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Some adoptees just can’t GET IT that others are NOT interested in their politics and don’t know when to shut the f… up! January 19, 2017

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follow up on Ruth’s recent post, links are within the posts…

Ruth here: my comment here, and on Gert’s original post –

interesting – and thank you Gert for posting the entire exchange, as it had happened, and deleted by Megan while I was offline. 

Megan contacted ME on July 18, 2016 AFTER she had a fight with Joan Wheeler/Doris Sippel – our adopted-out, then reunited with, younger sister.

She said she had been reading my blog and was appalled at Joan’s behaviors towards me.

Way back when she first contacted me – after reading my blog, she said “I urge you when reading this line from your blog “Gert and I don’t really care about any adoption issues” to please have a change of heart. “ 

to which I replied:

“Megan, when I said (on my blog) that we don’t care about adoption issues, that meant that it isn’t on the top of our cause list. – we are aware of the issues and are for reform of a more truthful birth certificate and of course medical information, genetic background info.” 

So yeah, Gert is right – these adoptees just can’t get it that others are NOT interested in their politics and don’t know when to shut the f…. up! 

Megan Mary’s passion, as is Joan’s passion is their adoption issues. Fine. Good for them.

THEIR ISSUES AND PASSIONS ARE NOT MINE.

I told little Megan that right from the get go.

She must be learning impaired that she didn’t get that. 

She got her panties in a bunch when Gert told her over and over to shut up and leave her alone. 

She told me that she thinks Joan is a wack-a-doo. Well I think that too. I also believe that Megan Mary is also a wack-a-do.

For several months, Megan Mary and I were connected on facebook. We had a few interesting conversations on facebook, both private and public.

Megan doesn’t know me. I don’t know her. All we know about each other is what’s on facebook. And I am very clear on facebook what I will not tolerate. And that is DISRESPECTING ME AND MY VIEWPOINTS.

And since I told Megan right from the get go, that I am NOT interested in adoption issues, and she didn’t get it – or rather REFUSED to get it – then further dug herself into a hole by going after one of my family members who has the same viewpoint as I do – well I view her as a wack-a-do.

Then to further cement her reputation as a wack-a-do, Megan turns coward – deletes things, unfriends and blocks ME, who had nothing to do with the exchange between her and Gert (I was snoozing on the couch with the cat).

Megan, are you 31 or are you 10 years old? Grow up, grow a spine.

Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor

Insult me, tell me I’m wrong, browbeat me, and then when I tell you to take a hike, get all pissy about it and tell me I owe you an apology! When I state my position is contrary to yours, accept that and shut up! Don’t make me BE wrong because I disagree with you. Sounds just like how Joan behaves; narcissistic behavior and all!

So when they persist in ramming their agenda down the throat of someone who has said repeatedly to STOP, and they continue ramming…they are doing just what they accuse others of doing … NOT LISTENING. Then they turn EVIL and MEAN and resort to NAME CALLING AND INSULTING. When they behave this way, they lose their credibility, they are NOT effective and they do great harm to their cause.

This happens with any and all browbeating techniques.

In this short pattern of dialog, I’m Person…

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gods, nutty people are everywhere. MM, former friend of Joan Wheeler/Doris Sippel has some growing up to do January 15, 2017

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 I wanted to blog about a couple things this weekend, but my focus was pulled by a really rude little child. Well, she’s 31 years old, but acts like she’s 6.

Okay, so last summer, I’m minding my own business on facebook and I get a notification of a message request – so I read it.  

MM July 18, 2016

“Ruth oh my goodness I just read your blog about your half sister. I am an adoptee myself and discovered I have 7 sisters. It pains me that my birthmother is demanding they don’t talk to me, but I think your situation is different. I broke up a friendship with Joan Wheeler nor Doris Sippel and then started one up again but after reading your blog I stumbled upon 5 minutes ago I am unfriending her here on FB and for good once more. I am guessing you really tried in the beginning to get to know her but her behaviour made you stay away. I too am against nearly all adoptions and I was curious as to why she had to be given away. Also, I also grew up rich but that doesn’t mean us adoptees don’t have anger or a lack of civil rights. Nevertheless some of the comments Doris/Joan have made are shocking and I feel it’s best if I avoid her.” 

She writes a couple of more messages. Now I actually don’t remember if I sent her a facebook friend request or did she send me one, (after we had a conversation on private message) but at any rate, we became facebook buddies. We had some very nice intelligent discussions both publically and privately on facebook. 

MM. says that she has read a lot of my blog. Somehow I don’t think she retains what she reads. Her first sentance in her first message to me she says Joan is my half-sister. No, she is my full bio sister. In subsequent messages between us, I told her exactly how and why Joan was adopted. I know what was said, because I never deleted ANY of the private messages between her and me. Anyways – fast forward to Saturday, January 14, 2017 when she asks me WHY my father relinguished Joan. — I told her all about that on July 18, 2016: “it was a child care issue. Joan was three months old when mom died. I was 3 – the others were 5,8, and 9. There simply was no one to take care of an infant. My grandparents were elderly, my grandfather had only one leg. they tried as best they could. Other aunts and uncles also tried to help out – but they also had kids of their own. My Uncle Richard actually had Joan from the time she was discharged from the hospital until after my mom died, but Aunt Ann was also pregnant and had 4 toddlers.

There just wasn’t anybody to take care of her. Meanwhile, my Aunt Catherine, who also had just had a baby, and little ones at home, had a childhood friend, Helen. Helen’s brother and his wife were looking to adopt. So Catherine and her brother Richard suggested adoption to my father.

 so my father talked it over with our parish priest. and it was decided that he relinquish her for adoption. By the way, this was done BEFORE my mother’s funeral, not AT her funeral, the way Joan likes to tell it.” — Well, okay I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt that she forgot that I told her this months ago. 

So on January 7, 2017 – I got a request from MM — Could I write something about adoptees and put it on her wall so that her bio-family can see it?

“If you need the background story – Bio mother going around asking everyone to “respect her and pretend I don’t exist”. Pretty shitty. So they feel that if they talk to me they’re being rude to her. I’m so sick of this bs.” 

Well, I agreed, and was thinking of what to write, Jan 7 and 8, I wasn’t feeling too good, and when I told her that I hadn’t written it, she says “Hey wait til March. I decided I’m not dealing with trying to kiss ass to them and have them in my life until March …. I mentally need the break. Until March I am focusing on ME and the relationships I already have with people … I mean if my bio family wants to be in my life before March AWESOME, I’d be super happy but I have done and tried all I can and I am taking a break for the next 2 months.” 

