The “Truth” does not lie in the middle – the Truth is simply the Truth – a lesson for Joan Wheeler and her puppets (Laura Heath, Brian Maloney, Mara Rigge) April 12, 2014Posted by Ruth in Black and White Evidence of Joan Wheeler's Lies: Letters, Court Documents, Lessons in Life.
Tags: dishonesty, Disrespect, facts, harassment of an adoptee's birth family, LIBEL, Lies, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements, SLANDER, spreading untruths, stupidity, Truth
My facebook buddy, David Gerrold, wrote this this evening:
“The truth is not in the middle. The truth is where the truth is. Sometimes it’s not even between the two extremes. Sometimes it’s in another place entirely.
You can move the middle by stretching one side or the other, but the truth does not move when the middle does. People who say “the truth is somewhere in the middle” are admitting they’re too lazy to do their research.
And those who insist on moving the middle are admitting — if not to themselves — that their argument is flawed.”
And I wrote these two responses:
“I have to add that phrase “they’re too lazy to do their research” to those who say “there are two sides to every story.” – Not when the truth is the truth. for example, on my blog, I have posted actual court documents that tell the truth – which was not told in a libelous book that slammed my reputation – and I am continually amazed that the author’s supporters keep saying that the book was her side of the story. If her side of the story is completely different than actual court documents, then it is a lie, a fabrication, and certainly not the truth.
Little trivia like what shoes were worn, exact time, etc. is one thing, but when there are huge discrepencies in two people’s stories, and documented proof is provided, and a third person comes along and doesn’t even look at the proof, then declares that each person’s telling of the tale is their perception, I call that third person lazy.”
So any person who comes to me and tells me that Joan’s book is her perception of what happened is a damn fool. Joan blatantly changed facts around – and facts cannot be changed. She knows damn well that the order of protection she obtained against me in 1993 was for six months, yet she wrote in her book that it was for one year. And it is not the result of faulty memory – she wrote a letter to New York State officials in December 1994 and told them I was sentenced to six months probation. Which I was not – the actual court documents are available on this blog – anyone who fails to do their research and has the nerve to tell ME the FACTS of what I lived through, is a fool. I have in my possession the actual court documents, and I have scanned them on this blog – and they prove that Joan Wheeler is a liar.
Go to this post “here are the court documents that prove that Joan Wheeler is a liar – January 17, 2013 ” to see the court documents that I am talking about – if you are too lazy to go look at them, I have to wonder what kind of fool you are – and what kind of brainless idiot you are that you refuse to even consider that your little buddy Joan Wheeler is a liar and that I, her rotten birth sister just may be telling the truth. You just don’t want to admit that you backed the wrong horse and were made a fool of. That’s your problem, not mine.
A letter I wrote to Joan Wheeler, 10 years before her book came out- warning her not use my name or picture – and the bitch did it anyway. March 26, 2014Posted by Ruth in Black and White Evidence of Joan Wheeler's Lies: Letters, Court Documents, Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family.
Tags: abuse, being downright nasty, blaming people for your own mess, Disrespect, false accusations, harassment, harassment of an adoptee's birth family, Lies, SLANDER, spreading untruths, stupidity, whining
I just found a gem of a letter that I wrote to Joan in April 1999 – to answer the bitch’s letter to me in February 1999 that my then fiancé (now husband) John got the next door neighbor pregnant. Pay close attention to the paragraph that I highlighted in bold – I told her back in 1999 that she did not have permission to use my name or likeness in her book – 10 years later, in 2009, she may have changed my name, but she left plenty of clues as to my name AND USED MY PICTURE ON THE BACK OF HER BOOK – and that is why her book got pulled from publication.
Ms. Joan Wheeler
1 C Drive,
Kenmore, New York 14223
April 20, 1999,
My Dear Joni,
I think that there a couple of things that need to be clarified. First, the notion that you have that I am wallowing in bitterness and negativity regarding the death of my mother and your existence.
I do not nor have I ever blamed you for Mom’s death. When we found you I was truly happy. And to this day there are times I truly miss you. I miss the good times we had going to the beach, and two or three years ago, when Channel 17 showed a Moody Blues concert I thought that it would have been great watching it with you. I cried because I couldn’t.
I don’t know why you tend to get things mixed up. The first time I called you (the famous “bowling” call), it was at 2 P.M. from a dental office in the Brisbane Building that Gert worked at. It was a Tuesday. The dentist Gert worked for always took Tuesday afternoons off, but Gert had clerical work to do. I was neither drunk, nor panicky when I called you, and I did not end the call with a bunch of giggles. I remember practically every word I said to you as if I had just placed the call five minutes ago.
And yes, I did not take very good care of Mom’s wedding dress in the beginning. But you did not return it by throwing it at my feet and yelling at me. And the year you returned it was 1983, not 1978. And I never got the beads back. So if I originally did not take good care of the dress, you also had a hand in “disrespecting” it.
Where did you get the idea that my grandfather molested and murdered his first born son Richard? Who told you that? If anyone did, they are lying. Richard died of diptheria.
And the idea that my father molested us? Where does this stuff come from? Let me set you straight right here and now, MY FATHER DID NOT MOLEST ME OR MY SISTERS. Kathy kicked him in the balls because that is the most effective place to kick a guy. And that was because Dad stormed into our bedroom with his “Big Daddy” routine. Kathy was getting dressed. She had on slacks and was starting to put on her blouse and yelled at Dad because he saw her in her bra. He yelled back at her “I made you, I can look at you. Now get downstairs and clean up that mess.” Dad was too mad to be thinking about her boobs!
