jump to navigation

Joan Wheeler loves to evade reality – now she suffers the consequences of that evasion. September 16, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Black and White Evidence of Joan Wheeler's Lies: Letters, Court Documents, Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
comments closed

this was posted on facebook today:

“We can evade reality, but we cannot evade the consequences of evading reality.” – Ayn Rand

oh so true. Since the beginning of this blog, I have scanned and posted actual documents that support the FACT that I am telling the truth. That is the REALITY of the situation.

Those documents include photographs, envelopes from the mail – letters that Joan Wheeler had sent to me – some handwritten, some typed. Other documents include actual city of Buffalo court documents.

For example, in 1993, we were in court and the judge handed down his sentence – I was given a six month restraining order to stay away from Joan. The dates of that order were from August 9, 1993 to February 9, 1994. The order was also ACD – Adjournment on Consideration of Dismissal. This means that in those six months, if I kept to that court order, the entire matter would be dismissed. I did keep to the court’s order and it was dismissed – leaving me with NO record of any sort.

Joan subsequently wrote a letter to the Child Abuse department in Albany NY on December 31, 1994 and told them that in that court case of summer 1993,  I had been sentenced to six months PROBATION and that I had a criminal record. That is a lie. THAT IS REALITY. I have scanned that letter and posted it to this blog.

In Joan’s libelous book Forbidden Family, Joan reports that the order of protection was for one year. That is a lie and not reality.

Joan also reports in her book that she had obtained “multiple orders of protection” against me. That is a lie and is not reality.

In 1999, I filed charges of harassment against Joan and THE COURT COMPUTER printed out the previous court proceedings between Joan and myself. It showed 1. the 1993 case wherein I was given the six month order of protection. It correctly showed that it was ACD. 2. the case of 1995 where I filed harassment charges on Joan and the judge dismissed it.

It did NOT show a 1993 order of protection for one year, nor a 1994 order of protection for one year, or ANY OTHER ORDER OF PROTECTION.

In REALITY – there was one, AND ONLY ONE order of protection that Joan had gotten against me. ONE does not constitute MULTIPLE.

The court computer also showed NO EVIDENCE THAT I EVER HAD A CRIMINAL RECORD. So, when Joan says in her book, in person, and on the internet that I have been arrested and have a criminal record – SHE IS LYING.

For any person to deny the FACTS from actual court documents tells me that they are delusional and are trying to evade reality. To which I say, “well, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.” And that horse will now suffer the consequences of not hydrating themselves.

For Joan and any of her delusional buddies to deny the FACT that she has lied all over the place shows me that she and they are trying to evade reality.  And they shall and are, experiencing the consequences of evading reality. Which is – loss of credibility. People now know that Joan is, and always was a liar.


Birth siblings of Joan Wheeler HAVE left their mark on the adoption reform movement! September 11, 2013

Posted by gertmcqueen in Uncategorized.
comments closed

yes we certainly have left our mark

Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor

Search terms and referrals that appear on our blogs’ stat pages are always interesting. A recent referral, came from an on-line adoption forum, where Joan, in one of her aliases, was once quite vocal. After I checked it out and informed Ruth she said to me

‘good to see that we are now a site for “reference”’.

Yep! We have accomplished what we set out to do…set the record straight, refute the lies that Joan Wheeler spoke/wrote about us and family AND reclaimed the truth away from Joan’s ‘personal’ one-sided truth (?).

It matters NOT if anyone truly UNDERSTANDS the entire story; for sure it’s complicated and messy like lots of families. What DOES matter is that Joan Wheeler’s version is riddled with lies, misrepresentations, slander, libel, malicious intents and her own mental illnesses. And, she is NOW known far and wide as totally untruthful and ineffectual; she’s a…

View original post 1,120 more words

How many aliases does one narcissist person really need? Self-centered Joan Wheeler needs plenty! September 5, 2013

Posted by gertmcqueen in Uncategorized.
comments closed

a new post….

1. Paula – September 5, 2013

Tell-tale sign of a truly disturbed mind: multiple aliases and a persona for each!!! It’s mind boggling. Who the hell has time to be so deceptive and manipulative?!?!

2. Ruth – September 5, 2013

exactly Paula!
as I explained in my comment – I have had several screen names and/or personas in the past – but that was due to needing a specific type of name or persona for a particular website. For a gothic-horror gaming site, I was a vampire named Princess Ananka. On a Star Trek stie, I was a member of a feline species – a Capellan powercat – and my name was PowerCat (PowCat for short). On another Star Trek site, I was a Romulan named T’Leran.
But Joan doesn’t play games or discuss Star Trek or vampires – all she does is talk incessantly on ONE subject – adoption, or rather how HER adoption was crappy.
WHY so many aliases for ONE subject? – because she keeps getting booted off sites and she comes back to spam them – under a new account – that’s why.

Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor

Besides an alias, that I can’t recall correctly, that indicates that she was born as ‘Doris Sippel’, she is known as – 1adoptee, forbiddenfamily, halforphan56, legitimate bastard, kaykee, kaykal and now on YouTube she’s at pennsyl2 (that’s the letter l and the number 2).

I only know about that ALIAS because Joan posted 3 videos on her Twitter account (forbiddenfamily). So I had a look see and well I was not all that impressed! But hey, if she wants to hide behind the camera and yell ‘you have yours, I want mine’, it’s nothing to me! Must turn her on. BTW, she has both her birth certificates. I recall that it WAS only a couple of months ago when she SCREAMED that she will fight for equal rights for adoptees UNTIL her dying breath! But…now it seems as if she needs some ME-TIME.


View original post 1,811 more words

Another whine from an angry adoptee – why do they get booted off sites? September 1, 2013

Posted by Ruth in Lessons in Life.
Tags: , , ,
comments closed

I saw an interesting post by an “angry adoptee” wherein she is bemoaning the fact that a lot of “angry adoptees” are booted off some sites that are geared towards “happy adoptees.”

Adopted in the UK

A Safe Place for Adoptees


While this person is entitled to her opinion, I left the following comment, which will probably not be posted.

perhaps the “angry adoptees” wouldn’t be booted off sites if they would stop calling people names, telling them they are “rainbow farters” and “Kool-Aid drinkers” telling people they are delusional (or worse) if they say they are happy in their adoption, etc. etc. etc.

As for the title of her post “A Safe Place for Adoptees” – there already is one – it’s a forum called Adult Adoptees Advocating for Change” where it is a free-for-all of bashing, name calling, hate language and calls for spam against pro-adoption websites, and desires for violence against public figures who are adoptive parents. One member at the AAAFC said this about actress Edie Falco: “someone should stuff a sock in her mouth, douse it with gasoline and set it on fire.”

Who the hell wants these types of people on their site? 7Rin would do well to write to angry adoptees to watch their mouths instead of whining about being booted off websites.

for more info see…

History of, and current attack sites, upon the birthsiblings, of Joan Wheeler UPDATED by on April 1, 2013

2. RuthSeptember 3, 2013

well 7Rin didn’t post my comment – but quoted me and twisted what I said. She said:

“1. It wasn’t a whine, it was a look at adoptee-related places that’re available, since the theme of #WASO32 was “safe places”.

2. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, every ‘fight’ has its extremists. I’m one of the adoptee ones. Deal with it. I do.”

my answer – it most certainly WAS a whine – and she put words in my mouth – I did not EVER say “bet you won’t post this?” Sorry 7Rin – you asked a question – “why are angry adoptees booted off some sites?” And I answered, giving my honest, politely worded opinion.

If you want to be an extremist – that’s ok. I have dealt with it. What YOU need to deal with – is the fact that rude angry adoptees WILL be booted off some sites – now deal with THAT honey – no need to question why – just deal with it.

3. RuthSeptember 3, 2013

mmm, think I’ll go back and make a screenshot of my comment – it’s still there in the queue – awaiting moderation – and it will show that what I wrote was polite, and NEVER did I challenge her with a snotty nyaah, nyahh – THAT childish behavior came from HER – not me.

Stick to the truth always – quote a person truthfully – don’t stick words in their mouths, because those false words can and will come back and bite you in the ass.

oh hell – why I am I threatening to do something? I don’t believe in empty threats – I simply DO. here is the screenshot that proves I didn’t engage in childish boorish behavior:

whining adoptee

and here is what she said that I said:


WHERE did I say ANY thing along the lines “bet you won’t post this?” – except on THIS blog – and it was a valid observation – because 7 has her mind made up that because I stood up to a bully, who just happened to be an angry adoptee, what I have to say is not valid. No whining here – just stating the facts – because one thing I noticed – if you disagree with an angry adoptee – then all the other angry adoptees come crawling out of the woodwork to insult and belittle you – because that’s what extremists do – it’s THEIR way and even when you talk nice to them – if you’re in disagreement with them – you are crap to them. And that’s why they get booted off websites.


%d bloggers like this: