aha – we have the evidence and now everyone can see what a lying filthy snake Joan Wheeler is. March 7, 2011Posted by Ruth in Black and White Evidence of Joan Wheeler's Lies: Letters, Court Documents, Joan Wheeler Speak - how Joan views the world, Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
Tags: abuse, adoption, adoption reform, being downright nasty, blaming people for your own mess, bullying, cyberbullying, delusional thinking, delusions, dishonesty, elder abuse, embellishing the truth, emotional abuse, emotional blackmail, exploitation of a rape victim, false accusations, false accusations of sexual abuse, harassment of an adoptee's birth family, Lies, mental illness, mental instability, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements, spreading untruths, stupidity
aha – we have the evidence and now everyone can see what a lying filthy snake Joan Wheeler is.
by Ruth Sippel Pace
This was just sent to me via email, the entire exchange and what Joan Wheeler said on the Huffington Post. She continues with her lies that she had multiple orders of protection against me, when in reality she only ONE. In her delusional mind, and her diarrhea of the mouth, ONE equals MANY. (was she never taught arithmetic?) Also for your consideration is the outlandish and disgusting lie about my grandfather. Joan has now taken the Angry Adoptee too fucking far and shows the world what a BITCH she really is. And this is going to help adoption reform? No! Rational people in congress and supreme court will NOT look at the rantings and ravings of such an irrational delusional liar as Joan Wheeler. For the love of god Joan, SHUT THE F UP!
Joan M Wheeler
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Commented Mar 4, 2011 at 16:32:42 in Health
You can search my names on Google, read every comment and post I ever wrote, send follow-up comment postings and email to instigate and aggravate me. You don’t want me in your life so stay out of mine.
You are a destructive force in the goals that I, and other adoption reformers, want to achieve.
I have gone to the police repeatedly to try to stop you. Orders of Protection only work for six months or one year, then, you are back again. New York State does not have Internet Bullying Laws. If New York did have these laws, I would have all three of my sisters arrested and convicted for causing me emotional and financial distress.
My three sisters do prove my point that separating siblings, especially after the death of a parent during childhood, damages the children who bring their mental anguish into adulthood.
My siblings have been inflicting their sick perversions and twisted obsessions upon me and my children and my adoptive mother since 1974. It appears that they will continue this right into old age and death. That is how mentally sick they are.
For adoption reform: http://forbiddenfamily.com”
Commented Mar 4, 2011 at 16:21:24 in Living
Commented Mar 4, 2011 at 16:15:12 in Living
Commented Mar 4, 2011 at 16:14:21 in Living
Fact is that is that my older sisters were molested by our grandfather and they think I escaped by being adopted. So they blame me for being an adoption activist. They were not adopted, I was, and they weasel into my life every chance they get.”
Commented Mar 4, 2011 at 16:09:53 in Living
I filed for yet another Order of Protection in 2005, after yet more unwanted contact. Charges were dismissed because the judge was tired of it all. Since I cannot get the police to help me, nor a court of law to defend me, and I cannot reason with any of my three full blood sisters. I want to be left alone.”
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace on Mar 4, 2011 at 17:57:15
If any one is interested in the TRUTH, these posts on my blog, contain scanned actual court documents that PROVE that what JW says here, March 4, 2011 is LIES and again is SLANDERING me and my sisters.
I, Ruth Sippel Pace maintain my right to answer JW’s smearing of MY reputation.
If Joan wants to silence me on the internet the solution is obvious: JW needs to stop spreading false accusations about me and my sisters.”
Commented Mar 4, 2011 at 16:04:13 in Living
There are no cyberbullying laws in New York State so I cannot call law enforcement for protection. I have been the victim of harassment and bullying from my three sisters for many decades. They have taken disagreements to the extreme.
I have no contact whatsoever with the three sisters who found me. They are mean and unstable people. I want only positive and loving people in my life. My sisters have caused a great deal of torment in my life, but they are not the focus of my reunion nor my life. I, alone, am the adoptee. My book is about my life and how adoption effected me and my immediate adoptive family, my now ex-husband, and our children.”
Commented Mar 4, 2011 at 14:39:07 in Health
About my adoption: Our mother died when I was three months old. Our father placed me with my adopting parents one month later and I was legally adopted at age 1 year and 1 week. There facts are documented in my adoption papers which I petitioned for legally.”
