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Joan Wheeler goes from manic state to depressive state awful fast over her latest FAILED romance. December 31, 2013

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Joan Wheeler goes from manic state to depressive state awful fast over her latest FAILED romance. – all information and quotes are from what Joan Wheeler herself has put out on public internet for all to see. remember – if you don’t want people to read it – don’t put it on the internet.


In a mess that SHE herself created, Joan first rants and raves about a guy she met at a bar back in June 2013. Within two weeks, marriage plans are made. What stupid idiot meets a guy and within two weeks makes plans to marry this total stranger? Joan Wheeler, that’s who. So she goes to New Mexico with the guy in August and the truth comes out. He’s an alcoholic (so is Joan, but she won’t say so in conjuction with this stuff – but did admit to it in her book), he got caught driving drunk and was thrown in jail for 30 days, (my, my, my), his family decided to do some background checking on Joan (wise move considering we’ve got two people who within 2 weeks of meeting want to get married – doesn’t matter if he’s 63 and she’s 57 – they are both thinking like 13 year olds), the family apparently googled her, came to this blog and saw the truth about her – then so did he. Apparently there were words between everybody, and Joan came home, and cried all through September.

Last week, her website got a hit from New Mexico. Never mind that there are tons of people living in New Mexico and any one of them could have gone to her website, and never mind that Gert has personal friends living in New Mexico and it could have been them – Joan sees the hit, ASS-umes that it’s the boyfriend and/or his family and goes off on a bitch fest – a real rockin’ psychopathic rant! Insults the guy – mocking him for his PTSD (and using the tired old stereotype of the crazy Vietnam Veteran – for shame, Joan) AND DRAGS ME AND GERT IN ON IT. (but she’s always bitching that we won’t stay out of her life – and when we are not – she drags us into it!). I say ASS-ume because when you assume something without real evidence, all you do is make an ASS out of yourself – which is what Joan does all the time. She sees or reads something, and right away ASS-umes things about people.

Here are blog posts that Gert and I did about this mess that Joan HERSELF created:

Another one bites the dust! Joan Wheeler, ‘fiancé’ break-up! Gosh, we told you it would happen! by gertmcqueen on December 27, 2013

Joan Wheeler drags me into her f’ed up love life – then bitches about me being in her life. uh, what? December 26, 2013

would somebody please lobotomize Joan Wheeler? December 27, 2013

 Joan Wheeler has the nerve to say she had done no harm. December 27, 2013

Joan Wheeler can now see 2400 miles and “know” what people are watching on their TVs. OMG! December 28, 2013

SOOOO after all that ranting and our blogging, Joan read Gert’s blog and sees Gert’s statement: “DOES Joan have any positive things going into her life? She never tells us anything that is positive in what she does. Nothing about good eating, sleeping, exercise, meditations, readings, etc…she boring! Once in a while is posts some feel good quote, but she doesn’t live it!”

And knowing that Gert takes Zumba classes (my, are we STALKING Gert now, Joan?) Joan all of a sudden says that she’s “getting healthy, being more positive, is thankful for her female friends and taking Zumba classes).

In the evening of December 30, 2013, she’s on the downside of manic depression – she’s on a downer, and lamenting the loss of her latest romance. I didn’t see the garbage until I woke up about 11:30am December 31, 2013. The time frame that Joan wrote her latest stuff – I was busy with my life – doing housework, then watching the special features on the DVD of John Carpenter’s The Fog. (btw, Joan put me down in her book because I collect movies. So? Who the hell is she to comment on how I spend my $$ or my life? She does so, because her life is so miserable, she looks at me and sees my full life, and she can’t have it, so must debase it).

And I can comment on Joan’s life and this mess because SHE DRAGGED ME INTO IT. SHE DELIBRATELY WROTE A TWEET ABOUT THIS FUCKED UP SITUATION THAT CONTAINED A REFERENCE TO HER BIRTH SISTERS (me and Gert). Therefore, we EARNED the right to write about it.

So I get up and meander over to twitter to see what’s up with a couple of tweets I had exchanged with Luke Evans (Bard the Bowman) – o gods! not only is Ruth collecting movies, she’s communicating with people who are acting in them! Quick now! Get the noose and string Ruth up!

So I see what Joan writes and I wanted to puke. I then go over to facebook and see that Gert also had seen it and this is what we say about the pukey shit:

facebook exchanges: from Gert to Ruth Herr Sippel Pace the idiot is crying in her beer…around midnight she says..

Deep pain in knowing it is over. My love. New Year will be better for us both.  I release you, my love. Good bye my Darling. May you find your true love. She lies within. I move on

after all that ranting and raving and saying she’s DONE and getting on with her life and he was a loser…this is so typical of Joan Wheeler!

from Gert Mcqueen so I added a comment on the blog post and incorporated Ruth’s comment and mine into the body of that post and retweeted it…I can’t believe it, YES I can cause this is HOW joan operates, she doesn’t get her way, she throws fits, gets kicked in the face, bitches and screams cause no one loves her, she rants and raves that they are bad and mean to her, then she gets sympathy from others and says oh I’m ok and then in the dark of the night she crys for what she lost asshole

from Ruth Herr Sippel Pace omy god I want to puke with the saccharine fakeness of it all.

and notice now how she’s going out of her way to list different world cultural dances that she’s learning in Zumba class. She’s reacing out to her birthsisters again, albeit in a round-about way. As you noted yesterday, how she’s obviously reading the blogs – after bitching and raving, her tweets turn 180 degrees on how she’s getting healthy and going to Zumba – a clear IMITATION of you. Now, the “world culture” dances – a clear imitation of ME. Because of my past experiences of being a Middle East (belly dancer). She never cared about dance before – only her Native American dances she did as a teenager and in early 20s. And don’t forget – she put me down in her book FOR being interested in the Arab culture. Now SHE is “embracing” other cultures. What a fucking hypocrite!

she goes from calling him a “stalking obsessed creep” to ” My love. New Year will be better for us both.  I release you, my love. Good bye my Darling. May you find your true love. She lies within. I move on” – she said she “moved on” the other day – if that was so – she shouldn’t be going back to write this stupid shit.

Gert Mcqueen yep…I WAS DOING zumba 3 years ago! I had to stop due to medicals reasons and turned to biking instead…but I NEVER mentioned that ONLY my yoga, bike, gym…which she NEVER picked up until just now BECAUSE I made a point of saying she’s boring, unhealthy and never speaks about what good in her life. And if she loved native dance WHY hasn’t she been doing it all along? If you love something, you DO IT. she only talked about it because of the SUGAR DADDY like I said, she was crying in her beer…that’s what she does…she can’t get her way, throws a fit, the other person tells her get lost, she gets insulted, finds things to bitch about and then says she’s done with them, and then when the night is dark and she’s alone she laments her LOSS that she created.

end of facebook exchange.

I am not only wanting to puke, but I see the hypocrisy of it all – having been dragged over the coals in her book for MY interest in other ethnic music and dance – to see this bitch now saying it’s the best thing in HER life! As I said above – she looks at her miserable life, finds it lacking, then looks at MY life, debases it – YET COPIES ME! And Gert!

Now I want to examine this statement made by Gert: “then she gets sympathy from others and says oh I’m ok and then in the dark of the night she crys for what she lost asshole” – when she was ranting and bitching about the boyfriend on Twitter, she made statements that she was “afraid of him.” “leave me alone.” called him a “stalking creep” “obsessive” – and a twitter friend of hers up in Toronto says, “been reading your feed, are you okay?” this lady sees what Joan writes and becomes genuinely concerned for Joan’s safety! And what does Joan say? “oh, I’m all right. He’s 2500 miles away.”

WHAT THE FUCK?  If she’s “all right” and he’s “2500 miles away” WHY IS SHE WRITING THAT SHE IS AFRAID OF HIM? This is what she does – she EXAGERATES things and puts her whiny little “woe is me, poor, poor pitiful me” routine and manipulates people into feeling sorry for her.  So LOOK at what she said about the guy – she’s afraid of him, he’s a stalking, obsessive, alcoholic drunk driver, and he’s coming to get her. – and chances are – he’s probably a sweet guy with a drinking problem. But according to Joan – he’s a monster. AND THIS IS WHY PEOPLE BELIEVE THAT ME AND GERT ARE BITCHES – BECAUSE THEY READ JOAN’S SHIT AND BECAUSE SHE’S A MASTER MANIPULATER AND LIAR – AND SHE CAN TURN THE TEARS ON AND OFF – THEY CAN’T BELIEVE THAT HER CRYING IS ONLY AN ACT! – People – she’s a socio-path and knows how to turn the waterworks on. And before anybody recommends that she call the police – please – The Town of Tonawanda (where she lives) already are aware of her and her antics.

Before anybody condemns me for “putting down the mentally ill” and lectures me that I “should have compassion,” – been there, done that. Unless you have been the harassed victim of a mentally ill person – you will not understand. see the home page of this blog. and the page What is Demanded of Joan Wheeler.

Don’t judge me for my anger of Joan Wheeler – until you know all the facts and the hell she has put me through and is STILL doing it – by harassing me by calling my employer a year ago with false accusations designed to get me fired – and just the other day by daring to drag me into her fucked up love life.

And again, we see a mess that Joan herself created. Gert and I had nothing to do with this latest boyfriend, yet Joan drags us into it. So we gave it right back to her. We didn’t start it, but we damn sure finished it. We didn’t ask to be in it, but once we were in it – we went all out. And the mess is all on Joan – I don’t want to hear a word from her that we “interfered” with this shit – IT WAS JOAN HERSELF WHO BROUGHT US INTO IT!

1. gertmcqueen

Gert here…Perfect assessment of the conditions that Joan does to herself and everyone. There’s nothing more for me to say, but…this is the real Joan Wheeler and if you don’t believe us…get in a REAL PERSONAL relationship with her, NOT on the internet, BUT IN REAL TIME AND PLACE, interact with her in the FLESH and within 2 months you will KNOW.

UPDATE January 2016; as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler says about me and family. After the first book was pulled from publication by the publisher, May 2011, she has ‘self-published’ another ‘revised’ version.



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The Psychopath’s Relationship Cycle: Idealize, Devalue and Discard December 31, 2013

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Because they suffer from incurable personality disorders, psychopaths repeat over and over the same relationship cycle, no matter whom they’re dating or for how long. Relationships with them are always castles–or, sometimes, marriages–built on sand. Today I’ll describe the entire process of psychopathic seduction, from its seemingly ideal beginning to its invariably bitter end.

In their book on psychopaths in the workplace, entitled Snakes in Suits, Babiak and Hare state that the psychopathic bond follows certain predictable stages: idealize, devalue and discard. This process may take several years or only a few hours. It all depends on what the psychopath wants from you and whether or not you present a challenge to him. If the psychopath wants the semblance of respectability–a screen behind which he can hide his perverse nature and appear harmless and normal–he may establish a long-term partnership with you or even marry you. If all…

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“Pissed doesn’t begin to describe my feelings…” says Joan Wheeler! And she thinks Dad would have ‘readopted’ her?? NOT!! December 28, 2013

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everyone needs to know about the mental status of this idiot, she is a danger!

Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor

This post will address two issues; Joan’s constant state of anger and her unreality-based thinking about what my father would or would NOT do about ‘readopting‘ her.

BUT FIRST AN UPDATE March 2016; as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler says about me and family. After the first book was pulled from publication by the publisher, May 2011, she has ‘self-published’ another ‘revised’ version. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor!




Just before the holidays, Joan let everyone know, via her ranting, raving and spilling her guts out, about her failed romance/marriage plans and what a loser she picked. Then she got right back into the trenches against ADOPTION. Like I’ve said, what…

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Joan Wheeler can now see 2400 miles and “know” what people are watching on their TVs. OMG! December 28, 2013

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Joan Wheeler is overthinking, imagining and speculating again.

I blogged about this stupid behavior of Joan’s before on November 10, 2013 in this post “Overthinking, imagining, speculating, fantasizing – then reporting those erroneous thoughts as fact – this is what Joan Wheeler does on a daily basis”   I am reprinting it here in its entirety, because she did it again the other day on twitter.


She was ranting and raving about her ex-boyfriend. Apparently she found a hit on her website that came from New Mexico and she made an ass of herself because she ASSumed something again. Now, she may be right that the boyfriend or a member of his family went to her blog. There is no actual way of knowing. 

But she doesn’t stop there – in her ranting, she says that she “KNOWS” he is watching the Weather Channel to find out the weather in Buffalo – reason? – to stalk her.

Oh my god, people, do you not see how stupid this sounds? Tell me – is this RATIONAL? She answered a tweet from one of her twitter friends and said “he is 2400 miles away.” So — HOW THE HELL DOES SHE KNOW WHAT CHANNEL IS ON THIS GUY’S TV?” She is saying at this same time frame on twitter that she is not having any contact with him. So that rules out that she may be on the phone with him. She says he is not on Twitter, so he isn’t telling her that he’s watcing the Weather Channel.- The only thing she is basing her ASSumption on is seeing a hit on her website that came from New Mexico. Is her website connected to the Weather Channel? Does Joan have some sort of special radar/sonar or sensor grid from Star Trek that is alerting her to who is viewing the Weather Channel in New Mexico? does she have magic eyeglasses that let her see 2400 miles and thru buildings, walls, mountains to see what is on this guy’s TV?  —— PLEASE! JOAN! GET A DAMN LOBOTOMY!

No, I’m not making it up! Joan accused me of that last week – that I’m making things up in my head. No, honey, YOU’RE THE ONE MAKING IRRATIONAL THINGS UP IN YOUR HEAD AND HERE’S THE PROOF. A SCREEN SHOT OF WHAT SHE PUT ON TWITTER! – I replied to that tweet, asking who her eye doctor was. I need a pair of those super magic glasses too!


Here is my original post on her overthinking and imagining things that aren’t real:

This is what Joan Wheeler does – she overthinks, speculates, projects the way SHE would react to a problem onto others, imagines how that person would react, speculates on how that person thinks and acts, thereby creating a fantasy, then begins to actually believe that fantasy, then reports that fantasy as FACT. – Meanwhile, the person she has dreamed up this shit about hasn’t a clue as to what Joan is talking about, is pissed because now a lie is being told about them, calls Joan out on it, gets yelled at, phone slammed on them – and then the whole incident is reported as the other person has now “harassed” Joan and is “interfering with her life.” Joan then escalates the telling of her fantasy, now lying about the person, and the person is left wondering what the hell they did!

like the shit time I called her to tell her Aunt Doris died. (November 3, 2009) After reading email about it, I call my father. Joan should know, she was named after Aunt Doris. Did Dad still have Joan’s phone #? (because a few months prior he kicked her out of his house and life). Yes he did. He was tired. Should Ruth place call? Yes, says Dad. So she does –

Joan – how did you get this number?

Ruth – from Dad.

Joan – NOT a good idea.

Ruth – whatever, look, Aunt Doris died. We thought you should know.

Joan – thank you for that, but —-$%^$#@*&^^?)(&&%$$^ AND DON’T FUCKING CALL ME AGAIN.

Ruth slams phone down and bursts into tears. Goes to cousin Nancy’s house and Nancy calms her down. Then Ruth goes to Dad’s house, where dad says, “Joan is mentally ill.” meanwhile, Joan calls Town of Tonawanda police – Gert, Kathy and Ruth are calling her on the phone harassing her. on the spirit of my miscarried son, I swear this is what happened. – But Joan tells a completely different story. why? – cos she’s nuts. should be committed.

How does ONE phone call, placed by Ruth, get reported to the police that Ruth, Gert AND Kathy as placing phone calls to Joan? Go back to the beginning of this post and learn how Joan’s fucked up brain works, er, DOESN’T work. Because, just because Joan thinks something, that doesn’t make it true.

and by the way – the next day I called Gert, and then she called the Town of Tonawanda police. The officer placing the call to me the night previously had left his name on my answering machine, so Gert asked to speak to him personally. He told Gert: “don’t worry about her, we know all about her.” roflmao!  1. gertmcqueen

Gert here…excellent post!! I hope the links I put here come in, if not just go to the date, August 18, 2011, on my blog and read them…they are ALL good examples of how Joan does this overthinking and imagining…it is HOW her brain works!

http:/gertmcqueen.wordpress.com/Joan Wheeler’s own behavior….exhibit A on August 18, 2011

http:/gertmcqueen.wordpress.com/Joan Wheeler’s own behavior….exhibit B on August 18, 2011

http:/gertmcqueen.wordpress.com/Joan Wheeler’s own behavior….exhibit C on August 18, 2011


Joan – for the love of heaven – THINK before you open your stupid mouth!

1. gertmcqueen

gert here…yep that’s the way Joan’ brain works…in that libelous book…she writes over and over again about how Gert did this or that, gert backed off…when I only have laid eyes on her 4 (four) times in 30 years! Joan is omnipresence; she is everywhere in every one’s mind! She has a speculative mind; not one based on facts.

 2. Ruth

oh absolutely Gert – she did the same to me in that stupid book. Ruth did this, Ruth did that. And not one thing she ever said about me was the truth! Like the time in 1994 her hospital bill got mixed up with somebody else’s – and the hospital told her repeatedly that I didn’t do it – that I was INCAPABLE of doing it. And she admits in the book that they did tell her that – BUT she writes that she KNEW that I did it.

UPDATE January 2016; as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler says about me and family. After the first book was pulled from publication by the publisher, May 2011, she has ‘self-published’ another ‘revised’ version.




Joan Wheeler has the nerve to say she had done no harm. December 27, 2013

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from her facebook page (thank you G.F. for emailing this to me):

Joan M Wheeler And, no tears. I mean, I cried buckets in September when he landed in jail and I flew back home alone. I beleived he could recover. He couldn’t. What his family did to me was even worse. Spying on me on LinkedIn, blogs, beleiving crap that’s out there that certain haters write ( an you know who they are). I must be believed. Oh, and I’m done trying to cope with men who won’t deal with their issues and who then project their crap onto me. Doesn’t work. I know myself pretty well. Not perfect, but I know I did no one harm. So I am now planning on being in San Fransico in April, shal I meet you there?
December 21 at 1:25pm ·
Really Joan? Like you anonymously sent a letter to my employer in November 2012 falsely accusing me of computer fraud. Then you admitted to it on Huffington Post. You mean “no harm?” BULLSHIT! You did that to make trouble for me on my job. But yeah, bitch, it didn’t work – because in your STUPIDITY and your haste to HARM ME by making trouble for me – you forgot that my employer can track every key stroke I do.
yeah, bitch, tell another dam lie.

would somebody please lobotomize Joan Wheeler? December 27, 2013

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at the age of 58 (in two weeks) – Joan STILL hasn’t figured out that the source of all her problems is — HERSELF! person after person has told her the same thing. To shut her mouth. To stop lecturing people when their opinion is different than hers. (WHAT IS SHE GOD?) – To stop trying to control people. (CONTROL FREAK). I told her that she was a control freak. So did my father. So did her ex-husband, so did my cousin Franklin. So did her boyfriends – (she says this in her book). And now, so does this guy. – DO YOU SEE A PATTERN? What makes the whole dam world WRONG and only JOAN right? She MUST be God! She had been told repeatedly to stop lying. She keeps at it. She has been told repeatedly by many people to stop exageratng. She keeps it up. She has been told by many people to get out of their lives. She won’t. She has been told even by law enforcement to stop harassing me and other people – she keeps at it. Gods, why won’t the authorities lock this bitch up? She is clearly insane. She is a psychopath, sociopath and a dangerous individual. She keeps making the wrong decisions in life but never learns from them. She called my job repeatedly in 1994-95 with false accusations of computer fraud. I was exonerated then. She does it again in November 2012 and I’m exonerated again. What part of “they are a large corporation with tight computer security and they can trace every keystroke I do” doesn’t Joan get? I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: she needs to be locked up in the psych center, a lobotomy performed. For the love of heaven Joan – SHUT UP

Another one bites the dust! Joan Wheeler, ‘fiancé’ break-up! Gosh, we told you it would happen! December 27, 2013

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new DEVELOPMENTS in the Joan Wheeler life saga, get a barf-bag!

Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor

The new guy and his family got to see the true nature of and got the full treatment from Joan once they would NOT BEND to her will. Like we have been saying; if you have NOT been victimized by Joan Wheeler you cannot understand what we are saying.

UPDATE Nov 2015  as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate of Joan M Wheeler.



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But of course she DID pick another loser to begin with! Her quickie romance and marriage plans were formed and built on a ‘pickup’ at a bar over a 2 week period of time. They were doomed from the first! We, the birth sisters, knew how it would end when we first heard about it! We gave it six…

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Joan Wheeler drags me into her f’ed up love life – then bitches about me being in her life. uh, what? December 26, 2013

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oh brother – here we go again. Despite Joan Wheeler’s lamentations and bitching that we, her birth sisters “interfere” with her life, she keeps dragging us INTO her life.


In the wee hours of December 26, 2013, – 1:00am to be precise, Joan was on Twitter, going off on her ex-boyfriend. Apparently her website’s locale spotter showed a hit from New Mexico. Where the ex lives. So? It’s the public internet – Joan has a website for the purpose of people reading it. If the ex wants to read her website/blog – well, it’s a damn free country.

So Joan is accusing him of stalking her and she tweets that he should leave her alone, she’s now afraid of him, he is a bad person, she stuck by him when he was in jail, blah blah blah.

THEN she drags US into it. Take a look-see:

Joan Wheeler ‏@forbiddenfamily

And now, you’ll continue to obssess about me. I know you’re not on Twitter. But my stalking sisters are. They’ll make sure you can read this

EXCUSE ME! We don’t even know this guy. And look what she wrote: “I know you’re not on Twitter.” – so, we establish he’s not on Twitter. “But my stalking sisters are.” – yes we are. “They’ll make sure you can read this.” – HOW? she just said he’s NOT on twitter!

so I replied these to that particular tweet:

Ruth Pace ‏@ruthsippelpace

@forbiddenfamily uh – WE DON’T KNOW HIM OR HIS FAMILY – DON’T DRAG US INTO YOUR F’ED UP LOVE LIFE! leave US alone.

Ruth Pace ‏@ruthsippelpace 

@forbiddenfamily this tweet – dragging us into your silliness – proves YOU won’t leave US alone.

Ruth Pace ‏@ruthsippelpace

@forbiddenfamily  just how will I do that? when I don’t know him, + as you say, he’s not on the internet? why are you dragging me into this?

Ruth Pace @forbiddenfamily

we “MONITOR” you to catch you in stuff just like this: WE DON’T KNOW YOUR EX OR HIS FAMILY, LEAVE US OUT OF IT.

Then she tweets this:

Joan Wheeler ‏@forbiddenfamily 

Run scared. I know you will be. Because I Tweet about our breakup? Too bad. No one knows your name. No one. Don’t like being talked about?

and I reply:

Ruth Pace ‏@ruthsippelpace  

@forbiddenfamily that’s right – we don’t know him – now leave us OUT of your f’ed up love life! why are you pulling us into it?

By the way – she dragged HIM into MY life – in July, 2013, by dragging this guy to Family Court when I had her up on harassment charges- cos she contacted my job AGAIN with false accusations of computer fraud – trying to get me fired. WHY was he there? This was FAMILY COURT – he had no business, him being a stranger to me – to be where I was – taking care of a FAMILY matter.

So what is going on in this latest chapter of the soap opera, The Joni Show?

It appears a few months ago, she met this dude – and she was gushing all about him on twitter, that he’s half Mexican and half Native American, and because of her “knowledge” and “love” of Native Americans, she’s all starry-eyed.

She knows this guy FOR TWO WEEKS! And they’re making plans to get married! WTF! Where are their brains? So when my godmother dies, she drags this stranger to her funeral. I could only attend the wake, as I had to work the day of the funeral, but he attended both. WHY? He doesn’t know my godmother. Whatever.

At the wake, Joan tells one of my cousins that she is going to go New Mexico for a few weeks. And they have to decide where they will live once they get married.

Now, I laid eyes on this guy twice. Once in the waiting room at court, the second time at the wake. I never spoke to him, nor did I approach him. He seemed quiet, nice. Another cousin told me that he sat with Joan at the church at the funeral, and didn’t really say much.

Which belies this tweet about him:

Joan Wheeler ‏@forbiddenfamily  

I should have left that day you freaked out when my aunt died. You made it about your grief over Vietnam, over your Mom’s death in 2010…

He didn’t look like he was freaking out to me.

But dayam – that tweet is sure rotten! As are these:

Joan Wheeler ‏@forbiddenfamily  

I comforted you, you creep. I needed comfort, but you demanded I comfort you. I should have kicked you out then.

Joan Wheeler ‏@forbiddenfamily 

But my aunt died in early August. Instead of comforting me, you attacked me. Lunged at me with your PTSD and how deathy (sic) affects you.

WELL! We see what a great “social worker” she is!

Doesn’t she know as a “social worker” that people grieve differently than others? And where does she get off attacking a Vietnam Vet? Who has PTSD? As a “social worker” – that is a no-no! And to attack someone who is grieving their MOTHER???!!! She died in 2010? That’s only 3 years ago! My mother-in-law died 10 years ago, and my husband and I still get choked up about her. Where the hell does Joan get off AS A SOCIAL WORKER and AS A HUMAN BEING to belittle someone’s grief?

As the wife of a Vietnam Veteran, I went to our local Veteran’s Resource Center  in 1988 for counseling – to learn about PTSD that ALL Veterans may suffer from. I learned about the history of Vietnam, and the war. I learned about the aftermath of the war – both to the peoples of Vietnam AND our returning vets. I learned WHY my husband does certain things. And in doing so, we became strong together.

If Joan can’t handle being with a Vietnam Vet, fine, but don’t fucking attack him. Yes, many Vets, (of all wars) do suffer from PTSD and unfortunately do abuse alcohol and drugs (thank goddess my husband does not) – and that is a real concern. Joan reports on twitter that he was driving drunk and spent a month in jail. That would be a challenge to any relationship, and for speaking for myself, I would not be involved further with any man who does this (drives drunk and get thrown in jail). I am absolutely dead-set against drug and alcohol abuse.

But Joan is one to talk! She chronicles in her now-dead book that she herself was an abuser of drugs and alcohol and drove drunk. She showed up at my house once in 1991 at 5am drunk out of her mind!

So her little quickie romance is all busted up! She’s blaming his family for that. Apparently they went on the internet to check up on her. And I don’t blame them. They did what HE should have done. They were probably thinking “just who is the woman who knows our loved one for only a couple of weeks and thinks she ‘s gonna marry him? Is she the genu-wine article, or she just a gold-digger, looking for a sugar daddy to get her hooks into?”

Well, I say to them: “Good Job!”

So back to Twitter-dom: she also tweets this little gem:

Joan Wheeler ‏@forbiddenfamily 

I know what he’s still doing: checking the weather channel for weather in my city, thinking of where I am: the Y, music shows, plus ….

OH MY GOD! Joan – are you for real? Do you have the capability to see what channel is on this guy’s TV? To see the weather reports in Buffalo? and music? YOU FREAKING INSANE PARANOID IDIOT!

She also reports that she is now afraid of him. uh, duh – he’s 2500 miles away! But she told that lie on the stand in court about me in July 2013 – that she is “afraid” of me. WELL IDIOT! STOP DOING THINGS TO PISS ME OFF! — LIKE DRAGGING ME INTO YOUR FUCKED UP LOVE LIFE.

1. Ruth

by the way – as I understand the politically correct terminology – they are not “Indians” they are “Native Americans.” And they are not “Spanish” they are Mexicans. When she first tweeted about her new romance she called him Native American. Now she calls him Indian. Last week she was blaming the “Spanish” culture for her breakup. As I understand it, some like to be called Hispanic, or Latino. I think it depends on the region. I don’t know. That’s why I don’t call anybody anything unless I know what they like to be referred by. Most of the time, I just call them people, unless I’m talking specifically about the country they come from or if their ethnic background is an important issue with what I’m writing about. As we see, Joan is a bigot. She gushes that in her youth, she had a love for Native Americans. She points that out in her book. But she also pointed out in her book that my first husband was Arab, and goes out of her way to say that I “became fully immersed in the Arab culture.” – no, I did not. I embraced many Arab people as my friends. And what did that all have to do with HER adoption anyway – the purpose of her writing her stupid book in the first place. Who I claim as my friends, have nothing to do with her adoption.

2. gertmcqueen

Gert here… Joan says NO ONE FROM NEW MEXICO should be reading her web blog! What?? hey I KNOW people in New Mexico…been there, speak to them on phone, email. So it could be MY PEOPLE checking Joan stuff! Joan needs to stop browbeating everyone up who think about or does anything related to ADOPTION cause that is where her pains are coming from. She needs to accept that she’s adopted and let people alone. How many men does she have to go through before she learns that NO ONE wants to hear her bitching and screaming. If she still wants to live her life the way she does then she needs to learn that MEN (together or not) don’t want to listen to a bitch scream and rant. Every man I know that has seen or hear anything about Joan says that they would not put up with her for one minute…she’d be history! and the next book that Joan writes WILL have a chapter on this guy from New Mexico cause that what Joan does…she writes lies about every person that DOESN’T AGREE WITH HER. So if I was this guy from NM, I’d keep close tabs on what Joan puts in print or on the internet as she JUST DID on twitter…the guy may not have twitter but I bet he could find someone who does.


well said Gert – and if I were that guy – or his family – I would most certainly keep close tabs on what she writes about him and pull her into court for harassment, slander and libel.

UPDATE January 2016; as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler says about me and family. After the first book was pulled from publication by the publisher, May 2011, she has ‘self-published’ another ‘revised’ version.





regarding Joan Mary Wheeler: people who judge me to be a bitch – just don’t understand – or maybe they got their head so far up their ass they don’t WANT to understand, or they’re too STUPID to understand December 24, 2013

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You may have heard how horrible the birth sisters of Joan Mary Wheeler are. Well, we’re not. We are only fighting to combat the lies and slander that Joan tells about us and our family. Joan is a miserable person. Until Joan accepts the life that has been given her she shall never be happy. She is not fighting for anyone’s rights, she is pissed off because she’s adopted. This is IT in a nutshell. And – she hates me and Gert and Kathy, her birthsisters because WE were NOT adopted out, but she was. that’s it – plain and simple. She HATES adoption and has gone on record that she wants adoption ABOLISHED. – COMPLETELY. Because she was physically and mentally abused after being adopted. This is why she hates us, her birthsisters. Here’s just ONE of the silly ridiculous complaints that she has against us – that we have stalked her for her ENTIRE life. Wow, that’s some feat – considering that I was three and a half years old when she was born. How does a 3 year old stalk someone?

Speaking of stalking – on July 10, 2015 Gert found evidence of being stalked by one of Joan’s buddies – who was bitching about being stalked by us – but how did her bitching end up on Gert’s about me page if Dana wasn’t stalking Gert? Wow! talk about confusion! Dana, Dana, Dana, sit down and figure out what you are doing and saying, because it ain’t making sense! So I wrote a blog post about it to try make sense of what this nutball was saying and doing. – I don’t know, I still can’t figure it out. 

Dingbat Dana Seilhan is now outed as a lying hypocritical STALKER July 10, 2015

Dana Sielhan, delusional buddy of Joan Mary Wheeler – shut the fuck up July 10, 2015  

I have begun using the hasthtag tag feature on facebook for any posts or comments I make about Joan Mary Wheeler on facebook. #JoanMaryWheeler –

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Here’s an oldie but goodie post – in regards to Joan’s cowardly bullying ways:

New information, placed by Joan Wheeler, on the Forbidden Family web site, dated or updated early November 2010. – then cowardly removed with no explanation or apology around November 22. November 24, 2010

another oldie but goodie – evidence of Joan’s harassment of me – but – but – GASP! – Joan ‘never’ has done a thing to her birthsisters.

Did Joan’s 10 year old son write that letter I got in June 1993? Or did Joan herself? December 12, 2009

recent posts (click on title to read blog post):

Joan Mary Wheeler, always the suck up, tries to gain the attention of a true ‘founder’ of adoption reform! by gertmcqueen July 8, 2015

Hey Joan Mary Wheeler – are you going to slam this horror game from 1964 for kids? or the new book coming out called Monster Mash? July 8, 2015

Joan Mary Wheeler reaches out, for any old thread, to weave her tales of BS, that #adoption is an evil that MUST BE STOPPED…but – July 2, 2015  (from Gert McQueen’s blog)

 Joan Mary Wheeler – I bought some more movies! June 29, 2015 – because Joan thinks it’s her business to dictate how I should spend my own money (that I bust my ass to earn) or what movies I should watch.

 Joan Mary Wheeler is the real horror movie – and one that I would NOT want to see. June 26, 2015  

Joan Mary Wheeler engages in personal attacks against someone who she disagrees with and is taken to task! June 18, 2015

 another one of Joan Wheeler’s puppets is outed as an asshole – one Heather Cohen June 17, 2015

 June 14, 2015 new post – Joan Wheeler proves that she simply can not stop lying about her sisters and tries to manipulate another person to make trouble for me.

The reason for this blog – because I don’t appreciate being disrespected by someone – Joan Wheeler – who I took into my life, my heart, who I loved, but then got kicked in the teeth time and time again by Joan. From slander and libel, theft, false police reports, false accusations told about to my employer to get me fired, trying to break me and my husband up – this is why this blog is here. anything written on this blog and Gert’s blog is backed up by actual documents – police, court, letters. Some of those letters are HAND WRITTEN BY JOAN WHEELER – and the envelopes too! – digitally scanned and posted on this blog! Also photographs. Screenshots of Joan’s own words from various places on the internet that catch Joan in  a lie or exploitation. Joan on the other hand, talks a pile of shit, but NEVER OFFERS ANY PROOF OF ANY KIND.

This is my story. It is different than the story that Joan Wheeler, angry adoptee puts out. Joan is a pathological liar. Her book Forbidden Family contained many lies. I sent proof of the lies to the publisher of her book – actual court documents that proved that Joan Wheeler libeled me in her book. Trafford Publisher’s legal team spent four months reviewing my documents and the book. On May 11, 2011, they pulled the book from publication on the grounds that Joan violated the contract that she signed with them, wherein she stated that everything in the book was factual and true. I sent FACTS to the publisher. I sent TRUTH to the publisher. There is no “there are two sides to every story.” Because when you deal with the FACTS – there is only ONE side.

I will not tolerate anyone telling me that I don’t have the right to have this blog and say what I have to say about MY OWN DAMN LIFE. Joan has been able to manipulate several people into trying to bully me and my sister Gert out of OUR RIGHT to tell the story of OUR LIVES.

 you can visit me at my facebook page if you want. I’ve been playing with Pinterest as well. sister site to this blog: Reclaiming the Sippel Herr family honor Scans of actual police and court documents are posted to this blog. As well as actual typed and handwritten letters and envelopes from Joan Wheeler are posted to this blog. If you continue to believe the lies of a proven liar – you’re as stupid as the liar. shit fucking lies one lie I have read the lies that Joan Wheeler has said about me in her now dead book. The book is dead because I submitted proof to the publisher of Joan’ lies – their legal department compared what she wrote in the book to actual City of Buffalo Court documents – the documents proved that Joan lied about me. This blog is intended to take every little (and those that are not so little) lie that Joan says about me and my family, be those lies be made in print, in person, or on the internet – and tell the truth of MY life. I provide actual proof of my truth – with the court documents, letters written by Joan, photos, screenshots of what Joan says on the internet, and other proofs. This is not a pretty blog – and yeah, I’m angry – because Joan will not stop. In 1994-95, she called my job repeatedly for months with false accusations, trying to get me fired. She did it again in November 2012, and was hauled into court on harassment again. Unfortunately, the judge pooh-poohed her harassment of me. And this is why I feel the way I write about it here: December 24, 2013 — My husband John and I were watching “Back to the Future” last night – cute little movie – Marty McFly (Michael J. Fox) goes back in time to see his parents as teenagers. John said, “wouldn’t it be something – to go back in time and see your parents as kids.” then the conversation turned on could we change the future. And I did say something like, I would try to prevent that kin-killer ever being conceived in the first place. – hateful thing to say? I suppose so. But in light of what she has done to not just Gert and me – but our whole family – we have been in hell because of her. I look around and I don’t see other families dealing with this kind of horror. People don’t know. People think I’m a bitch because of my feelings towards my own “sister.” – this is why some people, like Laura Heath, or Russell Thomas or Brian Maloney or Christine (mara) Parker, Heather UK Holmes jump all over us – they cannot conceive the harassments done to us – by a member of our family! My own sister – Joan Wheeler, has tried to destroy ME by her various harassments. And those people named above (and others) DON’T GET IT! They think I’m making it all up! Joan herself said in a recent tweet that me and Gert are making it up in our heads! Excuse Me! On this blog, I have posted scans of actual City Court of Buffalo documents that prove that Joan Wheeler is out and out liar and I am not making anything up. I still have the paper copy of the letter that that bitch sent to me Feb. 1999, wherein she tells me that my husband got the next door pregnant – and they had a baby girl born in 1994. First of all, WHAT KIND OF SISTER DOES THAT? Second – I have lived in my house since late May 1987. The house next door when we moved in – the lady was Andrea, who had three kids, aged 6 – 12. They moved out in 1988. Next were the Corleys – she had three daughters – Hope (16), Kedra,(14) Dusan (10). Then Betty and her 12 year old daughter Malika moved in – 1990. In 1991, Danny and Jenine  McCovery moved in and they had a baby BOY. They moved to a house up the street, and then Charlene  Smith moved in – and she had her husband had a baby BOY. Then the house stood vacant. Then the Weedens moved in there in 1996. They were a bunch of pigs – roaches all over – the whole street signed a petition to get them off our street. oh – I should mention that my landlord owned both my house and the house next door and I was helping him take care of it. That’s how I know all the tenants. In the spring of 1996, he sold both houses. John and I bought our house from him and a slumlord bought the house next door. We put pressure on the slumlord. The pigs moved out in 1997. The house remained vacant until January 2001. When the Mayfields moved in. The moved out in 2005. The house remained vacant until it was demolished in 2007. In all the time I lived there – there was NEVER A BABY GIRL BORN TO ANYBODY THERE. by the way – anybody living in the Buffalo area can double check these names by looking them up in the City Directory for these years – the city directories are located in the downtown branch of The Buffalo and Erie County Library. street name – Antwerp St. I have lived at number 36 since May 1987 and have owned it since March 1996. The house next door was 32 Antwerp. There never was a 34.  I don’t make things up – these are things that are all on public record in the judgment rolls, tax rolls and real estate documents of Erie County in the state of New York. And on the property information page on the City of Buffalo’s official website Anybody who reads these official documents and comes away by saying I am making these things  is a delusional idiot. go fucking look it up on google maps. I don’t care. The house on the other side of me – was on the next block (Warring Ave) with their garage next to my house. There was an older couple there – and they had a teenage handicapped son in a wheel chair. They were living there when we moved in and they lived there until around 2000. The house stood vacant and was demolished. the present picture on google maps shows a vacant lot. The house – 34 Warring was a corner house – the garage behind it, with the driveway next to my house. Part of the driveway is still there in the present picture on google maps. How would YOU like to receive a letter from your own sister saying such lies? Joan Wheeler is an abomination! Pure and simple as that. And what she did to my cousin Gail – while Gail was battling cancer – harassed her left and right with stupid letters, screaming messages on Gail’s answering machine – to the point that the town of Eden, NY police department got involved and told Joan to stop. She kept it up and the POLICE, not Gail, pressed charges against Joan. In 2009, after I called Joan on the phone to tell her a family member died, Joan became verbally abusive to me on the phone, lobbing an obscenity-laden screaming fit at me – then called the police on me – when all I did was to tell her an aunt died. She also told the police that Gert had called her, as well as Kathy in England, when the only person who called was me. Gert called the Town of Tonawanda, NY police department and they said (regarding Joan): “Don’t worry about her. We know all about her.” gertmcqueen

Gert here…good points! No one who has NOT been victimized by Joan Wheeler can understand us. She is a bad seed, such things do happen in the world of nature! She herself only believes what she sees in her demented brain. Even now, after a failed ‘relationship’ she can’t imagine that there just might be something wrong with her like her behavior! It just doesn’t occur to her that perhaps she NEEDS TO CHANGE! Be that as it may…she will always have a miserable life and her ‘friend’s will always think the birth sisters are the cause of Joan’s unhappiness etc, because they need US IN ORDER TO KEEP THEIR POINT OF VIEW ALIVE. We don’t have to get anyone to agree with us…we already have lived the pains of having Joan Wheeler in our lives. We shall continue to write and expose everything she did to us, and others, until she decides to admit that she did those wrong doings. We don’t care what others think about us. 2. Ruth

I forgot to mention that when she sent that letter to me about my husband getting the next door neighbor pregnant – she sent it from a friend’s address. The friend did not know that Joan had used her address WITHOUT HER PERMISSION. I sent a letter to that addressed to “occupant’ (with a copy of Joan’s letter) and informed the occupant what Joan had done. I asked her (it turned out to be a woman) why harassing letters to me were coming from her house and if I didn’t get to the bottom of it, I would see Joan and her in court. It turned out that woman did NOT give Joan permission to use her address, and filed harassment charges on Joan. I also filed harassment charges on Joan – for contacting me AFTER the district attorney had told her not to. AND it was in this same month – May 1999 that the Town of Eden police filed charges on Joan – the result? – I was granted a one year order of protection against Joan, as was Gail and as was her former friend. Yet in her book, Joan twists things around. Joan is a master manipulator and user of people. She is clever at twisting words around to suit herself. Yet, she never provides any proof of what she says. I have consistently provided proof on this blog that what I say is the truth. Anyone who looks at an actual court document and thinks that I made that up in my head is a complete fool and asshole. check out this post:  – a must read! click on title – Joan Wheeler perjures herself TWICE on the stand today, July 23, 2013 Check out this one – where Joan sent a letter that was supposedly written by her then 10 year old son – to my husband, but the envelope was addressed to me – Joan forged the letter, sent it to me to bait me to call her. Which, stupid me, I did, whereupon Joan filed a false police report on me for annoyance phone calls.https://ruthsippelpace.wordpress.com/2009/12/12/did-joans-10-year-old-son-write-that-letter-i-got-in-june-1993-or-did-joan-herself/ and this one – where Joan’s puppet Brian (who bailed out when I filed harassment charges on him) started some crap a year ago. THIS post contains the above mentioned letter that I supposedly received from Joan’s son, AND copies of letters that Joan sent to my husband, via his mother Dorothy’s house – trying to break me and John up and cause trouble between me and my mother in law.  https://ruthsippelpace.wordpress.com/2013/01/25/brian-t-maloney-and-joan-wheeler-now-drag-an-innocent-person-my-niece-into-his-bullshit-drama/ – be sure to check out the handwriting on these things – they are all the same – Joan in her sick diseased mind, tried to scribble up the letter supposedly from her son – but like most insane people, couldn’t quite disguise it all – because they are too stupid, sick, or brain dead to a good job of forgery. And of course, Joan will say I’m making it all up – sure, actual photocopy/scan of actual letters that Joan herself sent me – postmarked too!

Plenty of Lies, told by Joan Wheeler, part two December 21, 2013

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this is part two of two…many on twitter have been looking at this and part 1 so I thought it worth reblogging it here… please do read and share it far and wide

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Lies, told by Joan Wheeler…plenty of lies… part two
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Back to the book and the ‘reunion of 92’… so having arrived at Ruth’s, for a visit with Ruth and me, Joan tells us, in the book, that ‘…because she was the baby of the family, now 36, she had no choice but to listen to their authority…’ What bullshit! It was and is all in her head! And the lies keep coming and her indignation is overflowing!