The evening before, our brother Butch was on the phone with his friend George. Kathy came in and wanted to use the phone. Butch said no, cause the last time she said it was important, she ended up calling her girlfriend Pat and told her some new gossip about the Beatles. This time, Butch refused to give up the phone. Kathy reached over and tried to hang up the hook on the wall phone. Butch got up and the next thing you know, the two of them were going at it. John and I were watching from the dining room, George heard it over the phone. Dishes were broken, food ended up on the floor. Then Kathy stormed out of the house. Shortly afterwards, Butch left too, leaving me and John with the mess. Which of course, we did not touch. When Dad came home, we told him what happened and when the guilty parties came home, they were told that they were going to get up the next morning at 6:00 and clean it up. And sure enough, 6:00 the next morning (a Saturday), Dad came upstairs and woke Kathy up. She got up, went to the bathroom and came back upstairs. She was taking her time getting dressed, I could hear Dad downstairs yelling at her to get down there and clean the mess up. I didn’t see him, but Butch tells me that at this point, he was already in the kitchen cleaning. Kathy kept dawdling, Dad was getting madder and madder and that’s when he came up to our room.
Since you were raised as an only child, the above scenario would seem alien to you. But it happens all the time when you get brothers and sisters together. Real life ain’t like The Brady Bunch. I remember our cousins Gail and Norman going at it too! And since I spent so much time there, I was involved in a few brawls with them. One time Aunt Catherine broke in the bathroom door after Gail locked herself in to avoid a thrashing.
It is my understanding that you plan to use my true name and photograph in your book. Well, I am hereby serving you notice that if you do, and you keep that reference of me being drunk when I called, you will be served with a lawsuit for invading my privacy and portraying me as a drunk. You do not nor have ever had my permission to use my name or like ness. And you had better not even of publishing that garbage about my grandfather and father. I don’t like it one bit when I find that strangers are reading that my grand father is a murderer and my father is a molestor. There is no truth to these “speculations” of yours and that is just what they are-speculations of your warped mind.
You were hopping mad when two doctors wrote an article about your daughter’s medical condition in a medical journal, claiming that your privacy was invaded. You want YOUR privacy protected, but what about Gert and Kathy’s privacy? It is up to THEM to tell anyone about their childhood NOT YOU! And what about MY privacy? Who gave you the right to send a “detailed family history” (your version of it) to Commissioner Deborah Merrifield of Social Services? Where was MY privacy when you wrote to the Director of Patient Accounts of Buffalo General Hospital and told him MY personal medical history and MY marital status? What do those two things have to do with YOUR erroneous hospital bill? And where do you get off repeatedly calling my place of employment trying to get me fired? Your phone calls were described to me as “bizarre.” I told everyone, “Of course they’re bizarre, they’re coming from a bizarre person.”
And of course your scheme to break me and John up certainly didn’t work. What did you think to accomplish when you dragged his mother in it? My future mother-in-law sees you for what you are-a trouble-making idiot.
I must hand it to you though, you gave it a good try by calling child abuse on yourself and naming my fiance as the perpetrator, hoping that I would get blamed for the call. Your mistake was that you went overboard by writing letters to the mayor of Buffalo, and other elected officials. I simply sat back and watched you hang yourself. I don’t need to do anything to you, you seem quite capable of digging your own grave.
A relationship of any kind is two-way, not one-way, and that way being YOUR way whether we like it or not. Your attitude has always been, “This is how it will be. Take it or leave it.” And that is exactly what I and so many others have done. We chose not to take it, and left. How many friendships have you destroyed throughout the years? Well, you can add two more to the ever growing list of people who cared about you, had enough of your bullshit and lies, and have broken off their friendship to you. Those being my fiance John and your friend on Balzac Court. No, I did not “badmouth” you, nor did I tell you to put her address on a bullshit letter you sent to my house. You destroyed that friendship all by yourself. Again, you are own worst enemy. And that is the real reason our reunion went sour, not because of some complex psychological feelings of guilt and shame from our dysfunctional childhood, nor feelings of jealousy that you had a secure home growing up while we did not. We simply grew tired of putting up with your rotten behavior. Your behavior is unacceptable and can not and will not be tolerated. Your behavior has cost you the very thing you wanted-your birth family. And don’t try to get yourself off the hook by saying that it wasn’t you who initiated the search, but that it was Gert and me who brought you something you did not want. You had already made the conscious decision when you turned 18, to search for your birth family. You wanted us just as much as we wanted you. It truly is a shame that our lost sister, despite growing up in a stable home environment did not learn the moral values that we did. I am not saying that I’m Miss Goody Two-Shoes. I’ve done a lot of stuff in my life, but nothing compared to your evil plotting, lies, and thefts. I’d bet Shadya is happy that she had to contend with me and Fran and not you. Anything that we did to Shadya pales in comparison to what you have done. We never once called her job and tried to get her fired, or frame her so that she would get arrested or hauled into court on some bullshit “harassment” charges. And we never made off with 900 bucks of hers!
I especially love the time when after I told you in December 1990 that I wanted nothing more to do with you, you had the nerve to call and leave a message on my answering machine saying that money shouldn’t come between sisters. YOU who had only worked a few temporary jobs, and those not very hard ones either are going to lecture ME about MY hard-earned money! I bust my ass at my job. Many times I have to drag myself home on the bus with my feet and back killing me. I have pulled my back out 4 times and in June of 1997, I was out on disability because I was assaulted (kicked in the neck) by a confused patient. And the money you STOLE was not even my money. I had borrowed that money from the credit card, and had to work my ass off to pay it back, going with out a car, because YOU helped yourself to the money to fix YOUR car. When my car broke, I did not have the money to fix it, all my paychecks went to pay back the bank for the borrowed $900.00 you stole. And when dear old Uncle John got laid off, and we did not have the money to pay our electric bill, they shut our electricity off. I called you to beg you for some money-THE MONEY YOU STOLE FROM ME-and you kept hanging up on me, then LIED and said that I hung up on you!
Then used that lie to press bullshit harassment charges on me. This is how you treat your sister that you “love” and your “dear” friend and “uncle” John to your children, a “member of your family.” Remember, HIS electricity was turned off too, and the years we went without a car and could not buy another because I was paying off a debt that I shouldn’t have had to, I was out in the cold waiting for buses too. But you don’t care about that do you? You only care about JONI’S discomfort and JONI’S happiness and to hell with everyone else!
And then you start the bullshit again last month by lovingly informing me that my fiance got my next door neighbor pregnant and they had a baby girl in June 1994. Well, the only two newborns from that house in the past ten years were BOYS. The first, D.J.,born in 1992, looks exactly like his Dad, Danny. The second, Jesse, was born in 1995. I was working the night he was born, and I held him at 5:00 in the morning, just hours after his birth. Charlene and I were oohing and aahing over his little pee-pee. I guarantee, Jesse was a BOY not a girl. Did you really think that John would remain your friend after you told such a lie about him? Open mouth and insert foot, Joni.
I was recently informed that some time ago, you tried to engage a “hitman” to kill me. What a sweet loving sister you are! This is how you show that you love me? In the letters you sent me in the beginning of March you say that you love me, yet you threaten my life? Could this possibly be the reason why I don’t like you? Go ahead, whine some more that me and my sisters don’t like you. To quote you from your letter dated March 1999, “For some reason you don’t like me.” Yeah, I really like people who threaten my life. I’m such a masochist, what can I say? I like people who steal close to $900.00 from me and tell lies about me. NOT!
I have already informed the District Attorney about the threat you made against my life. They can’t do anything at the present time, because it is only hearsay. But they are well aware of your threat, your harassing letters to me and other people, your attitude to various police agencies, and your false claims of having an arrest warrant for our cousin, (????), lies about me being convicted of harassment, of me being placed on probation, and you having an Order of Protection against me. I was NOT convicted or placed on probation. If you’re so smart, provide me with the name of my “probation officer.” You can’t come up with a name because I was never placed on probation. The judge merely told me to leave you alone for six months as a condition of dismissal. I left you alone, and the case against me was summarily dis- missed. The judge did give you an Order of Protection and the district attorney’s office did not like it one bit that YOU called MY house, two months after the judge told me to leave you alone. As usual, Joan does what SHE wants to do. You get the judge to tell me to leave YOU alone, but then you think that you can turn around and call and bother ME.
And since you don’t have an Order of Protection against me, I can drive down any street I want. Who died and left you boss, telling me I can’t drive on certain streets. I don’t know how you or your son “saw” me driving past your house since I did not have a car. I do now, and I’ll drive where I damn well please. Unless you bought the car or pay for the insurance and maintainence, you have no say on where I drive my car.
Oh, by the way, I was investigated by the district attorneys last month in conjunction to my complaint against you. I found out about it from someone I’m close to. I wel- come investigations, because I don’t break the law or make an idiot of myself like you do. I have nothing to hide. If I were you, I’d pray that nothing suspicious ever happens to me or John, because you will be the first person the district attorney will question. In closing let me thank you for providing me with an ad- dress last month that proved very rewarding to me. The gods above are indeed looking out for me. A couple of years after you and Colby made off with the $900, I was still fussing. John’s cousin Chuckie told me “Let it go. You’ll get the money back another way.” And I did. I hit the lottery twice, once with the three digit, and once with the four digit daily numbers for a total of $900.00. I also got a couple of hun- dred dollars from the scratch-off tickets. (I still have the payout receipts). And now, nine years later, I have been rewarded again with two things that I have been wanting a long time. My thanks to you because without the letters you sent me in March, they would not have come to be. YOU pro-vided the means by which I profited.
Goodbye, from your sister who truly does love and miss you, but realizes that your moral values are so different from mine, that we can never have a relationship again. Ruth
ps. I have the guts to put my name on a letter that I write. If you don’t have the courage and honor to sign your name and stand by what you say, then don’t bother saying it. But then again, since it was all a bunch of lies, it’s no wonder you were ashamed to put your name to it. You have proven again and again that you are nothing but a thief and a liar. As to the old saying “How do you sleep at night?” Well, maybe all the “anxiety attacks” that cause you to wake up at night screaming is really your conscience bothering you. I, on theother hand sleep very soundly. And very soundly indeed.
pps. When a “woman professional” (since when, you don’t even have a job, let alone a profession), writes a letter of complaint to a another woman professional, she doesn’t call her a bitch and tell her that she (the recipient of the complaint) almost got slapped in the face. That simply is just not done. It is most unseemly. Oh, now I get your profession! Professional student and welfare slob. You’ve only been going to school for the last twenty years. Your other job must be professional troublemaker and liar.
Now act like the spoiled little brat that you are and call up Daddy and whine: “Daaaddy, Ruth wrote me a leeetter, Daaaddy.” “I”m gonna tell Daddy on you Ruth, NYAH, NYAH” To quote you: “ACT YOUR AGE!”
Go ahead, whine some more at me “you don’t like me.”