Commented Mar 4, 2011 at 11:29:45 in Health
Exactly. So why don’t we start legislation across the USA to stop this practice? Someone has to put a stop to it. Access legislation makes no sense when the cycle is not broken. Stop producing false birth certificates, start producing truthful adoption certificates, and we will eventually see that there is no need for sealed records. So, where’s the new legislation to end the cycle? Get on it!!!”
Commented Mar 3, 2011 at 12:59:47 in Health
Keeping secrets as deep as the true identity of your adoptee is surely indicative of a controling and insecure adoptive parent. You don’t need to be so possessive and afraid if you parented your adoptee with love. But I see that you are angry and paranoid. You did adopt someone else’s child and for that, you have evvery obligation to tell the truth: morally, ethically, religiously, and legally. To base any relationship on lies is a set-up for disaster and pain. I feel sorry for you and your husband and your adoptee. You truley are ignorant of life-cycle adoption psychology. Shame on you. As an adoptive parent you owe it to yourself to read Nancy Verrier’s books on what the adoptee experiences. This isn’t about you, this is about the adoptee!”
Commented Mar 3, 2011 at 12:51:18 in Health
My amended birth certificate states all the birth facts: date and time of birth, and hospital, but I am re-named as if I were born with that name, and my adoptive mother is named as having given me birth. That is an outright lie! The one birth fact left off of my falsified birth certificate is that there were 4 other children born to the real mother. But I am forced to present this document as proof of my birth. I resent it.
In addition to giving back a civil right to own our original birth certificates, I would like to see the elimination of the amended birth certificate as an automatic dictate upon adoption. Instead, replace the amended and falsified birth certificate with an adoption certificate which states the facts of adoption. Leave the birth certificate alone and open to the adoptee. The adoption certificate should be open, too. This is the way it is done in more progressive countries such as The Netherlands and Australia.”
Commented Mar 3, 2011 at 12:50:23 in Health
I am not grateful to be adopted. Why would I? My adoptive parents knowingly and willingly prevented me from knowing my own full blood siblings during my childhood and that is child abuse. Yes, my natural father relinquished me to adoption when I was 4 months old just after the death of my mother. He kept the other 4 children. That alone is hurtful, but my adoptive parents knew my father and open visitation could have been arranged. But my so-called loving adoptive parents kept me all to themselves, alone, in their sheltered cocoon of adoption-love. I should have been told the truth.
Now about the birth certificate issue: I was born the 5th child to married parents. My original birth certificate states that there were 4 other children born to this mother. I was given a name and my long form birth certificate states the date and time of birth in the hospital. My natural father gave this document to my adopting parents when he relinquished me.
(end of part 1)”
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace on Mar 4, 2011 at 14:20:35
Second, JW states “I should have been told the truth.” JW should begin by telling the truth in all posts on the internet. She was not 4 months old when she was adopted, but 3 months.”
Miss Morgan B Aird on Mar 3, 2011 at 17:35:48
You were blessed to be adopted, regardless of how you feel now. I do not know anything about my biological parents and it isn’t until now (26 years later) my adoptive mom wants to seriously talk,other than when I was a child. I have a biological brother that is only 16 months older than me (which she kept), but I love both my parents just the same, because I am here and I am wonderful!”
Commented Feb 22, 2011 at 11:31:59 in New York
A wallet stolen 40 years ago and returned to the rightful owner certainly has sentimental value. The person who found the wallet felt “fantastic satisfaction” by giving back the wallet after all these years.
But what of adoptees who have had their identities at birth stolen from them? Shouldn’t they be the beneficiaries of a society who now realizes the tremendous sentimental value of obtaining one’s own birth certificate? Currently, New York and New Jersey are preventing millions of adoptees from accessing their sealed original birth certificates by refusing to pass legislation that would reunite adoptees with their original birth certificates.
Give adoptees back their civil rights to the truth of their births. Change the law. Let’s make human interest stories out of the positive outcomes that would result from reuniting an adoptee with the true certificate that documents the day they were born.
Joan Wheeler born Doris Sippel”
Commented Feb 11, 2011 at 10:44:53 in Living
Gert McQueen on Feb 14, 2011 at 09:24:12
The recent ‘pain’ is because of the lying book that Joan wrote about all family members and non-members in her quest for laying the blame of her miserable life on the doorstep of adoption.
I divorced myself from this woman back in 1982 because of what she did to my family, because I ‘adopted’ my own son and she didn’t like that and my telling her to leave me and my family alone. Ten years later, I attempted a reconcilation, in person, she again betrayed me, attacking my mental health and religion and then another attempt by me by phone in 2005 again was met with more betrayal, she thought I was looking for information to ‘get her’.
I am in no pain…Joan is…because she can not stop the truth, that we sisters are saying, on our blog. If the truth hurts, it is not my family that is hurting, only Joan because she refuses to accept the truth of the life that she was given.”
Ruth Herr Sippel Pace on Feb 12, 2011 at 16:34:56
My sister and I have a blog refuting Ms. Wheeler’s book at http://ruthsippelpace.wordpress.com/ where we tell WHY our reunion went sour.”
Gert McQueen on Feb 12, 2011 at 10:13:36
The truth about Joan’s book is that is is an extremely long painful account of the author’s own perceptions of her reality where in she fabricates, exaggerates and boldly lies about people and events. She describes her own character flaws presenting them as reasons for why she believes she has been traumatized by adoption and in that process doesn’t realize the harm she has done to herself and others. She portrays both the birth and adoptive families is very negative ways and claims to be harassed by us birth sisters. She does not tell of her own negative actions towards the birth sisters or many other people. The author is violently opposed to adoption and adoptive parents and is not truly interested in helping people,
My sisters and I are not hiding anything we say or do about refuting her book or other actions she has said or done to us; we put everything we do on our blog for it is a truth-telling blog. It is the birth sisters’ position that the fact of a publication of a book of lies and misrepresentation is an grave dishonor to our parents, ourselves and other members of our family and the adoptive family.”
Commented Oct 6, 2010 at 13:03:52 in Living
The primal wound is very much a part of my life, longing for closeness that was taken from me so soon after birth because I almost died and had to be kept in medical isolation to bring up my weight and physical development. Soon after I was released from the hosptial, my mother died, which led to my relinquishment and adoption.
Thank you for your article.
However, I would hardly call adoption “wonderful”: “Adoption is a wonderful way to start and have a family.” Be careful. Adoption as practiced in America is filled with destruction. If adoptive parents would truely be open and honest with their adoptee (mine were not) and adoptees’ the birth certificate are not sealed and falsified, and if connections with the family of origin are not severed…then adoption would become guardianship. Ever here of family preservation?
I am for total and complete adoption prevention.
Joan M Wheeler born Doris M Sippel
Joan Wheeler: you are a disgusting piece of shit after what you said on the Huffington Post March 7, 2011Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family.
Tags: abuse, being downright nasty, bullying, cowardice, delusional thinking, delusions, Disrespect, elder abuse, emotional abuse, exploitation of a rape victim, false accusations, harassment, harassment of an adoptee's birth family, Lies, mental illness, mental instability, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements, stupidity, willful intent to emotionally harm a person
by Ruth Sippel Pace
So this idiotic neurotic nutball has the nerve to say on the internet that her birth sisters were sexually molested by their grandfather. What a lowdown bitch she is.
First, this never happened. Joan keeps scraping the bottom of her filthy black heart to come up with lies to use against her birth sisters.
Second, even if it were true, how would you dare to post this – what a filthy bitch Joan is – this is called exploitation of a rape victim, and is the lowest a person could go in a smear campaign.
Yes, what Joan did is to try to exploit a rape victim, even if the event never happened, it is Joan’s INTENT – she wanted to hurt us. Why would anyone want to try to hurt another human being in this fashion? – Joan has no morals. And she proves it when she wrote another filthy lie about her birth family in her continual smear campaign against her birth sisters and true to her ELDER ABUSING character, she sullies the character of my elderly grandfather, a man who having died 52 years ago, is no longer around to defend himself.
What kind of immoral bitch are you Joan? Please take your delusions and shove them.
Adoption reformers: take a good look at Joan Mary Wheeler. do you like what you see?
Gert McQueen answers the latest lowdown slandering of the Sippel Sisters done by Joan Wheeler March 7, 2011Posted by Ruth in Joan Wheeler's abuse and harassment of her birth family, mental illness, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements.
Tags: abuse, being downright nasty, bullying, cowardice, delusional thinking, delusions, Disrespect, emotional abuse, emotional blackmail, exploitation of a rape victim, false accusations, harassment, harassment of an adoptee's birth family, Lies, mental illness, mental instability, Refuting Joan Wheelers statements, spreading untruths, stupidity