On January 11, my sister Gert posted links on my facebook about her latest blogposts about Joan/Doris and an enthusiastic discussion commenced about adoption, adoptees, and other things. A couple of my other facebook friends joined in.  

via private message MM asks me: “Are you trying to tell me I am NOT a member of my bio family? Are you trying to compare me to your wackadoo sister?” And I said no, I then wrote: “JOAN will never be part of her bio family BECAUSE OF HER OWN ACTIONS – she WAS part of our family, when we welcomed her back – in 1974. She was asked to leave because of what she did.If she had not done those anti-social things – she’d still be part of our family.Yes, our reactions, and particularly MY saying she is not my family is due to anger, yes. But even if she had never been adopted out – and had been raised with us – I would have disassocieated myself from her.”

MM says “100% agree with you”

I continued: “Even people who are legal members of a bio family are ‘disowned’ because they are abusive to other family members. My comment is from the perspective of what I have gone through — I recognize that not all families are like mine – and there are instances, like yours, where innocent people are NOT being recognized as family members. — these are the “on the other hand” points I want to make in my upcoming blog post.” — MM: “100% 100% agree. Whew ok just so long as you know I think Joan is an abusive wackadoo” 

So between what I had written to her right there, and a couple of more posts on my public timeline, I was getting the gist of what I wanted to compose for MM and make it into an actual blog post. 

On Saturday, January 14, another couple of enthusiastic discussions took place on my public facebook timeline. Commenters were me, MM, my sister Gert, and a couple of my other facebook friends. I know MM was in disagreement with a couple of things, but she was respectful – for the most part. She did say my father was wrong for relinguishing Joan up for adoption and did call him an “asshat.” – I let it go, because I knew that adoptees are very passionate and some are unforgiving when it comes to having been relinquished for adoption. I basically chalked it up to a bit of an over-spewing of the mouth. But still, I was a bit put-off by that. 

Anyway, I don’t remember what time it was – sometime in the late afternoon – I went offline and was lounging on the couch, even took a nap with the cat. And again, I don’t know what time it was – maybe 8 or 9pm, I come back to facebook to find – a private message from Gert wherein MM had jumped on her.

While I was snoozing – MM got her panties in a bunch when Gert told her of her viewpoints of adoption. MM proceeded to ‘lecture’ Gert, and Gert told her to stop.

Then MM apparently unfriended ME and blocked ME. I went and deleted every comment that MM had placed on my timeline. (when you block someone, their previous comments remain). But I wrote this: 

“from the “please grow up and leave me alone” department.

 Gert reports that she has been attacked by one of my facebook friends via fb pm. AND prior to that – was disrespected during a debate on my timeline. I generally treat my fb friends as adults, but sometimes I have to step in.

 Gert’s post does not seem to be showing up – it may be due to Gert’s privacy settings. However – I am posting here, the two comments that I made.

 comment 1

 that person seems to have issues. her facebook page has been taken temporarily taken down. probably cos she knows she went too far and wanted to run tail between her legs.

 I cannot block her because she temporaily took her page down. Once it’s up again, she will be blocked. I don’t know if she unfriended me or not – I can’t tell because as I said she’s taken her page down temporarily.

 She did this once before, claiming her account was hacked, however she left me a mysterious pm asking why I had marked her as spam. Which I hadn’t. I remembered her saying she had problems with her account being hacked, so I had assumed that’s what happened. But before I could answer her – her page was taken down.

 Then a couple of weeks later, she’s back up. I gave her the benefit of the doubt back then. This time, I see she plays games. Attacks, runs, shuts her page down so we can’t respond.

 2

 I did not see her ‘attacking’ us a couple of hours ago – it happened while I was offline. She needs to accept the fact, as do Joan and any other adoptee and everyone needs to accept that, that every other human being, has the right to their own opinion. Doesn’t matter how or why, that is their right.

 One may have a differing opinion, and I am willing to debate – respectfully – the issue. But when the debate turns into one person lecturing the other, and one person repeatedly says, “don’t lecture me.” – that person gets an automatic trip to the airlock.

 But this person is passive-aggressive – she attacks, then runs her little ass away before we can catch her and shove her into the airlock, and eject her, helmetless, and oxygen tank less into the deep reachers of outer space.

 Not a good way to behave like a grown up. She’s outta here! Her comments on my page have been deleted.  This is how I know she didn’t block me – her comments were still visible to me. (Ruth’s note: I was in error, there, some comments ARE still visible when they block you).

 And what is she going to do? Go run to Joan and report all she read what we wrote the past couple of days? Big Deal. Everything I’ve written has been on my blog for years.

 But since she herself got into a fight with Joan (I don’t know why, never asked, don’t care) – she will need to grovel back to her.

 OR – since she may use the ploy “hey, Joan, I got some gossip about Ruth” – Joan may take her back. — just the way Joan and my former cow-worker (not a typo) Laura Heath got her panties in a bunch when I told her not to lecture me, and she went and found Joan to gossip about me.

 Honestly, these (ahem) ‘ladies” are all over the age of 30 – yet act like 10 year olds.

 I don’t have time for little kiddies.  I put up with M because we did have some interesting debates – but when one starts acting like a fool – well – I don’t tolerate fools.”

” love Harlan’s famous line about the herd culling themselves: DIG OR SPLIT. – in the vernacular (mode of expression; i.e. slang) of the 60’s – DIG meant like (I lke the dress you’re wearing). SPLIT meant leave – (I gotta split, my bus is coming. see ya!)

So, DIG what’s on my page, and my and my sister’s viewpoint of adoption and how it relates to OUR OWN FAMILY – or take a hike.”

“you know, Gert and I do NOT talk about adoption and how it relates to other people’s PERSONAL FAMILY BUSINESS – we discuss ONLY our own family. Or adoption in general. We ain’t particularly interested in adoption. We’ve done our adoption research 40 years ago, we can see that our sister was deeply affected by her adoption.

Our issues with Joan is NOT about her adoption – they are all about JOAN’S ANTI-SOCIAL BEHAVIORS TOWARDS US.

I am willing to debate the possibility that adoption affected Joan adversely, however, I believe it is WHO adopted her and HOW she was treated growing up that makes her such a bitch. And I have always said – just because a person has been abused, it does not give them the right to turn around and abuse someone else.

Joan’s mission in life is to PUNISH the world for her adoption – and in particular to PUNISH her birthsisters because we were not adopted out and she was. Doesn’t matter that we were little kids ourselves and had nothing to do with it – she knows this – but she’s screwed in the head. And I don’t need other people coming here and passing judgment on me or my family. I WON’T TOLERATE IT.”

 So then today, Sunday, January 15, 2017, around 2:15pm I found her blog on wordpress and left her this comment:

“I want to say that you are acting like a little child. You didn’t like what my sister Gert had to say – fine. You can disagree with her all you want – you could have simply blocked her. WHY DID YOU UNFRIEND AND BLOCK ME? Now I honestly am not hurt that you did. I’m not about to wring my hands “somebody on social media unfriended me.” But what you did was very childish.

YOU were the one who contacted ME. YOU were the one who said they read my blog and understood my anger towards Joan.

I’ve been very truthful with you. I could tell that you and I disagreed on things about adoption. YOU could have adult enough to accept it – YOU do NOT have the right to be disrespectful to ANYONE. Be they a facebook friend of mine, or family member.

And while I have your attention – YOU do not have the right to call MY father an ‘asshat.’ YOU could have said, “I think you’re father was wrong.”

Who the hell are YOU to come to MY facebook page – and call MY father names? please do some growing up.

by the way – if you want something said to your birth family, have the guts to say it to them yourself. Why ask me, to get involved and write a comment so they will see it?

I don’t know them. I don’t even know you. You don’t know me. You don’t get to call ANY of my family members names. I accepted your friend request last year in complete and open honesty. Can you say the same?

Did you simply come to me because I am Joan’s sister and YOU had a fight with her and wanted to see if I would trash her and give you salicious info on her? Anything I ever said on my facebook timeline or in our private messages conversations has already been said on my public blog.Please M. – grow up and leave me alone.” 

WHEW!

So here I am, at 3:30pm, Sunday, January 15, putting this blog post together, and I go to my facebook for some referencing, and I find that MM has unblocked me. I’m not in the mood for playing games. So I went and blocked her.

MM – ya’ll wanna come to my blog and read, go right ahead – that’s what it’s here for. But I’m serious. I don’t put up with childish, foolish antics from grown women that should know better.

Comment 1 – gertmcqueen – January 15, 2017 

Thank you Ruth for posting this…my time is limited at this moment, but I shall revisit. I am appalled over this MM’s behavior, she has no respect for another’s views, she plays both ends at the same time, because she’s a sneak, like Joan, she obviously hasn’t grown mentally beyond age 12, has a short fuse, doesn’t like ANYONE adopting, AND then as the gall to attack MY positions, right after AGREEING with me! Would NOT stop when I said please stop, she kept it up and up, getting more insulting with every sentence…does the word crazy mean anything here? Yes it does

comment 2 – Ruth – January 15, 2017 

Because I used my private email address in filling out the comment form to leave a comment on MM’s blog – she got hold of my email address and sent me an email. I didn’t bother to read it.  I did instruct my email to treat any incoming email from her as spam and she is blocked.

 The subject line was “I’m sorry …” that’s all I read. –  IF she is sincere in being sorry, perhaps this will be a lesson for her – she had a problem with Gert, she punished ME. (not that I lost any sleep over it – lol).

 MM – and I know you will eventually read this blog post – you made a mistake. Humans make mistakes. If that was your apology, fine. I, however, am under no obligation to maintain any contact with you.  This is how life works.

 You don’t get to use me as a springboard for your anger at Joan/Doris for whatever fight you had.

 I’m a nice person – but when I get used – the results are not nice. This is all on YOUR head.

 And by the way – don’t even TRY to make me or Gert feel guilty for our stand on adoption. It’s been tried in the past – didn’t work then, won’t work now.

comment 3 – gertmcqueen – January 15, 2017 

right! MM may be truly sorry, but I WARNED her several times to STOP, she did not! I don’t suffer fools gladly, a person fu…s with me they are dead meat…I don’t take hostages and I don’t forgive…you mess with me and my CHILDREN how I birth them, adopt them, raise them you (that interfere) will pay the price. 

  Reply by Ruth – January 15, 2017 

well, she SAID she was ‘sorry’ – but do we even know if she REALLY is sorry?  I don’t care. SHE is the one who showed HER true colors – sucking up to me – then doing a 180.  what an ass.

comment 4. gertmcqueen – January 15, 2017

‘…never having to say you’re sorry…’ is a bullshit sentiment! I wasn’t born yesterday, oh excuse me…I was born YESTERDAY 70 years ago! I learned a lot over my life and I’m don’t wear my religion, my feelings, my anger, my anything on my sleeve…ONCE I’m betrayed that’s the END…sorry is an excuse, I don’t accept excuses. I’m interested in a human being that GROWS and LEARNS and ACCEPTS the rights of the OTHER, regardless. My beef with adoption is with Joan M Wheeler/Doris M Sippel and how she VIOLATED my children’s rights and my parental rights and I shall NOT accept anyone attempting to MAKE ME BE WRONG! period end of story…tell me you are sorry til the end of the world…a person that DOES NOT know me, my FATHER and my CHILDREN, DOES NOT have the right to insult my father, demean my children, and tell me I was and am WRONG.

 Take your freaking politics and shove it your ass! and why MM is at it perhaps she really ought to LEARN HOW TO PRAY THE ROSARY.

 Stop being a freaking hypocritic, live your life the way your lord Jesus wants you to and stop being an asshole 

Reply by Ruth – January 15, 2017

roflmao!

 I totally agree with you Gert – especially the part about the rosary. Such a devout little Catholic girl saying her rosary, yet calling a stranger’s father an asshat! AND trying to shove shit down two stranger’s throats. 

Just what the FUCK is wrong with these adoptees? They demand THEIR rights, but REFUSE to see that other people have THEIR rights as well. 

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again – AND IT’S ON THE PAGES OF THIS BLOG — Gert’s and my ‘problems’ with adoption has NOTHING to do with adoptee rights or adoptees problems.

 OUR BLOGS ARE ABOUT OUR PROBLEMS WITH JOAN MARY WHEELER AKA DORIS MICHOL SIPPEL. 

We don’t give a fuck about problems with adopted or biological families of other adoptees. 

The names of our blogs are

 Refuting a Book of Lies: Forbidden Family by Joan Wheeler

 Reclaiming the Sippel Family Honor

 duped by adoption & an woman’s Struggle for Identity, a book study 

There is not one word in the blogs’ titles that would suggest that we are even remotely interested in adoption, adoption reform, adoptee feelings, rights or us being mentors for adoptees. 

Don’t like the fact that we DON’T CARE about your problems? Then LEAVE.

 by the way, one of my facebook friends who was reading this development, suggested to me that perhaps MM was a spy for Joan/Doris. – I don’t know. Don’t care. My facebook is public. And as I said before, there was nothing I ever said to MM on facebook, both privately or publicly that hasn’t been said on this blog before.

 And if she was a spy — well, is there a bead on that rosary to ask forgiveness for that kind of bullshit MM?

comment 5. gertmcqueen – January 15, 2017

I use my prayer beads often, I offer to my gods and goddesses often, I’m not perfect, but I do not, I repeat I do not, tell others how to live their lives. I EXPOSE Joan/Doris’s disgusting deeds that she has done to me and my family. If YOU are NOT part of my family take a hike and get the hell out of my face

January 19, 2017 update…see this post for more info

https://gertmcqueen.wordpress.com/2017/01/19/some-adoptees-just-cant-get-it-that-others-are-not-interested-in-their-politics-and-dont-know-when-to-shut-the-f-up/

What REALLY is the motive of Joan M Wheeler taking her birth name of Doris M Sippel? Was it THOUGHT OUT or is there a MOTIVE? January 11, 2017

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much food for thought

duped by adoption & an woman's Struggle for Identity, a book study

If an adoptee changes their name, legally, back to the birth name, what is the motive/reason?

Is it really a good thing to ‘take back’ their birth name? What about others in that birth family whom NOW have to deal with this ‘new’ addition to their family tree/name? How do GENERATIONS, current and in the future, DEAL with this ‘interloper’ who ‘takes’ the family name, after adoption? How about general CONFUSIONS? Make no mistake confusions and more can happen when some takes and claims a NAME that others in a family KNOW nothing about!

She may be able to legally change her name back to her birth family name, but that does NOT give her any standing in the birth family. In fact it causes confusion and more, for generations to come. Doris M Sippel was born in 1956, adopted and became Joan M Wheeler. Regardless of the fact that…

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Joan Mary Wheeler aka Doris Michol Sippel has her very first book signing and blows it by screaming at another author there, then calls for other adoptees to harass the woman AND publishes the woman’s phone number on social media. January 3, 2017

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Read this blog post by Gert McQueen to read how Joan aka Doris started screaming at another author at a book signing event held at the Buffalo Historical Museum. And then goes after the author by telling other adoptees to harass her, and publishes the author’s phone number. what a bitch Joan/Doris is – but we all know that anyway. (by the way, the author’s [Mary Arno] contact information, including email and phone number ARE on her flyer/website. I chose NOT to publish the phone number here. Joan/Doris publicized the phone number, not to generate interest or possible sales for Mary Arno, but to have others stalk and harass her. And that’s WRONG!)

If this is HOW Doris M. Sippel/Joan M. Wheeler behaves, towards another author, at her FIRST BOOK SIGNING, than she ought to be banned from book signings!

Here is Joan/Doris’ own account on her facebook page about how proud she is to have been verbally abusive to another person AND calls for that person to be stalked and harassed by other adoptees. 

Doris Michol Sippel December 1 at 8:48pm · Buffalo 

ABUSIVE ADOPTER ALERT – author Mary Arno 

I was one of 65 local authors who presented their books for sale at the Buffalo (New York) History Museum on Sat Nov 26, 2016. This was my very first author event for my memoir, Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity. (Amazon) 

The woman to my right handed me her book mark. She is a well-known author by the name of Mary Arno. Here is here contact info from her book mark: 716- &&&-&&&&

 (You will need it to send her emails to inform her about the reality of adoption. She has no clue.) 

I gave her my flyer. She read it: “The death of my married mother when I was an infant led to my closed adoption. Eighteen years later, I was found by family I did not know I had.” Inside the flyer was a statement about sealed birth certificates and falsified birth certificates. 

Mary Arno turned to me and said, “you sound very angry!” 

I shot out at her, “I am now! Thank you for putting me on the defensive! I am the expert of my life!” 

She said, “You should be mad at your BIOLOGICAL mother for giving you away, not at your adoptive parents…” 

At hearing her refer to my MOTHER as my “BIOLOGICAL MOTHER”, I got even madder and began shouting at her. “My mother died!” 

But she didn’t even acknowledge my loss. “Then you should be mad at your father for giving you away, not at your adoptive parents!” 

“I never blamed my father for giving me away! He was in an impossible situation, a father of five children, his wife died of cancer, how I could blame him…” 

Mary Arno shot back at me, “Oh no, it is clearly his fault! He willing gave you away! You SHOULD blame him!” And in the next breath, she asked, “Your adoptive parents loved you, didn’t they?” 

I yelled, “Oh? My adoptive parents lied to me my entire life! Lies, lies, lies! And more lies! They knew I had sisters and a brother who lived 6 miles from me my entire childhood, yet they willfully prevented me from knowing my own siblings! I would hardly call that love! New York State stole my birth certificate and I’m not supposed to upset over that?” 

“I am an adoptive mother so I have a different opinion than you do,” Mary Arno declared smugly. 

I shouted back at her. “You did not give birth so your name does not belong on a birth certificate.” 

“That is your opinion!” Mary Arno snapped back at me. 

“It’s more than my opinion. I have 42 years of personal and professional experience in adoption reform. This is a global movement to eradicate adoption from the planet. Adoptees and mothers-of-adoption-loss are rising in protest against adoption.”

I told her I am fighting New York State for my right to my own birth certificate. She said I should do just that! As if I need her permission for my activism! 

Then Mary Arno said to me, “So, writing your memoir, that must have been a very cathartic experience for you.” 

Nice going. What a put-down. No, it actually was hard work. As if all adoptees who write memoirs write simply to “get it out of our systems” so “we can move on with our lives”. Hell, I wouldn’t wish this journey on my worst enemy. 

Somehow, I got through he two hour event by talking with people as they came up to the table. 

I sent Mary Arno a long email on the proper etiquette on how to talk with an adopted person. I encourage all adoptees and mothers-of-adoption-loss to do so as well. 

Here is the front and back of Mary Arno’s bookmark with her website and contact info – email and phone number. Yes, she lives in Buffalo, New York. 716- &&&-&&&&

comments 

Paula – January 4, 2017    –  Mary Arno read her like a book!! (pun intended!)

Ruth – January 4, 2017   –  ha ha ha

gertmcqueen – January 4, 2017   –  I’m quite sure that Mary Arno ‘knows’ what type Joan/Doris is alright! Unless someone is on the ‘same’ page as Joan/Doris, they are ‘bookmarked’ as enemy.

Ruth – January 4, 2017 – hmmm, Joan/Doris says “Somehow, I got through the two hour event …” – seems as tho I’ve read that line before – oh yeah, in her book, Joan is always just “getting through” events –because she ‘suffers’ so damn much!

Well, if she would treat people nicely, then people wouldn’t get mad at her, and then she wouldn’t have to SUFFER all the time.   but the ass NEVER learns that.

 gertmcqueen – January 4, 2017   – I can just image what that must have been like for the unfortunate ones that had to ‘deal’ with Joan/Doris as she ‘got through’ the event. Sure hope that the event organizers read my blog, for I sent them the link! and then J/D won’t have to worry about ‘suffering through’ another event

she ought to be banned from book signings January 3, 2017

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why does Joan/Doris do what she does? December 12, 2016

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check out this post….

https://gertmcqueen2.wordpress.com/2016/12/12/curiouser-and-curiouser-why-did-joan-m-wheelerdoris-m-sippel-do-it/

Con Artist Joan Mary Wheeler, now known as Doris Michol Sippel strikes again by peddling to an unsuspecting public a book with a new title, a new author-name, BUT THE SAME CONTENTS INSIDE. September 24, 2016

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There isn’t even an explanation on the product information page to the fact that she changed her name and the title, but the contents of the book is the same – this is called FRAUD. – see screen shots of the amazon site below.

On September 22, 2016 Joan Mary Wheeler has published a FOURTH version of her book Forbidden Family on kindle. This time under her new legal name of Doris Michol Sippel. AND she changed the title of the book AGAIN. This time it’s called Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity. Listed here are the three other versions of this ridiculous book:

Forbidden Family: My Life as an Adoptee Duped by Adoption – November 2, 2015

Forbidden Family: My Life as an Adoptee Duped by Adoption – June 2015 – kindle

Forbidden Family – November 2009 – paperback  

Each time she puts out another version – she changes things in the book. – Can this idiot EVER make up her mind as to what to name her obsession – her book that she has been revising over and over for more than 30 years, now has a NEW THIRD title. First it was called Forbidden Family, then it was called Forbidden Family, My Life as an Adoptee Duped by Adoption, now it’s called Forbidden Family, An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity.

Come on Joan, MAKE UP YOUR MIND.  

I get the fact that since she went to surrogate’s court and had her name legally changed from Joan Mary Wheeler to her original birth name Doris Michol Sippel, that probably a new edition of her precious obsession would reflect that – but WHY a new title?

It’s the same damn book – this is the THIRD time she’s published the same fucking thing with a different title each time – and each time, there are slight changes.

apparently that’s all she does with her life – re-writing and re-writing her manuscript.

My father told me once “that book will never be finished because she keeps revising it – changing it around and rewriting it.”

She wallows in her pain and hate and her book is her only life. – her life IS her preciousss book. 

I went on the amazon page and left this review: 

BAIT AND SWITCH – CON-ARTISTRY

 By Ruth Pace on September 23, 2016

this is classic bait and switch – I purchased previously the kindle edition of Forbidden Family Duped by Adoption by Joan Mary Wheeler a year ago – Ms. Wheeler had her name legally changed to Doris Michol Sippel in June 2016 – and then changed the title of the book to Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity. But this is the SAME EXACT BOOK AS THE PREVIOUS BOOK.

If the author wanted her book to reflect her name change, she should have made clear on the cover and on the selling site that this book “was previously published in its entirety as “Forbidden Family Duped by Adoption” under my adopted name Joan Mary Wheeler.”

bait and switch, scamming and thievery, con-artistry.

comment: Gert McQueen Sept 23 4:53pm

I also purchased the kindle and printed book of ‘duped by adoption’, last year! I have JUST repurchased the kindle and printed versions of this RIP OFF of the same old story! Because I want to have the evidence in my hands that this author is conning Amazon and readers out of their monies! If someone purchase ‘Duped by adoption’ by Joan M Wheeler, it is the SAME as this book (Struggle for Identity) the author ONLY changed her name NOT the contents of the book.  

And Gert McQueen also left a review on amazon:

Gert McQueen – Sept 24, 2016

I also purchased the kindle and printed book of ‘duped by adoption’, last year! I have JUST repurchased the kindle and printed versions of this RIP OFF of the same old story! Because I want to have the evidence in my hands that this author is conning Amazon and readers out of their monies! If someone purchase ‘Duped by adoption’ by Joan M Wheeler, it is the SAME as this book (Struggle for Identity) the author ONLY changed her name NOT the contents of the book.  

and we left these comments:

Ruth Pace Sept 24 5:35am

FRAUD – SMOKE AND MIRRORS

PUTTING A NEW NAME AND A PICTURE ON A NEW COVER OF AN IDENTICAL BOOK SOLD BEFORE UNDER A DIFFERENT NAME.

Gert McQueen Sept 24 5:48am

the previous version, ‘duped by adoption’ had an editor… Michael Allen Potter (Editor) why is he NOT on this version? And the ‘forward’ was written in 2006 and was NOT rewritten by Rene to reflect Joan’s name change to Doris! This entire presentation is FRAUD. This book needs to be removed from the buying market.  

I also left this statement as a discussion topic on her amazon author page: 

she published it under a new name and new title – FRAUD .

It’s the same exact book – new name, new title, peddling it under fraudulent means. In June 2016, Joan Wheeler legally changed her name to Doris Michol Sippel. On September 22, 2016, Joan self-published a new kindle version of this book, under a new title: Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity, and listed the author as her new name Doris Michol Sippel. And the new kindle version has a new cover photo.

The content of the book is exactly the same as this version – but Joan/Doris does NOT explain anything – instead of listing on the cover “previously published as Forbidden Family Duped by Adoption by her adoptive name Joan Mary Wheeler”

This is fraudulent activity. A person who bought the 2015 version might not know that the 2016 version is the same book because it’s listed under a totally different author name.

What kind of con-artistry and thievery is going on here?

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UPDATE OCTOBER 2016; as older posts are being seen I’m updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler (Doris Michol Sippel) says about me and family. The first book ‘Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism‘ was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor! Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and rewrote and republished the SAME crap in another book; a Third edition! CALLED ‘Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity’! Talk about conning people!

https://gertmcqueen2.wordpress.com/

this blog’s title/sub title is… DUPED BY ADOPTION & AN WOMAN’S STRUGGLE FOR IDENTITY, A BOOK STUDY an in-depth analyzes of the books called Forbidden Family; My Life as an Adoptee Duped by adoption & An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity by Joan M Wheeler/Doris M Sippel.

https://www.facebook.com/dupedbyadoptionStruggleforIdentity1/

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how many titles does JOAN M WHEELER need to let her lousy life story September 2, 2016

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and while she’s at telling her life story she slanders and libels every member of TWO FAMILIES.

 

https://gertmcqueen2.wordpress.com/2016/09/02/joan-m-wheelers-story-about-her-life-and-others-has-taken-on-many-forms-and-titles-over-the-years/

 

a new discussion topic August 17, 2016

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A new discussion on Amazon about the lousy book!

https://gertmcqueen2.wordpress.com/2016/08/17/a-new-discussion-topic-on-the-authors-page-of-forbidden-family-duped-by-adoption/

New interview about the Vulcan Travel Guide. August 4, 2016

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Ruth here: – off blog topic – but this book is fantastic! A travel guide to my favorite planet Vulcan. Don’t let a Vulcan’s cool logical demeanor fool you – Vulcans enjoy nightlife activities as much as any other species in the quadrant. I for one, dearly want to visit Okona’s Outrageous Emporium. Sounds like a real fun place!
here is the post from the author, Dayton Ward:

Yes, summer is winding down and kids will soon be heading back to school, but there’s still time left to sneak in one last quick vacation. Why not head to Vulcan? (Insert joke about Vulcan be…

Source: New interview about the Vulcan Travel Guide.

Joan Mary Wheeler and Brian T. Maloney – get out of my life before I have the authorities MAKE YOU LEAVE. August 2, 2016

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I HAVE NOT HAD TIME TO FUCK WITH JOAN MARY WHEELER AND/OR HER FUCKING PUPPET BRIAN T. MALONEY – and yet, these two mother fuckers have decided the end of June 2016 to begin checking me out – by stalking my LinkedIN page.  

So if Joan Mary Wheeler begins saying that I, Ruth, have been harassing her, bothering her, or any other shit – fuck that – she needs to shut her fuck lying mouth. I am not obligated to take her shit year after year.  

The past 10 months, since I have been retired, I have had little time for shenanigans. From the first day I retired, I’ve had to scramble to apply for social security, my pension, health care coverage for me, prescription coverage for my husband, dental coverage for both of us, get our life insurance policies straightened out (transistion from employer plan to private plan). It took 3 months to get all that in place. And things are still in a state of flux, since all this is temporary, as I have one more year until I turn 65 and will apply for Medicare. And get the various coverages in place AGAIN. 

From the time back in 2010 that I was switched (against my consent) from 8 hour work shifts to 12 hour work shifts) I have been too tired to keep up with housework. My wonderful husband John had stepped up to that role, but – and I hate to say it – he don’t clean right. But I was too exhausted to really step in. Now that I’m retired, I’ve been tackling the housework. First step – I totally cleaned out and organized my utility/laundry room.  

For the past two months, I’ve been going thru my wardrobe, seeing what fits, tossing what doesn’t fit – good enough for donation to thrift store? – laundered first, then sent off. Not good enough? cut up into rags. And all this during the hottest summer I’ve ever known. My second floor bedroom most times is hotter than the planet Vulcan. Very difficult to work in and try on clothes. So that project has been slow going. Still, I’ve emptied out one whole clothes dresser – cleaned the drawers, tightened the knobs, lined them with clean pretty wrapping paper, placed cedar blocks in to prevent insects. AND emptied out, cleaned, lined with tissue paper, added cedar blocks – 5 plastic storage boxes – 2 of sweaters – pullovers in one, cardigans in the other. Other storage boxes: 1 of my belly dancing veils and scarves, 1 of my belly dancing costume parts (bras, belts, headpieces, bracelets. 1 of dance/workout clothes (leotards, etc). 1 of slacks that are still good, but too small, but want to keep for when I lose weight. 

I’ve also started a project that has taken far longer than it should have – cleaning and staining the damaged hardwood floor of my living room. Section by section. Even though it will covered by a rug – the wood needed attention to prevent further damage. I’ve still got two small sections to do, then put down the rug, put the furniture back. The damn humidity prevents the stain from drying in a timely manner. 

THIS IS MY BUSY LIFE – JOAN AND BRIAN NEED TO STAY THE FUCK OUT OF IT. But I’m not too busy that I can’t march downtown and file harassment charges against the both of them if they don’t fucking leave me alone.

THOSE TWO LOSERS NEED TO GET LIVES OF THEIR OWN. ARE THEY SO FUCKING BORED WITH THEIR OWN MISERABLE SHIT LIVES THAT THEY HAVE TO START THE SHIT AGAIN? JOAN AND BRIAN – GET SOME DAMN PSYCHIATRIC HELP. 

things I’ve also done the past several months: Acquired on CD – the complete run of Lois Lane comic books, (and read them), done more digitizing of my music collection, – got many cassette tapes and many vinyl record done. Acquired and watched certain DVDs and gotten rid of the VHS tapes of such. And read several books.

AND bought a free-standing air conditioning unit that gets vented to the outside – and the window vent kit is a piece of shit that needed much modulation. Took me 3 days to adapt that damn thing for a double-hung casement window with separate storm windows.  

I’m a busy woman and I don’t waste my precious time on losers like Brian or Joan. they can fuck themselves as far as I’m concerned.

two comments from my facebook page:

Gert Mcqueen I retired in 2007 and had a wonderful time BEFORE that bitch wrote that first book…while my time and life is still so WONDERFUL…I have devoted enough time to debunk her BS and expose her for what she is. In the meanwhile, the very ACT of writing blogs has given me NEW skills in my retirement, learning more computer stuff, keeping my writing thinking brain active…so after all SHE has contributed to my WONDERFUL RETIREMENT and the best part is is that I’M IN CONTROL AND SHE IS NOT 

Ruth Herr Sippel Pace exactly. WE are in control of OUR lives. WE have had successful careers, have wonderful husbands/partners, are financially secure, and are happy and content in our lives. Joan certainly is not. And by the looks of Brian’s shriveled face (more drawn in from pictures of him from a couple of years ago), and considering he’s had one failed business attempt after another, one failed job after another, goes to a social event (Millard Fillmore’s Birthday Bash) in an old sweater with a moth-eaten frayed collar (despite his being the son of a prominnet and well-to-do attorney) AND foreclosed on his mortgage, – it appears as Brian also is not very content with his life.

They are both obviously jealous losers.

Joan Mary Wheeler’s puppet for her dirty work Chimp Brian T. Maloney of Williamsville is stalking me again. July 31, 2016

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Now I rarely go to my linkedin page. But I went there a few minutes ago. (July 31, 2016, around 10:30pm). And I see that one of Joan Mary Wheeler’s puppets, Chimp Brian Maloney stalked my page one month ago.  See screenshot below. And my sister Gert reports that he had also checked her LinkedIn page a month ago as well.

In case you forgot, or in case you never heard, Chimpy Brian is the asshole that Joan manipulated into doing her dirty work. He started his own blog to harass me and my sisters because Joan told him to. 

She filled his head up with bullshit – and when Joan contacted my job with lies to get me fired in November 2012, and I pressed harassment charges on her in January 2013, Ol Chimpy decided to get in on the action.  He even showed up in court to give ‘moral support’ to Joan. Newsflash Chimpy – Joan wouldn’t need ‘moral support’ if she’d stop calling my job and getting herself in trouble. – anyway, Ol Chimpy tried to enter the courtroom, but the bailiff told him he had to stay outside – and I loudly said “This man is a stranger to me, and has no business in my family’s business or my life.”

He then announced on his blog that if I didn’t “leave Joan alone” he was going to reveal on the internet, my “deep dark secret.”  

I told him via my blog, that I do not respond to emotional blackmail, and that if he had something to say – he should just go ahead and say it. BUT the Buffalo Police and the Erie County District Attorney would be very interested in this man, who never met me face to face, never spoke to me, does not know a thing about me, but knows a “deep dark secret” about me and is threatening to expose it on the internet. 