NOTE from Gert…
see my post about letter exchange I had with Joan
Joan Wheeler loves to evade reality – now she suffers the consequences of that evasion. September 16, 2013Posted by Ruth in Black and White Evidence of Joan Wheeler's Lies: Letters, Court Documents, Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
this was posted on facebook today:
“We can evade reality, but we cannot evade the consequences of evading reality.” – Ayn Rand
oh so true. Since the beginning of this blog, I have scanned and posted actual documents that support the FACT that I am telling the truth. That is the REALITY of the situation.
Those documents include photographs, envelopes from the mail – letters that Joan Wheeler had sent to me – some handwritten, some typed. Other documents include actual city of Buffalo court documents.
For example, in 1993, we were in court and the judge handed down his sentence – I was given a six month restraining order to stay away from Joan. The dates of that order were from August 9, 1993 to February 9, 1994. The order was also ACD – Adjournment on Consideration of Dismissal. This means that in those six months, if I kept to that court order, the entire matter would be dismissed. I did keep to the court’s order and it was dismissed – leaving me with NO record of any sort.
Joan subsequently wrote a letter to the Child Abuse department in Albany NY on December 31, 1994 and told them that in that court case of summer 1993, I had been sentenced to six months PROBATION and that I had a criminal record. That is a lie. THAT IS REALITY. I have scanned that letter and posted it to this blog.
In Joan’s libelous book Forbidden Family, Joan reports that the order of protection was for one year. That is a lie and not reality.
Joan also reports in her book that she had obtained “multiple orders of protection” against me. That is a lie and is not reality.
In 1999, I filed charges of harassment against Joan and THE COURT COMPUTER printed out the previous court proceedings between Joan and myself. It showed 1. the 1993 case wherein I was given the six month order of protection. It correctly showed that it was ACD. 2. the case of 1995 where I filed harassment charges on Joan and the judge dismissed it.
It did NOT show a 1993 order of protection for one year, nor a 1994 order of protection for one year, or ANY OTHER ORDER OF PROTECTION.
In REALITY – there was one, AND ONLY ONE order of protection that Joan had gotten against me. ONE does not constitute MULTIPLE.
The court computer also showed NO EVIDENCE THAT I EVER HAD A CRIMINAL RECORD. So, when Joan says in her book, in person, and on the internet that I have been arrested and have a criminal record – SHE IS LYING.
For any person to deny the FACTS from actual court documents tells me that they are delusional and are trying to evade reality. To which I say, “well, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.” And that horse will now suffer the consequences of not hydrating themselves.
For Joan and any of her delusional buddies to deny the FACT that she has lied all over the place shows me that she and they are trying to evade reality. And they shall and are, experiencing the consequences of evading reality. Which is – loss of credibility. People now know that Joan is, and always was a liar.
Not only did Joan Wheeler change the truth to match her story in her book, she changed the FACTS. And that just is unacceptable.
Especially when the facts she changes is about other people and harmful to their good reputation.
One of her “friends” said once that she has the right to tell her story the way she wants. No, she does not. If she’s telling a story about herself and wants to change the truth and facts about herself – that’s her business. But when she changes the truth and facts about another person – that is NOT right and is unacceptable.
That’s what this blog is all about – taking a lie about myself or my family that Joan had put in her book and on the internet and putting forth the truth. And backing up what I say with irrefutable TRUTH and FACTS – with actual court documents that prove that Joan Wheeler is a liar.
If you refuse to examine the evidence and think critically, you have no right to voice your uniformed opinion. Because you DON’T have a right to your opinion, you have the right to an INFORMED opinion. Because if you open your mouth without knowing all the FACTS – you have shown everyone that you are incapable of thinking critically and with knowledge. And you have made yourself out to be a fool.
I have provided evidence on this blog. If you refuse to go see it and then compare what actual court documents against the lies Joan Wheeler says – then you really are a fool. And I have no use for you.
When Joan decided to write a NON-FICTIONAL book AND put her full name and BIRTH NAME on the cover she instantly…CAUSED the problem. She labeled the book as a TRUE story, but placed OUR ENTIRE FAMILY’S NAME clearly on the cover. So any changes of names of people within the book was meaningless…she had ALREADY named the entire family on the front COVER and placed OUR PICTURES on the back cover. Furthermore, not only DID SHE LIE, she also FABRICATED, WHOLE CLOTH, events, actions and words, about OTHER PEOPLE, than her self, and THAT is the problem with Joan’s libelous book…and with Joan herself. She DOES NOT have any right to slander, libel, tell fictional stories of other people and label it as HER TRUTH.
UPDATE, Sept 2016, as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler says about me and family. After the first book was pulled from publication by the publisher, May 2011, she has ‘self-published’ another ‘revised’ version. In this ‘version’ called ‘duped by adoption’ she has increased her exploitation by including PICTURES and REAL NAMES and much more personal information violating again the families. Joan has no decency NOR shame. There is NOTHING in this book for adoption reform. She is totally against adoption and her two families. To learn more see…
Legal Notice to Joan Wheeler, (Forbidden Family) Brian Maloney and Russell Thomas, April 18, 2013 April 18, 2013Posted by Ruth in a. What is demanded from Joan Wheeler - the purpose of this blog., Announcements and updates, Black and White Evidence of Joan Wheeler's Lies: Letters, Court Documents, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family.
In the matter of the Order of Protection that was granted to me by the court- Joan Wheeler has been ordered to:
Refrain from communication of any other contact by mail, telephone, e-mail, voice-mail or any other electronic or any other means with Ruth Sippel Pace and respondant (Joan Wheeler) shall not contact petitioner’s employer.
Refrain from assault, stalking, harassment, aggravated harassment, menacing, reckless endangerment, strangulation, criminal obsgtruction of breathing or circulation, disorderly conduct, criminal mishief, sexual abuse, sexual misconduct, forcible touching, intimidation, threats or any criminal offense against Ruth Sippel Pace.
This is quoted from the actual correspondence that I received dated March 19, 2013 and again dated April 17, 2013. Both orders of protection are backdated to include the original temporary order of protection that was issued on January 24, 2013 which included the phrase “through third party.”
This means that Joan canNOT use a third party to intimidate me, harass me, communicate with me AT ALL. This includes her little Champ Brian Maloney and Russell Thomas
I suggest Brain and Russ take down their lying bullying and intimidating blogs against me. And refrain from slandering and harassing me further – because that is a direct violation of this order of protection – which could result in Joan Wheeler being placed under immediate arrest and serving up to seven years in jail. – information taken directly from the order of protection.
These two bullies will have their names made known to the judge as Joan Wheeler’s henchmen in her harassment of me, as they are working as HER mouthpiece.
Ruth B. Pace – April 18, 2013, 10:30am
addendum – April 20, 2013, 2:29pm:
When I say that these two men are Joan’s “mouthpieces” I mean just that. Last summer, Brian Maloney – whom I have never met – gets on the internet and starts throwing in my face some old “gossip” about an Arab lady whose name starts with an S. – Back in the late 1970’s this girl (and she was 17 when I met her) and I did not get along and we did have several fights. By 1984, it was all patched up and she showed me much grace and love in 1985 after I miscarried my son, and to this day, I still have the get well card she sent me. And in July 2009, Shadya and I had a private dialogue on facebook. As I said, I have never met Brian T. Maloney of Williamsville NY – yet he is throwing in my face 33 YEAR OLD GOSSIP! Now WHERE did he hear this old untruthful gossip? FROM JOAN WHEELER!
When Brian Maloney, or any other third party, especially a third party WHO HAS NEVER MET ME, is taking about MY life, things they were told by Joan Wheeler – they are acting as a mouthpiece of Joan Wheeler. Therefore, if this continues, Joan Wheeler shall be considered as contacting me – which is against the order of protection. And I shall alert the authorities that the order of protection is being violated.
I have already posted on this blog that greeting card from Shadya – and here is the beginning of my conversation with her on fb on July 9, 2009 – I have whited out her last name and have not included PRIVATE things we spoke of. This should put to rest any LYING gossip about Shadya and me. People really need to shut their mouths about things they know NOTHING about.
comments to this blog post:
and that THIRD PARTY means all other angry militant adoptees…such as those that harassed you and me on Huffington Post…namely those from BASTARD NATION which is a militant angry adoptee organization
angry adoptees – stay OUT of my life and my family’s business. same thing to Brian T. Maloney of Williamsville New York and Russell Thomas of Wilson New York. I don’t know you two men. You are nothing to me. Stay out of MY business and MY family’s business. Your involvement with Joan Wheeler gives you NO right to stick your nose into MY life. Joan Wheeler is not a legal member of my family. She has broken the law in the past and is currently doing it again.
They must have shitty law enforcement agents in California, because one of Joan Wheeler’s adoptee supporters is one and can’t admit to Joan’s illegal harassments January 31, 2013Posted by Ruth in Black and White Evidence of Joan Wheeler's Lies: Letters, Court Documents, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family.
I said it before – in regards to when I point out a LIE that Joan has said in the book or the internet and I back up what I say with an actual city court document (as opposed to Joan who has offered absolutely NO proof of ANYthing she has said about me: those who continue to say Joan Wheeler is the best thing since sliced bread and her birth sisters are sick in the head – THEY are as cracked in the head as Joan is. To be in law enforcement, and read that Joan Wheelerr VIOLATED THE LAW by calling someone’ job to lob false accusations of computer fraud, (November 2012) read that Joan Wheeler PUBLICLY ADMIT on the internet (Huffington Post, January 22, 2013) that it was indeed she who contacted my employer, and don’t recognize that deed as AGGRAVED HARASSMENT 2 – PHONE/TELEGRAPH/WRITTEN COMMUNICATION TO ALARM – well, I think that person is a piss-poor law enforcement agent.
AND that law enforcement agent should know that ALL evidence should be looked at – I wonder if she EVER took the time to EXAMINE the court documents that I have posted over and over on this blog – then compare it to what Joan has said.
Joan says in a letter she wrote to Albany NY Child Protective Services that I was placed on six month probation in 1993. ON the internet and the book she’s saying that I was placed on a one year order of protection. When in reality it was a six month order of protection ACD –
If those are the kinds of law enforcement agents they have in California – STUPID – then I will keep my little behind right here in New York State. – because that particular person IS MOST DEFINITELY AS CRACKED IN THE HEAD AS JOAN WHEELER!
Brian T Maloney and Joan Wheeler now drag an innocent person – my niece into his bullshit drama January 25, 2013Posted by Ruth in Black and White Evidence of Joan Wheeler's Lies: Letters, Court Documents, Contradictions of Joan Wheeler, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Uncategorized.
Apparently somebody recently left an anonymous comment on Brian’s blog. They said that what Joan’s sister and brother are saying on this blog are lies.
First – there is NO brother here. Never was. My brother died in 2003. This blog was started in 2009. My step-brother is not involved in this, neither is my younger half-brother. go thru any post on this blog and do you see them writing anything? NO!
The comment also says that Joan’s daughter is a “hand-full”
This “anonymous” comment is clearly a set-up –
I KNOW who wrote that comment – JOAN WHEELER HERSELF! – Think I am crazy? She USED her children before! In 1993, I recieved a letter. The envelope was in Joan’s handwriting and addressed to me. Inside was a letter to my husband John. Supposedly written by Joan’s then-10 year old son. The letter was NOT written by her son, but by JOAN HERSELF – simply to piss me off. Why put MY name on the envelope if the letter was to go to JOHN. Joan sent that letter baiting me to call her on the phone and when I did she said “just a minute.” click. I call back, same thing. I call again, same thing. She then reported me to the police for prank calls and took me to court where she got a SIX MONTH ORDER OF PROTECTION AGAINS ME. So to bait me – SHE USED HER OWN SON!
I blogged about it in this post: Did Joan’s 10 year old son write that letter I got in June 1993? Or did Joan herself?December 12, 2009
And here is the graphic..
Joan’s son always referred to John as UNCLE John – but the word Uncle is not here. Compare Joan’s writing that is on the bottom to what is supposedly my nephew’s writing. – too many similarities to be pawned off as “familial handwriting similarity.” The J in the word John is written AS Joan makes her J’s – then crossed out and another style J is substituted. Come on.
In 1995 I TOOK JOAN TO COURT FOR HARASMENT – on our first visit there, Judge Margaret Anderson told everyone NOT TO BRING CHILDREN TO THE COURT. The second time we were there – Joan did bring her kids. They stayed outside the courtroom with Joan’s friend Bonnie Warren. They NEVER ENTERED THE COURT.
The case that I brought about in 1995 was because of Joan’s letter writing to my job, the mayor of Buffalo and others. and a false child abuse call that I supposedly made – but it was JOAN HERSELF! She called the child abuse hotline and said she was Ruth Sippel (me) and that Joan and my fiance John were having sex in front of her children. yeah right, I’m going to child abuse – give out MY name and accuse my own fiance. This was simply a set up to get John to leave me, because Joan then wrote to John at his mother’s house asking him when he was leaving me. That letter is right here.
SO SHE USED HER OWN CHILDREN TO BREAK ME AND JOHN UP.
Joan also wrote to the Child Abuse Center in Albany NY and said that she knows it was me because I have had in the past harassed her (the phone calls from which she got the 6 month order of protection) and she told the people in Albany that I HAD BEEN PLACED ON PROBATION! – She USED her children to make that false child abuse call to break me and John up and defame my character in Albany NY.
IN HER LYING BOOK – Joan says the child abuse call took place in 1993. It did not. It took place in Dece. 1994 and I filed charges on her in February 1995. We appear for one 15 minute session in front of the judge. A date is set for the actual trial. We come back in April 1995. We appear in front of the judge for another 15 minutes and the case is adjourned for another date in May 1995. Then Judge Margaret Anderson dismisses my charge saying “sisters should get along.”
But in the book, Joan says that SHE took ME to court in the summer of 1994 and that it was three month court battle! And her kids were on the stand! THEY WERE NEVER ON THE STAND! NEVER IN THE COURTROOM FOR A FICTICIOUS COURT CASE IN 1994. WHAT KIND OF MOTHER USES HER OWN LITTLE KIDS LIKE THIS?
The charges were dismissed.
Our court cases in fact:
1. June 1993 – Joan takes me court for annoyance phone calls. – result: Joan is granted a SIX-MONTH ORDER OF PROTECTION AGAINST ME (NOT PROBATION) from Judge Robert Russell.
2. February 1995 – I take Joan to court for harassment – Judge Maragret Anderson dismisses the charge.
3. Februrary 1999 – I take Joan to court for harassment – Family Court Margaret Szcur grants me a one year order of protection against Joan.
There were no other court cases.
Given Joan’s history of USING her own children as pawns against me – tell me that Joan didn’t write that comment.
And the writer is objecting to my pictures of us ripping up that hateful filthy book? A book that contains hate towards her own children? And calls those pictures disgusting?
No, by gods the disgusting person is JOAN and the other disgusting person is BRIAN for USING my niece – Joan’s daughter to further his sick involvement with Joan.
I furthermore, will NOT read anymore bullshit from Brian – nor respond to him. He and Joan are clearly writing this shit to piss me off and deter me from my present mission. BUT IT AIN’T GONNA HAPPEN – BECAUSE I ALREADY DID WHAT JOAN DOESN’T WANT ME TO DO AND FEARS THAT I WILL.
Your oh-so-clever idea to pull my attention and my focus didn’t work Brian. I told you yesterday you were dismissed. I wrote this post to not showcase YOU specifically, but to showcase JOAN’S ABUSE of her own children.
So I must thank you Brian for giving me this opportunity to do so. You are such a child. You are not equipped for this game of chess. You checkmated yourself. BY THINKING YOU WILL USE MY NIECE AS A PAWN – YOU HAVE SHOWN THE WORLD WHAT YOU ARE – AN ABUSER. GOODBYE.
oh – in 1999 Joan, in another attempt to break me and John up – sends me a letter saying that John got the next door neighbor pregnant – and the house was vacant! roflmao! what a f’ing dipshit!
and by the way – John and I are STILL together – we’ve been best friends since 1978. We became romantically involved in 1986 after we both became available. We moved in together in 1987. We bought our house in 1996. We became married in 2002. And we are STILL together. He is my rock – and I am his. – yes, we had some rough spots, but our love overcame that. Joan is just jealous because I have a happy life – and she is simply miserable. oh well.
Joan opens her diarrhea mouth and the shit pours out and now she will pay for this latest smearing of my name at my job January 24, 2013Posted by Ruth in Black and White Evidence of Joan Wheeler's Lies: Letters, Court Documents, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements, Uncategorized.
Good morning readers. It is 1:20am and I am at home in my office. I am a night person and even on my nights off from work, I stay up all night. So just because you see me posting somewhere on the internet in the wee hours of the morning, don’t just automatically ASSUME that I am at my job using their computers. I do have nights off you know. Try dealing with the TRUTH Joan Wheeler, instead of stupid ASSUMPTIONS! – because you just made an ASS out of yourself – as usual with your ASSumptions. And any interested parties who work in law enforcement will recognize this whole thing as “Agrravated harassment 2 – phone/telegraph/written communciation to alarm” and Joan better get an attorney. You mess with someone’s job – that is stalking and harassment. Joan has been messing with my job since 1987. In 1995, she sent a letter to the Director of Patient Accounts and falsely accused me back then of computer fraud. I was investigated and found innocent. STOP ACCUSING ME OF THINGS I’M NOT DOING!
I posted on a story at Huffington Post because Joan Wheeler was again posting misrepresentations about me, Gert and our family. Gert spoke up and her and Joan had an exchange that was eventually removed by Huffington. In one of Joan comments she said that we were “bothering” her and said for us to leave her alone.
Joan had referenced to when she was on Twitter a few weeks ago and received a message from one of her followers, whose account had been hacked. Instead of contacting the person and getting to the TRUTH of the matter, Joan immediately tried, convicted and condemned ME as the hacker. And I didn’t even know the woman! Never heard of her! When I saw that I was being accused, I contacted the woman via Twitter. I then saw some of her tweets, and saw she was a nice person and followed her on Twitter. She apparently had no objection to this. Two weeks later, Joan received another message (hacked) and because I was now following the lady, I also received the same hacked message – a phishing scam. I immediately contacted the woman and she emailed me back and said she would take care of the problem. And Joan, again, instead of getting to the TRUTH of what happened, goes and accuses me of doing things I haven’t done.
To see the exchange, you must find this comment by manczka1 that starts out with: 11:09 PM on 01/12/2013 I’m an adoptive parent. I appreciate your article and thank you for speaking out about your experience.
Scroll down past two more comments and click on “Click Here To See them All”
Scroll down and you will see a conversation by a Ninalyn, who is describing ABUSE by angry adoptees. And because I am experiencing ABUSE from an adoptee, I posted my stuff right there. Scroll down after Ninalyn for a bit and you will find everything right there.
So here is my first comment on Huff:
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace 02:19 AM on 01/15/2013 (YES PEOPLE – IT WAS AT 2AM – HOWEVER I WAS NOT AT WORK THAT NIGHT. DO YOU WANT ME TO POST MY WORK SCHEDULE? THAT CAN BE EASILY DONE! there are spelling mistakes and typos because I was pissed that I was being accused of doing things that I haven’t done – yet again by delusional LIAR Joan Wheeler. —-
yes, I do wish people would leave me alone as Forbidden Family suggests – but having false accussations lobbed at my employer saying that I am commiting computer fraud is hardly leaving me alone. She did it in 1995, and again in Nov. 2012. and I’m still working there.
Also a twitter account was hacked and sent spam to Forbidden Family – she right away accused me. I wrote to the account holder and told her, no, I did not do that. (two weeks ago) Another direct message spam, phising for my password was sent to me from the lady’s account. And to Forbidden Family. right away, For. Fam accused me publicly of hacking into twitter accounts. this is libel and slander.
In a private email exchange via her gmail account, I communicated with the account holder who assured me that she was taking care of the problem. don’t just blanketly assume and accuse people of doing things because you hate them over YOUR adoption. Forbidden family needs to leave me alone. NO one is hunting her – her book Forbidden family was pulled from publication because of libel. I sent actual court documents to the publisher that proved that. My blog is about taking FF’s lies and setting them straight. She is the one who is hunting me by calling my job. – disgraceful
To which Joan replied and ADMITTED TO CONTACTING MY EMPLOYER ACCUSING ME OF THINGS I HAVE NOT DONE.
forbiddenfamily02:25 PM on 01/22/2013I am trying to defend myself from my natural blood kin sisters who do not abide by what we all agreed upon over thrity years ago: stay out of my life. I do not want you in mine and I am not in yours. You have used your employers computers to read my blog (showed up on my website tracker) and you have called from your employer for me to make appointments at your place of employment. I notified your employer that you are continuing harassing me via your workplace. Stay out of my life. I am not in yours.
And then Joan left this comment:
forbiddenfamily 02:43 PM on 01/22/2013 You and our other sister signed up on Twitter for the sole purpose of stalking me and then you stalked and are stalking other adoptees. Other adoptees are contacting me about your behavior being threating to them and defaming me. Stay away from me!
First – WHO are these “other adoptees” complaining about me? Give us the link to see these “complaints.” Give me their names. Tell them to be man or woman enough to come forward. I don’t believe that ANY complaints were made. I have heard NOTHING regarding MY twitter account or Huffington account about complaints being made about me. Joan is not only a LIAR but a piss-poor one at that. See readers – Joan makes all these wild accusations and stories BUT NEVER PROVIDES THE PROOF! Whereas, I have not only copied and pasted the exact exchange but have provided the internet link and instructions on where you can see with your own eyes the TRUTHFUL PROOF OF WHAT I SAY. I don’t deal with lies, assumptions and false accusations: I DEAL IN THE TRUTH. AND ISN’T THAT WHAT ADOPTEES WANT? Well then Joan, you better start telling the truth.
