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this truthful blog destroys the lies told by Joan Wheeler aka Forbidden Family August 20, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family.
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why this blog –

I already have a page – the reason for this blog. Let us go over it again.

Joan Wheeler, born Doris Sippel, my sister was given up for adoption after my mother died, due to child care issues. She was raised as an only child, spoiled rotten, never having the word NO said to her.

In 1974, we were reunited with her. Within a few short years, Joan’s overbearing attitude, her stealing, her lying, her interference in some of out lives, caused us to, one by one, turn our backs on her.

Boundaries and limits were set by various members of the birth family, which Joan repeatedly ignored. By 1989, she had surfaced as a THIEF. A joint checking account, funded by me, to be used for real estate purposes, (Joan and I were thinking of buying rental property together), was dipped into time and again for Joan’s living expenses. Hamburgers at the mall, Joan’s car repairs. This was not what I put the money up for. When we dissolved the “partnership” I was shorted out a lot of money – even taking into account monies spent on real estate brokers, appraisal fees, etc. Those I well accepted, as that was the agreement. I did NOT agree to foot Joan’s living expenses. Joan’s husband had a job. My paycheck goes for me, not anybody else. In December 1990, a refund from a lawyer was agreed to be turned over to me to go towards what Joan owed me. Instead, Joan called me up and informed me she was keeping the money to provide xmas for her kids. Again, that was not what my money was for – you got kids? Foot your holidays for them via your own money, NOT your sister’s. I was lied to, stolen from. This spoiled little brat Joan, USED me. I told her to get the hell away from me and stay away.

Over the course of the next few years, I was harassed left and right. Phone calls and letters to my job, accusing me of computer fraud occurred almost daily for six months. Joan called child abuse on herself, posing as me. Joan wrote to various elected officials and government agencies telling them that I had a criminal record – which I do not. I myself received a letter from Joan telling that my husband had gotten the next door neighbor pregnant – when the house was vacant!

And she wonders why I’m pissed at her.

THEN she writes and self-publishes her “autobiography. And in this trashy filthy book, is more lies about me – slander – and again, accusing me of computer fraud at my job, that I have a criminal record and other filthy shit.

I created this blog to take each and every one of the lies in Joan’s filthy book and expose it for what it is – a lie.

I have provided actual court documents that prove that Joan lied about me. I have scanned and posted to this blog the actual letter that Joan sent to Albany NY that said that in 1993 I was sentenced to probation. She wrote in the filthy book that I was sentenced to a one year order of protection for various harassments of her and her mother. I scanned the court document with the dates that prove it was for six months over some annoyance phone calls that she engineered for me to make. She forged her own 10 year old son’s handwriting and sent a letter to my house (supposedly her son). When I called her to ask about it, she said, “hold on a minute.” and hung up. I called back and she did it again. THEN she falsely lodged a police complaint that I called her and hung up on her. So she got a 6 month order of protection against me. BUT she says in the book it was for one year – and for worse than phone calls. And I scanned and provided the forged letter and all documents to prove I am not the harasser that Joan claims that I am.

Her little friends get on their high horse and lamblast me for telling the truth and “destroying” Joan and her book.

Well, too damn bad. That book was destroyed by me and my sister Gert. BECAUSE IT CONTAINED LIES ABOUT NOT ONLY ME – BUT OTHER MEMBERS OF OUR FAMILY.

Joan is the worst kind of slime ever! She is a kin-killer. Do you know what that means? It means what it says! She stabbed HER OWN FAMILY in the heart and back.

I sent my documents to Trafford Publication, the publisher of Joan’s book. Joan had signed a legal contract with them – that stated that the contents of the book were the truth. My documents proved that she lied.

If it can be destroyed by the truth, it deserves to be destroyed by the truth. –  – Carl Sagan

It’s as plain and simple as that. If you don’t like it Joan – too dam bad.

destroyed by truth

1. gertmcqueenAugust 20, 2013 [Edit]

Yes, that’s go over it again…

what made Joan think she could interfere with my parental rights with my minor children?

why couldn’t Joan take NO for an answer to a repeat of a sexual threesome?

what made Joan think she could call child abuse on me, TWICE, because SHE didn’t like my parenting or the word NO or because…pick out something…doesn’t matter to her, anything would work?

why did Joan speak with fork-tongue; nice to my face yet within hours condemn my religion and my mental health?

why did Joan attempt to get my daughter to commit a crime? Joan wanted to pursue a medical malpractice suit regarding HER daughter and since MY daughter worked with medical records Joan believed SHE could get MY daughter to commit a crime for her!?

