.

For people to believe the lies that Joan Wheeler tells about me, without examining the evidence shows me that they are truly idiots of the highest degree.

To reiterate the question I put forth as the title of this blog post: “Believing things without evidence – a sin or an act of stupidity?” I would answer it by saying that it is both. And it is a sign of idiocy.

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so you ARE an idiot when you refuse to examine the evidence. There is NO excuse for lying – Joan has no excuse for lying about me. Go see the dam court documents I posted on this blog – check the category black and white evidence of Joan Wheeler’s lies. There is nothing wrong in me defending myself against the lies she has told about me to Albany NY, State Senator Anthony Nanula, Mayor Anthony Masiello, MY JOB.

Also Russ – how do you explain your good friend Joan contacting my job in November 2012 with a false accusation against me? And then she brags about it on the internet? Don’t forget Joan and I have a court date on July 23, 2013 for her to answer her STALKING AND HARASSMENT and LYING TO MY EMPLOYER!

I don’t give a shit if you have a problem with me or Gert – because that shows us once again YOUR idiocy – instead of concerning yourself with me and Gert and what WE do – why aren’t you concerned about YOUR friend Joan and HER actions. Calling someone’s job with a lie about them – a lie designed to get them in trouble – is WRONG WRONG WRONG. – AND GROUNDS FOR LEGAL CHARGES TO HAVE BEEN PLACED AGAINST HER. WHICH I DID AND WE GO TO COURT IN TWO WEEKS.

If you and Brian are so concerned about your good friend Joan Wheeler – why the hell aren’t you telling her not to do things that land her in court? What kind of bullshit excuse do you have for your friend’s clearly anti-social action – of calling someone’s job with a lie, to get them fired? She did it back in 1994-95 and she even admits to doing it in her book! HOW do YOU justify your friend’s interference in my life 1994-95? How does anyone justify this clearly ILLEGAL activity? It does not matter what beef she has/had against me – it is against the law to call someone’s job with false accusations! She was told in 1994 by then Director of Patient Accounts, Mr. Peter S. that her accusation of me accessing her medical records was 1. unfounded and 2. impossible. Yet, she continued to call my employer to get me fired. She also send Mr. S. a 3 page letter, that contained personal medical information about ME. And then sent me a copy of that letter, along with the letters she sent to the Mayor and others – letters that contained MY personal medical information. These letters have all been scanned and posted to this blog.

Now she does it again. Refusing to believe that her actions are illegal, Joan Wheeler continues to interfere with my life. Only idiots think this is okay and get pissed at me, the victim of this lying interference of MY life, and only idiots dictate to me that I don’t have the right to defend myself against LIES told to my employer!

Now, this is getting redundant and stupid – Russell Thomas – get the f out of my life – lest YOU get legal charges placed against you for stalking and harassing me. Don’t forget – YOU started things with me. I have never met you – don’t want to meet you. I never heard of your name, yet the first contact I ever got from you – you called me a bitch. Won’t that look good on a police report? That YOU contacted a woman you don’t know and right away called her names.

Both you and Brian must have incredibly boring, lonely lives to concern yourself so much with me. Sorry – but I’m much to busy to fulfill whatever holes you losers have in your lives or psyches.

I was just over at facebook and there was a discussion about holding doors open – I said that people of both sexes should hold doors open for both sexes – it’s just polite manners. And then thank whoever holds a door open for them. Gert left a comment about younger people getting in your way and shoving. Which reminded me of something that happened to me – and I left this comment:
“a few years ago, when I was on day shift for my PCA training, I was getting on the bus around 7am. Some high school kids were getting on the bus and one big kid actually pushed me out of the way. I had my monthly bus pass out already. The kid in front of the kid who pushed me, was fumbling to get his pass out. The one who pushed me, showed the driver his pass. I’m coming up the steps and showed the driver my pass. Now, both me and the kid who pushed me were stuck – so I just went up the last step and shoved both of the kids out of MY way.
That’s right – a short older white lady with glasses shoved two big black dudes out of the way – sat down and glared at them, daring them to say something. They just looked at me, and kept on going.”

Now it is clear to me that Joan, Brian and Russ have absolutely NO manners at all. They also are stupid not to take heed and learn – that while I DO have manners – I also TAKE NO SHIT. from anyone.

UPDATE, August 2016, as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler says about me and family. After the first book was pulled from publication by the publisher, May 2011, she has ‘self-published’ another ‘revised’ version. In this ‘version’ called ‘duped by adoption’ she has increased her exploitation by including PICTURES and REAL NAMES and much more personal information violating again the families. Joan has no decency NOR shame. There is NOTHING in this book for adoption reform. She is totally against adoption and her two families. To learn more see…



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