The ass backed down right away.

To this day, I have absolutely no idea what the fuck he was talking about.

But I’m saying right here and now – if Chimpy is trying to start trouble with me – all I need do is march right down to the DA’s office. 

Get a life Brian. Get a job, pay your bills, you lost your condo cos you foreclosed on your mortgage – so don’t you think you should pay attention to your own miserable life and stay out of mine? – ps – info on his condo and mortgage foreclosure is in Erie County public records – available in Erie County Hall, downtown Buffalo, NY and on their website. — when someone decides to fuck with me – I do detective work on them. And I will fuck with them right back. I don’t start trouble, but I damn well finish it. – Brian – there has been a truce between you and I for 3 years – don’t fucking start it again. I’m retired now – I can go downtown and file charges any day of the week. GET LOST!

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Here is the screenshot I took on July 31, 2016, showing that Brian stalked my page 1M ago – M means month on linkedin. AND it shows two linkedin members viewed my profile – but they opted to keep their identity private. I’ll bet you ten credits to navy beans that one (or both views) were by Joan herself. Now check out the dates – the last time my profile was viewed by a “private” member was June 25th, and then a month prior to today, July 31, Brian checked out my profile. Going back one month takes us to around the end of June/beginning of July – 5 days after a private member viewed my profile. — oh come on you two – grow the fuck up. Sigh, I suppose that loser Brian is stalking my facebook page as well. jackass.

Now, I must tell you readers something. YES, I have checked Brian’s linkedIn page in the past. WHY? Because as the injured party, as a person who has had lies told about her, by both Joan and Brian, I MONITOR what those fools write on the internet. And Gert does as well. 

yes, WE have checked their internet activity, but we are checking those assholes for evidence of further harassments. I explained this before on this blog – we check Joan’s online activities – because we NEED to know when she’s telling lies about us and/or our family. OUR family, Brian, not YOURS – butt out.

I also checked Brian’s facebook page in the past – I don’t like going there – for all his saying he’s a Reiki healer – what he posts on facebook is appalling – nothing but bigotry and hate. You can’t be a healer and carry all that hate around in your heart.  

You can’t be a healer and try to insert yourself into someone’s else’s life (mine) solely on the basis of lies told to you by someone else. Brian actually threw something in my face on his blog – about a fight I had with someone back in 1979! – I repeat – BRIAN MALONEY IS A STRANGER TO ME. HE HAS NEVER SPOKEN TO ME IN MY LIFE – The only time I laid eyes in person on him was the one time he appeared in court to lend ‘moral support’ to Joan when I pressed harassment charges on her. 

So, if Brian has never spoken to me, HOW DOES BRIAN T. MALONEY KNOW ABOUT A FIGHT I HAD WITH SOMEONE IN 1979? From Joan of course. But she says in her book that she doesn’t like people ‘gossiping’ about her – but she turns around and fills Brian the Chimp up with 37 YEAR OLD GOSSIP ABOUT ME and then this bully Brian puts that up on the internet?  

That’s the reason, no matter how distasteful it is, (cos I can’t stand to even look at that chimp’s picture – a dried up old skinny old bigoted man) – I will monitor his activities – because I don’t trust him.

I’m in the mood to aggravate Joan Mary Wheeler with my breathing. July 26, 2016

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This must be Joan Wheeler’s motto. And I guess I must really aggravate Joan Wheeler with my breathing. She blames me for everything.

I think I’ll go outside and breathe towards her house, which is like 5 miles away from me. When she wakes up in a few hours and sneezes, she won’t be made out to be a liar.

Oh, wait – is that even possible? Joan Wheeler lies more than Donald Trump.

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1. gertmcqueenJuly 26, 2016

wait!!! you live 5 miles away from her?? Oh Dear must be the story of her life…living so NEAR her birth family BUT never connected! This time of course it’s ALL HER FAULT. I left the city of MY BIRTH to get away from her!

 

2. RuthJuly 26, 2016

well, she was connected to her birth family until her own bad behaviors caused her to be UNconnected. She won’t take responsibility for her own words and actions – remember her tired old whine (in person, in her book, on the internet): it’s this person’s fault, that person’s fault, her birthsisters’ fault, and especially RUTH’S fault!
I am loving the power I have – that essentially everything bad in Joan’s life is MY fault.

 

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NEW POST power play and/or trauma July 24, 2016

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Gert here…

it’s always a good idea to keep on eye on my blog for new posts…

here’s the latest

https://gertmcqueen.wordpress.com/2016/07/21/is-it-another-power-play-by-joan-m-wheeler-this-time-to-take-mirahs-place-andor-is-there-really-trauma-in-being-adopted/

How many versions and revisions are there to the truth behind the Forbidden Family? #4 discussion topic July 13, 2016

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duped by adoption & an woman's Struggle for Identity, a book study

A new discussion topic, #4, by Ruth Pace. Getting right to it, for it speaks for itself!

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revision and revisions of the ‘truth’ – how many versions and revisions are there to the truth behind the forbidden family?

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Ruth Pace says:

The reason this is a “revised” book and self-published on amazon, is because when the first edition of Forbidden Family came out, there were blatant lies in it. The author signed a contract with Trafford Publications stating that her “non-fiction” book was truthful and she held the copyright to the work and all its contents. On the back cover was a family photograph taken at least a year before the author was born. actual date is not known, the author’s mother did appear to have a “full-size” belly, but the size of the child held in the author’s…

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Seeking enlightenment that may not exist… July 13, 2016

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words of wisdom??!! see this post

 

https://gertmcqueen.wordpress.com/2016/06/01/seeking-enlightenment-that-may-not-exist-joan-m-wheelers-duped-by-adoption-browbeating-and-insanity-at-its-best/

Joan M Wheeler hasn’t a clue, and doesn’t care, what the world thinks about her and her agenda! She must have her say! July 13, 2016

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Reclaiming the Sippel-Herr Family Honor

It’s really embarrassing, and at times, HARD TO WATCH, as she keeps on ‘digging in’ where she ought to just lay down and hide in the sands! Is she really that stupid NOT TO SEE what others are saying about her? Is she that BLIND to what is being said to her, over and over again, and NOT BY BIRTH SIBLINGS! When will this idiot SHUT UP? Never, of course!