Why did Joan write me a letter asking me to CALL her to warn me about some danger…only to yell at me NOT to call her?

Why did Joan tell me, on the phone, after brother died and father gravely ill, that SHE LOVED ME, then twist everything in a lying garbage book?

Because Joan is a sick bitch that’s way…


2. Ruth – August 21, 2013  Gert said: ” Why did Joan write me a letter asking me to CALL her to warn me about some danger…only to yell at me NOT to call her?”

What Gert refers to is an incident that happened in 1998. But let’s back up to 1994-95 – When Joan called child Abuse on herself (Dec. 1994). This was right in the middle of the time she was calling my employer with false accusations trying to get me fired. The child abuse call was made and it was my fiance (now husband) who was named as an abuser of Joan’s children. The letter she sent to Albany NY, was written Dec. 31, 1994. During the months of January/February 1995 she was writing letters to the mayor of Buffalo, and other people slandering me. Then she sent me the copies of those letters. I hauled her into court and the judge dismissed my charges saying “sisters should get along.” The day after that, I went down to the district attorney’s office to complain. One of the assistant DA’s told me that they had better things to do. And she told me to stay away from Joan. I told her, that I would be happy to, as long as Joan also stays away from and stop writing letter about me. The Asisstant DA assured me that she would tell Joan the same thing. Which is what she did and I had three and a half years of peace – until September 1998.

I received a registered letter from Joan – the envelope was addressed to me and my fiance John. Inside was a letter addressed to Gert. Why was my fiance’s name on the envelope and WHY WAS JOAN CONTACTING ME AFTER AN ASSITANT DA TOLD HER NOT TO? Because Joan is a spoiled little brat who will NOT take NO for an answer – even if that word NO comes from law enforcement!

The letter was about some guy who bumped into Joan’s ex-husband in South Carolina. This guy was bad-mouthing Gert. So? A conversation happens in South Carolina, and Ruth, minding her own business in Buffalo, suddenly gets dragged into it! AFTER JOAN WAS TOLD BY LAW ENFORCEMENT NOT TO CONTACT RUTH.

The letter was to be sent to Gert and I contacted Gert and told her about the letter and gave Gert the phone number provided in the letter. Gert called the number and Joan yelled at her not to call her.


I think Joan was trying to set Gert up the way she set me up in 1993 with that forged letter from her “son” and caught me in an annoyance phone call trap – she wanted Gert to call her, knowing the call would be traced and Joan wanted to run to the cops and claim Gert was harassing her.

This is the shit we have had to deal with from Joan – her little schemes – and she didn’t do it to just me and Gert – she did it to my cousin Gail – WHILE GAIL WAS BATTLING CANCER! KIN-KILLER! That’s what you are Joan – lower than then lowest. And another cousin also had his job contacted with false accusations about him – because his aunt – my cousin Gail told him to stay away from Joan, and he stopped accepting her calls. For this she tried to destroy his job.

And she tried to fuck with my job again just recently.

Joan is a fucking devious evil bitch.


I am outing Thomas D. Heath and Laura J. Stickney Heath as stalkers and troublemakers. August 5, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Announcements and updates, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family.
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in my recent posts about Thomas David Heath and Laura Joan Stickney Heath sticking their noses in my business – I forgot to put up the screenshots of Tom’s peeping tom bullshit on me. So here they are on the end of this post.

On the morning of July 16, 2013, I was on facebook – around 7:30 am. As I was writing, I was getting pop-up updates, “so and so replied to your comment” and “so and so shared your photo.” I usually ignore those pop-ups, because they are so annoying! Especially when you’re busy typing. So when I was done typing, I went to my update tag to see all my updates at once. 21 minutes after he did it, I found out – that Thomas Heath was now following me.

“Who the hell is Thomas Heath?” I asked myself and clicked on his name. Well, he is a facebook friend with another former employee of Buffalo General Hospital, Denise, who I knew was still facebook friends with Laura Heath. So I immediately smelled rotten fish. I don’t know if Denise is pulling shit – I’ve never had a problem with her. And I sure hope she isn’t pulling any shit. – Anyways, yes, a quick look at Tom Heath’s friends list confirmed what I had guessed – this was Laura’s husband. Several of his friends had the last name Stickney – Laura’s maiden name. And I saw their grown kids there. I couldn’t see Laura’s name on his friends list, because I had blocked her three years ago.