Her account of my life, at that time, is again not accurate. No I was not a secretary, but a Dental Assistant working for the Department of Defense. And I was not just a ‘…self-taught practitioner of a Teutonic, pan-pagan Germanic religion…worked on Elder Thesis, though she wasn’t studying in college or university…’ What Joan apparently doesn’t know is that one does not have to physically attend a building complex called college or…

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Plenty of Lies told by Joan Wheeler part one December 21, 2013

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this is part one of two…many on twitter have been looking at this and part 2 so I thought it worth reblogging it here… please do read and share it far and wide

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Lies, told by Joan Wheeler…plenty of lies… part one
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This post was written in early spring 2010 and emailed to Ruth on Mon, May 10, 2010 2:27:20 PM and edited here Aug 2011
 (3) plenty of lies
Gert McQueen
To: Ruth Pace

Chapter 26, called, hard to live presently when history is told in pieces, in that lying book by Joan Wheeler Forbidden Family contains plenty of lies.

“The mind is everything, what you think, you become.” ….Buddha

What happens when real people don’t match the storyline that was created for them by someone else? Lies; plenty of lies.

The title of this chapter does indicate the confusion and lack of continuity that is in Joan’s mind. She will say that it is because she is ‘adopted’, but, I don’t think that Joan can blame it all on adoption. No, Joan intentionally misrepresents and lies when…

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A photograph of Joan Wheeler is proof of one of her lies – a follow-up to my blogpost about the SCA December 21, 2013

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tis FIRST NIGHT OF YULE and seeing that folks on twitter have been checking this post out I thought to reblog it, by all means please read and share it far and wide

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In a comment placed on this blog on March 5, 2012, Joan dragged up an old post of mine and quotes me…“By the gods, Joan, Butch wil be swinging the hammer of Thor on your f’ing head!”

And Joan says this to me in her comment (March 5, 2012): “How do you think this sounds to a rational person? Does that mean I’ll be getting a thor head?’

I answered her question in my blog post of March 9, 2012, “The SCA – what is it and why is Joan afraid of thor?”


In that post, I quoted from her book, her admission that she participated in SCA activities with my brother Len (Butch), when she first went to Arizona to meet him. She then says in her book that she obtained the name of a contact person to join the Buffalo Chapter…

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Is the character of a spokesperson, such as Joan Wheeler, important when seeking public recognition for a cause? December 15, 2013

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A NEW BLOG about NEW activities of Joan Wheeler

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Yes it is! The basic character of a spokesperson, for any cause, ought to be beyond reproach. If not, that spokesperson will just add ammunition to the opposition of your cause.

Joan Wheeler has gone out of her way to depict and present each member, of the birth family, in slanderous libelous ways! This makes NOT a good spokesperson for adoption reform! If she treats the birth family in the way she does how can she be trusted?

Ruth’s addition here: Yes, I agree. Any “spokesperson” who is taking on any “social justice” issue, especially when minors are involved, as her new involvement in her Unitarian Universalist church will involve (spring of 2014) – especially when that person publicly puts on Twitter that she fantasizes blowing up government offices, and in the past interfered with the minor child of her own birthsibling (telling Gert’s 15 year old NOT to listen…

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review of Rene Hoksbergen’s review December 10, 2013

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we need to revisit the bullshit that was said about that libelous book, if you have not read the review, please click on the link and see what I have to say about this ‘professor’s’ review of the garbage book

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See my review of Rene Hoksbergen’s review of Joan Wheeler’s lying book on Ruth’s blog

Gert McQueen’s review of Rene Hoksbergen’s review of Forbidden Family by Joan Wheeler


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Joan Wheeler’s lies, in print and on the Internet, have a tendency to keep popping up! December 10, 2013

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another new post

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So she wants to ‘change’ the world of adoption! Too bad her lies and misrepresentations are there for all see, for all time! She can’t hide from all her dirty words and deeds. She may be able to con some people but she has a long trail of people that have been burnt by her.

I recently found the following site and Joan’s comment. I will pull out a couple of sentences, further down, to illustrate the lies and misrepresentations.


It never ceases to amaze me that adoptees who complain to activist adoptees tell us to be quiet. I’ve been reunited for 35 years, been interviewed on radio a few times, and there’s always someone who says “I know who my real parents are.” Well, not exactly. When I was found at age 18 by a sister I never knew, at that moment I said to my self, “I…

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Watch out! Take cover! #Joan Wheeler is on Yahoo News!! December 4, 2013

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watching out for where Joan throws her weight around

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She’s really hitting the bottom of the barrel, of social-media sites, to get her so-called crusade, to end adoption, heard.


UPDATE January 2016; as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler says about me and family. After the first book was pulled from publication by the publisher, May 2011, she has ‘self-published’ yet again, her ‘story’, NOW called ‘duped by adoption’. There is NOTHING in it for adoption reform, for she is totally against adoption and her two families. To learn more see…




For the most part, the people that read and comment on most of the popular social-media sites don’t really give a shit about the story. To them it’s mostly about being…

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Pro-adoption folks do not want to hear from Joan Wheeler. Can’t blame them! December 1, 2013

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NEW POST over on Gert’s blog

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Yep, Joan Wheeler, in all her aliases, really ought to just shut her mouth, via her keyboard. NO ONE wants to hear her shit anymore!

So I note the following from Joan’s tweeter feed…yes, I look at it, as I’m sure she looks at mine. I also see similar blog posts/news stories from other sources.

Claudia C D’Arcy ‏@FauxClaud13 Nov

10 Things Open Adoption Opened Me To … http://goo.gl/fb/3mWVU #adoption#openadoptionstories#adoptionstories

Joan Wheeler ‏@forbiddenfamily13 Nov

10 Things Open Adoption Opened Me To … http://www.adoptionbirthmothers.com/10-things-open-adoption-opened-me-to/ …

NOW a bit of ‘background’…I recently had my own family’s adoption story published on October 29, 2013…


I also had several comments on Claudia’s story published November 14, 2013 here…


Here is the link, to the blog post that Joan commented on.


NOW I KNOW THAT I SAW, the following comment of Joan’s, on the web page but then when…

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