Speaking ‘as a reader’, reading the comments, of Joan’s and others, I FELT the humiliation that Joan OUGHT to feel but doesn’t! She is totally unaware of how she is coming across! She comes across as a totally out-there nut-job on the outer fringes! When faced with an opposing view she attacks and when called out on it…well she attacks again. This is no way to gain support for one’s agendas! But she doesn’t care! She is right, the entire…

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why doesn’t Joan M Wheeler have her own column? June 20, 2016

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an example of how she doesn’t get that she is not helping herself or her cause

https://gertmcqueen2.wordpress.com/2016/06/08/why-is-it-that-joan-m-wheeler-duped-by-adoption-is-not-a-writer-for-huffington-post/

Postscript to My Story May 16, 2016

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Came across this blog post and this paragraph: 

“I just can’t imagine what these adoptees will feel when they grow up and realize that their story doesn’t belong to them to share when they are ready, if they are ever ready. Perhaps, by then, the concept and value of privacy will be seen as some long-ago old-fashioned value people held. I can’t imagine coming upon a story about the day I was born, nor the story about losing my birthright, my privacy, my agency about who could know the most intimate things about me and who I came from.” One person commented: “Sharing a story that is not ours to share is the ultimate disrespect.”

Joan Mary Wheeler “liked” this blog post. Hmmmm. Because it has to deal with the ‘privacy’ of adoptees. But Joan herself, cares little for the privacy of others. Her whole book Forbidden Family is one big invasion of privacy on her biological family, her adoptive family, even her own children’s privacy is not respected in her book!

The premise of her book is tell about HER adoption and HER efforts to reform the instituiton of adoption. So WHY are details of MY marriages, MY miscarriage, MY life, MY career in her book? Along with a bunch of LIES about me and those items.

She first published her libelous book in November 2009 and touted it as her ‘autobiography.’ After it was pulled from publication in May 2011 because I proved to the publisher that she lied about me in it, she self-published in 2015 and now peddles it as a ‘memoir’ so she can use the convenient excuse that it is how she ‘remembered’ things. Bullshit.

She has always complained about my blog – well, I have the right to tell MY story, especially since she told her version of my story first.

Let’s look at this sentence from the paragraph I quoted above: “I can’t imagine coming upon a story about the day I was born, nor the story about losing my birthright, my privacy, ” – Imagine my surprise in October 2009 that I see Joan commenting on an internet news site and giving out in great detail, the story of MY family’s life, and details of MY childhood! WTF? And on this news site, she announces the publication of this new book of hers, AND gives out the URL addy of her blog that she set up in the summer of 2009 to promote her book and write her other stuff.

She also had an adoptee buddy of hers put up a ‘promotion’ of the book on her blog. I tried to tell my side of the story – as opposed to the bull that Joan put on that news site, but the blog owner would not publish it. Well, her site, her rules.

I immediately ordered Joan’s book and got it within a few days. I flipped through it and saw lie after lie after lie and a couple of invasions of MY privacy. So I immediately went on the internet and started this blog. If Joan was going to invade MY privacy, well I needed a platform to tell MY side of the story. And we see how hypocritical Joan is – ‘liking’ a post that talks about privacy, yet she herself respects no one else’s privacy.

And in my blog – I pull no punches – I tell it like it is. And when needed, I offer proof of what I say – with internet screenshots, with photographs, with scans of documents and letters (and in many cases their envelopes).

Joan ‘shared’ MY life story in her book without my permission, and in many cases, lied and twisted things to smear my reputation. As the one commenter said ““Sharing a story that is not ours to share is the ultimate disrespect.” Since Joan has shown me gross disrespect, I owe her no respect in turn.

 

The adopted ones blog

After reading a horrible adoption story published in the NY Post written through the lens of the adopting parents, I realized, that I forgot to say how lucky I am in that post to being able to decide when (or not) to share My Story. 

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Why hasn’t Joan Mary Wheeler announced her legal name change? May 15, 2016

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Well, here it is just 3 days shy of one month that Joan Mary Wheeler appeared in Erie County Surrogate’s Court and had her name legally changed to the name she was given at birth: Doris Michol Sippel. Why hasn’t she made a formal public announcement of it? She says nothing about it on her facebook page, nor on her blog. – by the way, this name change is a matter of PUBLIC RECORD – it being recorded in Erie County’s PUBLIC records. So it is not against any law that I blog about this. As a matter of fact, when one seeks to legally change their name, an announcement of such is PUBLISHED in TWO (by law) publications. Usually they are published in legal newspapers, and the person changing their name has to pay for that.

On her facebook page, she made her cover picture a closeup of her original birth certificate showing her birth name. Her facebook page shows her name Joan Mary Wheeler, and in paranthesis Doris Michol Sippel. But she did that quite a while ago. On her blog she has her name as: Doris M Sippel – – – adopted as – – – Joan M Wheeler – but does not say anything about having her name legally changed. 

Why does she not want anyone to know of this name change? Wouldn’t this be counted as a major coup for an adoptee to reclaim their original name, their original identity? Why does Joan not want anyone in the adoption reform world to know what she has done? Was she not very happy on April 18, 2016 to have her legal name back to her birth name/identity? Was she not floating on air? Was she not full of victory and pride? So much so that she would want the whole world to know? To throw back her head in success and roar to the world: “I WON! LOOK AT ME – I DID IT!”  And to give hope to all those hopeless adoptees that a major success CAN BE ACHIEVED!  

For some reason, Joan doesn’t want anyone to know. WHY? Inquiring minds want to know.

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Joan Mary Wheeler has legally changed her name to Doris Michol Sippel May 12, 2016

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Legal Notice by Ruth B. Pace (nee Sippel) concerning Joan Mary Wheeler’s legal name change to Doris Michol Sippel May 12, 2016 

As of May 15, 2016, 3:56 pm, see date and time in the lower right hand corner of this screenshot) Joan Wheeler has NOT yet made the announcement to the world of her legal name change via her very important blog, about her very important achievement. So I did if for her. You’re very welcome Joan.

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UPDATE SEPT 2016; as older posts are being seen I’m (Gert) updating with links to my second blog and a Facebook page wherein I expose AGAIN the lies, fabrications and hate that Joan M Wheeler (Doris Michol Sippel) says about me and family. The first book ‘Forbidden Family, A Half Orphan’s Account of Her Adoption, Reunion and Social Activism‘ was pulled from publication by the publisher in May 2011. Then in 2015, she ‘self-published’ a ‘revised’ version calling it ‘Forbidden Family, an adoptee duped by adoption’. This woman has no shame no sense of family honor! Then in 2016 Joan changed her name back to her birth name and rewrote and republished the SAME crap in another book; a Third edition! CALLED ‘Forbidden Family: An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity’! Talk about conning people!

https://gertmcqueen2.wordpress.com/

this blog’s title/sub title is… DUPED BY ADOPTION & AN WOMAN’S STRUGGLE FOR IDENTITY, A BOOK STUDY an in-depth analyzes of the books called Forbidden Family; My Life as an Adoptee Duped by adoption & An Adopted Woman’s Struggle for Identity by Joan M Wheeler/Doris M Sippel.

https://www.facebook.com/dupedbyadoptionStruggleforIdentity1/

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