Which begs a question – WHY would the husband of someone I blocked three years ago suddenly come to my facebook page and follow me? Anyway, I immediately outed Thomas Heath as a spy for his bitch wife Laura. and blogged about it in this post:  Joan Wheeler has a couple of new puppets to spy on me – Thomas Heath and Laura Stickney-Heath – roflmao! July 17, 2013

So what happened? Fast forward 24 hours to the morning of July 17. I’m on facebook again around 7:30 am. I had checked my followers list. yep – 18. With Tom on the top. BUT a half-hour later, my list had dropped to 17. I checked – Tom removed himself. lol.

The next few days, I was busy, but on July 21, I clicked on Tom’s name in my notification list – to find that he had blocked me. Guess he didn’t like my outing him as a spy and stalker and it made him do some backtracking. What an ass. Well he blocked me, but not before I copied the url to his facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/thomas.heath.79

I mentioned Tom and Laura have kids – two grown kids. One is in college, the other, from what I gather recently married and moved to El Paso, Texas.

Did you not think of them Laura in your zeal to stab me in the back? Did you not think that these innocent people would perhaps google their parents names and see the shit that they have done? You not only put yourself in a bad light, but you have embarrassed your kids.

And WHY? I want to know WHY? What the fuck did I ever do to you? NOTHING! As a matter of fact – did I not load onto your flashdrive a total of almost 700 songs for you to listen to on your IPod?

Why did you act like a 10 year old because all I did was boot you off my facebook AFTER you disrespected me?

And you never met Joan Wheeler – EVER – you only knew her from that stupid libelous book she wrote, that I brought to work and was bitching about.

THAT BOOK AND JOAN WHEELER WAS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS LAURA. This is a family matter – Joan is MY sister, and if I want to bitch about her – and her book, THAT IS MY BUSINESS – NOT YOURS. That book contained falsehoods about me – Joan committed slander and libel and I provided documents that were sent to the publisher of the book and got the book pulled from publication – because just like I said late 2009/early 2010 – that book contained lies about me. I provided actual court documents and actual hand written letters from Joan to the publisher and they agreed that Joan presented falsehoods about me and on May 11, 2011, they pulled the book from publication – because Joan violated the contract she signed with them. She said that everything in the book was true and that she was the sole copyright holder of the book and all its contents. Well, MY childhood picture on the back of the book, was published WITHOUT MY CONSENT and that was another reason Trafford Publications’ legal department deemed that Joan Wheeler signed the contract under false pretenses. – Why don’t you contact Mr. Eugene Hopkins of Author Solutions and get the facts Bitch Laura? I told you late 2009/early 2010 that Joan lied about me. You owe me an apology bitch.

And then Laura, why did you stab me in the back in a childish act of “revenge” – Yes, readers, two weeks after I booted her off my facebook page, Laura goes on facebook and seeks out Joan Wheeler and sends her a friend request. And Joan accepted it! Obviously Laura sent Joan a private message telling her (Joan) that she worked with me. And Joan just jumped at the chance to get to know someone who would gossip to her about me.

YOU HAD NO RIGHT TO STICK YOUR NOSE INTO MY FAMILY BUSINESS LAURA. And I found out some shit about you honey, that I’ve been sitting on for three years. I never said anything – because I could care less if you are friends with Joan Wheeler – you two are losers of the highest degree and deserve each other.

Since all that happened three years ago, and I have not seen nor barely thought of Laura. It was over and done with. It wasn’t a big deal – it was a small spat – I moved on. Apparently Laura did not. Asshole. So Laura gets her husband to spy on me via facebook.

Now Laura, since you decided to stick YOUR nose into MY business – like I mentioned above, I know some shit about you. Like you’re raising your biological-granddaughter and passing her off as your daughter. — yeah, I found that little tidbit out from her birth mother’s myspace page, where she was looking for her daughter. And she was being kept away from her daughter. What? Joan – you didn’t know this? Well, you do now. Yes – that is LAURA’S bio-daughter that she had when she was 16, and Thomas ADOPTED her – BUT then when her own flesh and blood was 7 years old, LAURA KICKED HER OWN LITTLE GIRL OUT OF THE FAMILY!

Oh? What’s that Laura? You don’t like it that I know about YOUR family? Then you should have stayed out of MY family. This was a matter between me and Joan – you should have stayed out of it. And you should have left me alone.

I do not believe for one minute that Laura has a connection with Joan about adoption – she never told Joan about Laura’s grand-daughter’s real parentage. Because if she did – do you think Joan would still be friends with her? NO, the connection was, and always was – Laura is a vindictive bitch, who as I said on my blog, when we had a spat, she goes running to my enemy.