I left the following comments after Joan’s ridiculous accusations and public admission to breaking the law. , I will post the one where I address the accusation of my reason for my twitter account – and how does she “know” the sole reason for me opening an account? Is she inside my head?
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace 08:54 PM on 01/22/2013 as far as my twitter account, sorry, I was not thinking of you. I was invited to open it and follow one of my fb buddies, a cast member of the tv show Ghost Hunters International. what are u, the internet police? I have the right to open any account on any social media – if you happen to be at the same site, by all means BLOCK me. You are not my mother, you are not my boss. I will not obey you.
Now, here are the rest of my comments and by god – those of you who read this exchange and still think that Joan is the innocent victim here – you are as cracked in head as she is.
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace 08:24 PM on 01/22/2013 (again, I was at home, NOT working on Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday nights Jan. 22, 23 and 24). JOAN – you just admitted on public internet to breaking the law by contacting my employer with false accusations. I do not access YOUR website via my employee’s computer. I am not in the building in the daytime. As a nurse’s aide, I DO NOT HAVE THE ABILITY TO MAKE APPOINTMENTS FOR YOU. I have made a screenshot of this and a printout will be given to my employer and my lawyer.
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace 08:26 PM on 01/22/2013 JOAN – Forbidden Family – you do realize that as my employer is the largest private sector employer in Erie County with over 10,000 employees – any one of them could be looking at your blog. IT IS NOT ME – AND YOU ARE NOW GUILTY OF FALSE ACCUSATION – HARASSMENT – YOU ADMIT TO CALLING MY JOB FALSELY -see you in court baby
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace 12:04 AM on 01/23/2013 I work the overnight shift 7pm to 7am. I cannot and have not called and made appointments for Joan. I am a Patient Care Assistant (sort of a super-nurse’s aide) – and work on a nursing unit – by the time I come into work, at 7pm, departments that Joan would have an appointment with are closed. The doors are locked, and I cannot access them.
My name badge is computerized with a magnetic strip giving me access to my workplace. And some doors are not accessible to me. Also, computer data would tell when I enter the building. I generally am there a bit early – usually 6:10pm so I can relax with a cup of tea or coffee. And this is still AFTER outpatient or other departments are closed.
Also – my employer can trace every keystroke I do – face it Joan – you’re a liar and you will pay for this slanderous and libelous accusation and letter you wrote to my job.
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace 4:58 PM on 1/23/2013 As far back as 1987 Joan Wheeler/Forbidden Family has been calling my job with nonsense and harassment and trying to ruin my reputation at my job. https://ruthsippelpace.wordpress.com/2009/12/12/ruining-someones-personal-and-professional-reputation/
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace 6:21 PM on 1/23/2013 On January 4, 2013 I had a meeting at my job where I was told of a letter that was sent to them just after Thanksgiving stating that I was committing computer fraud.
IST dept. can trace and track EVERY keystroke that I do. I was not told about the letter until after the holidays. because they wanted me to enjoy them. At the meeting, I was told that I had been investigated and found innocent.
AFTER my employer exonerated me, Joan Wheeler aka Forbidden Family comes here and publicly admits to being the one who sent that letter and then makes another unwarrented false accusation about me making appointments for her.
I am not harassing her via my workplace – she has no proof – just her crazy mind. The very fact that she has been contacting my job even after she was told to stop – back in 1995 shows everyone just who the harasser is.
comments are closed to this post and my last post and I have my reasons for that.
Tags: COWARD COWARD COWARD, LIAR LIAR LIAR
of course she’s a coward – and her alter-ego Pilgrim/Chimp/Brian is one too.
answer MY charges Joan – WHY did you lie in your book about the duration of the order of protection you got against me in 1993 – in your book you say it was for one year – but the actual court document says it was for six months. And why did you say you were arrested? When you were merely SUMMONED into court. And why did you say in your book that I was arrested and placed on probation? When all I got was a six month order of protection?
ANSWER THIS! And answer WHY were you calling my job for six months trying to get me fired? Why were YOU writing letters to my fiance and sending them to his mother’s house? Why were YOU calling his mom on the phone to the point that my brother-in-law grabbed the phone and swore at you and threatened to call the police on you. ANSWER THIS!
ANSWER JOAN – COWARD! COME ON – OUT WITH IT! AND YOUR LATEST LIE ABOUT ME LYING TO ABDO!!! What kind of slime woman are you? TELL US NOW why you wrote that letter to me in 1999 telling me that John got the next door neighbor pregnant and they had a baby girl in 1994.
Yes – 1994 – the year when the order of protection ended – the year you started accusing me of computer hacking at my job – the year you started calling my job trying to get me fired.
IF – and that’s a big IF Pilgrim/Chimp/Brian really IS not you – WHY DON’T YOU TELL HIM THE DAM TRUTH! AND THEN COME CLEAN AND TELL THE WHOLE WORLD THE TRUTH!
and the truth is: YOU LIED IN YOUR BOOK, YOU LIE ABOUT ME ON THE INTERNET, AND YOU LIED AGAIN LAST WEEK. Cowardly liar.
AND ASSHOLE – I SCANNED AND POSTED THE ACTUAL COURT DOCUMENTS RIGHT HERE ON THIS BLOG – THAT PROVE YOU ARE A LIAR. SO TAKE PILGRIM/CHIMP/BRIAN, HOLD HIS HAND AND BOTH YOU SHOVE IT.
Joan, my dear, your lies are going to make you food for the immortals.