Oh, and Joan – Laura’s daughter – the 32 year old – and the REAL Bio-Mom of Laura’s grand daughter, who she is passing off as her daughter – is Native American. yes, one of your pet issues! Transracial adoption and child trafficking – because grabbing another woman’s child and passing her off as your own daughter is child trafficking.

Laura J. Stickney-Heath voluntarily inserted herself into MY family business. Then three years later, her husband Thomas D. Heath voluntarily inserted himself in my business. THEY made the conscious decision to do this. They wanted to be in this mess, now they are. As for my revealing what I know – turnabout is fair play Laura. What makes you think you can butt into my business and not have the same done to you? And I never met Tom – who the hell does he think he is spying on me?

AND any info I have is from public internet. If it’s out there – it’s out there not just for me to see – but the whole world to see.

Here are the screenshots I made of Tom’s peeping tom business on my facebook page. First up – the update/notification from facebook that Thomas Heath was now following me. The original screenshot, and closeup.

notification that Thomas Heath is following me

notification that Thomas Heath is following me 2

And here is my list of followers, with Tom Heath right on the top, The original screenshot and closeup.

thomas heath in list

tom heath on my followers list 2

and here is Laura’s facebook page, showing she IS friends with Joan M. Wheeler, the subject of this blog, – first the original screenshot, captured on July 23, 2013, 5:15pm (lower right hand corner) and the closeup. (click on the picture to see it fullscreen) And this screenshot was taken just 3 hours after Joan LIED in court that she had NO connection with ANYbody from Buffalo General Hospital – and while Laura no longer works there, she WAS working there when she and Joan became facebook friends in June 2010. Both Laura and Joan are lying bitches.

laura heath 3

laura heath 2

now if you notice, Joan has a “denied” red sign across her face – that’s because angry adoptees are pissed because they are denied their original birth certificate.  – here is a screenshot of Joan’s facebook page:

joan fb page 1

Joan’s facebook cover photo is a portion of her original birth certificate with her original name: Doris Michol Sippel. And here is a picture of her and me – taken from her facebook page. She whited out the top part of my face. But this is us as sisters – MY family, MY business, Laura – get the fuck out of MY business!

as to this picture, reading Joan’s description – she never gets anything right. This is NOT an original ape from Planet of the Apes – it was another convention goer, dressed in a COSTUME patterned after the Planet of the Apes. – When you see anything written by Joan – you really need to pay attention – because she never tells the truth. Also, she makes a big deal that we have our hands behind our backs. WTF – I started doing that because I patterned myself after Mr. Spock on Star Trek – and it is basic military at ease position. Since Gene Roddenberry, an old swabbie himself patterned Trek’s Federation after the US Navy, he had the characters doing and speaking Navy terms and customs. Why is Joan standing there with her hands behind her back? Probably because she was imitating me.

joan fb page 2

but Laura, if you want to stay connected with Joan, and be linked to a terrorist wannabe – go right ahead. Here’s a screenshot of her twitter page from April of this year:

joan wheeler tweet 03

other posts that are related to Tom and Laura are: starting with my original post three years ago about Laura, in which, I did not mention her full name. But because she wouldn’t let the issue rest, because she simply HAD to be a bitch and bring her fucking nose and her husband into MY life and MY business again, three years later, yeah, I’m outing her as a  bitch, and naming her full name, her husband’s full name and everything else. It is on HER – if she had just left it alone, she wouldn’t be outed now as a bitch!

A Lesson in Life: Duplicitous People are All Around You – Trust Your Instincts. and – Joan Wheeler jumps at the chance to try to stick it to me the beginning of June 2010. July 23, 2010

Joan Wheeler perjures herself TWICE on the stand today, July 23, 2013

notice to Joan Wheeler, Tom and Laura Heath, and others – you haven’t won anything. ha ha ha! July 29, 2013

Evidence of how Joan Wheeler sets people against each other and how she exploits and tries to enlist my daughter into committing crimes! August 4, 2013

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an important bit of background that was never viewed here on this blog

Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor

Evidence of how Joan Wheeler sets people against each other and how she exploits and tries to enlist my daughter into committing crimes!

UPDATE SEPT 2017; I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler (Doris Michol Sippel) says about me and family. The first book Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism‘ was published in 2009 but then was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011, for libelous material within the book. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor! Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and rewrote and republished the SAME crap in another book…

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